My fiance and her ex have been talking the past few nights for over an hour at a time and I know her ex still has feelings for her and she says she still loves him but would never be with him. I've asked her to stop but she just turns it around on me saying I have nothing to worry about and how I need to trust her. She even leaves the house sometimes to talk. Any thoughts?
2006-10-14 00:10:36 · 19 answers · asked by cheat9273 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
uh oh...u r in trouble...y dont u try to tell her ..(mind u ..u have be very very polite and not whiny/sarcastic or anything like that) that them talking like that disturbs u...btw..if she loves him..then y the h...r u marrying her??...dont u have any self respect??
2006-10-14 00:16:27 · answer #1 · answered by v v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love comes in many forms. I love my husband and we are separated. I love him as a spouse and friend but he only cares for me as a friend, so i have to adjust my feelings towards him...so eventually when we do get divorced, I will still talk to him and will still love him as a friend. yes, we do have children together. We have even agreed to be neighbours for the benefit of the kids.
The bottomline of your situation is that you don't trust he, that's why you're posting here. He is an ex for a reason. Sometimes, no matter how you love someone, you know that he will never be the man you want to spend your life with. There is a FAULT that her ex has that she can never reconcile, that's why he is an ex. She's with you now for a reason too. Yes I am sure she stil;l has feelings for him, afterall they spend a good amount of time together. Caring for someone doesn't just go away. The longer the relationship lasted, the longer it'll take for changes to take place. When you say "feelings" what aspect of it do you mean? As a friend? As a lover? As a brother?
She is with you for the strengths you have and for the love you give her. Take pride in that. All women wants to be loved. Do what you do best.
2006-10-14 00:40:28 · answer #2 · answered by ikusburples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thoughts????? One that occurs is that your fiance shouldn't be engaged. A woman that says she still loves the ex BUT Actually, the but is immaterial. She and the ex DO have fellings for each other. She has told you straight out that she ISN'T going to quit talking to him, and even meets him to "talk". You have three basic choices. End the engagement, put up with the idea that the woman you plan to marry has a man in her life that is more important than your feelings, or you can lie to yourself and believe that everything is fine. No matter which choice you make, I doubt you will end up married to her. Unless of course, you are OK with a marriage that comes with a built in boyfriend.
2006-10-14 00:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's not right. Yes you need to have trust, but come on, what is so important that they have to talk that much or maybe meet to talk? They are over. History. If she thinks you should trust her, then why doesn't she let you go with her when she meets with him? That would totally prove it plus you can see them in action, how they react to each other. I don't think that it's right at all. I'd ask what is so pressing that they have to have all these conversations.
2006-10-14 00:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by lazycat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she still has feelings for the ex......how come she never consider your feelings, that you will eventually be hurt. she is selfish. if she loves you then she will know if it'll bother you. because an ex is an ex, no matter what they have past. its ok if it was just a small talk but youe story is something i have to worry about.
2006-10-14 00:24:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to let her kno ex or not that she is soon to be your wife. She shouldnt be on the fone with any man besides u for ANYTHING especially an ex. U should be worried, 4 all u kno they could b plotting some conspiracy against you
2006-10-14 00:26:28 · answer #6 · answered by caligurrl3634 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't respect your feelings, don't trust her. I'd trust her that nothing is going on now, but on a stressful day in the future or on a day that you have argued no. I'd bet she'll go get her comfort somewhere else especially since they admit to loving each other.
2006-10-14 00:15:10 · answer #7 · answered by tyreanpurple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can look at it from two angles...one if there's children involved and if that's the case give them the benefit of the doubt. but on the other hand it doesn't sound like thats the case and yes I would be worried...and don't believe that crap about trusting her....Never let your guard down..remember they have a history together....
2006-10-14 00:17:16 · answer #8 · answered by Mechelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are uncomfortable with this behavior. My feeling is the more I'm told don't worry it makes me worry more.
You have the right to ask her to stop. Tell her that ,for you, nothing good can come of her continued conversations with him. Tell her it is interfering with your relationship. If she values that she will stop. If not ,then you know her answer.
2006-10-14 00:53:57 · answer #9 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 07:08:10 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is little you can do. She has told you that she does not care that you are upset. You may have to reiterate this and tell her that it upsets you. If she refuses to stop even though it is clear that her actions are hurting you what sort of person does that make her?
2006-10-14 00:13:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋