i can only seem to hold off for about 10 days before giving in, and end up frustrated afterwards as hubby only lasts a few minutes!!!
2006-10-13 23:22:03 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why do you want to hold off honey? You say you end up frustrated. That's not good. And he can't last long so it looks as if he's frustrated too. Answer is obvious, have it as often as you can. That will improve the passion, and that will improve your orgasms. And it should improve your relationship too. As you say you are holding off I presume he wants it more often. Lucky you! Go for it girl! It will put a smile on his face and yours. Maybe a spring in his step, but he may get a bit tired. And, it will stop any thoughts of looking for it elsewhere. "Giving in" is not a good phrase. Don't you want it? If it has got a bit of a chore spice it up honey. Make his eyes bulge! Why not treat yourself to some outrgeous undies or bedrom wear. He will be puzzled at first but if you play the sl ut he will soon respond. Drive him wild and you will get the benefit. Men may complain that we are acting cheap, but they don't realise it takes a lot of effort to look really cheap! And they love it really. Just look at the magazines and newspapers they read! Seduce him and once he is over the shock you are gonna get orgasms you only dream about. Trust me, if he won't respond, 'cos they all do, there must be another problem, but you say he wants it so give it to him and take your own pleasure too. The only down side is that the first time he will get so excited he will last even a shorter time, but that will improve as he looks forward to it and gets used to the idea that you are one sexy woman. Life's too short to miss an orgasm! That's my motto but you can use it if you like!
Best of luck, Joan.
2006-10-14 01:05:32 · answer #1 · answered by Joan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absence seems a silly way to go and likely to cause you both problems. While you have sex with your body you have orgasm with your mind so sex play is very important. Hubby should see to you first if he is a preemie ejaculator. His GP might be able to help as there are medications which can help him.
In the meantime I suggest he could try stimulating you to orgasm a few times before he engages in sex. If he is broad minded then some sex lube and a rabbit (vibrating dildo) will help you both as it will be great for you and easy for him. Experiment with your sex life, things may not always work but it is great fun trying... LOL!!! xxx
2006-10-14 08:02:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think waiting can make it a lil painful. But I also think building up passion is great too. Two possible solutions to your minute man 1I think you should make love with him slowly. Try getting him close to orgasm and then stopping and kissing or rubbing. baby steps to get him to build stamina. (communication here is key he should let you know before he is going to orgasm. Unless you can already tell :) ) 2. after the first round get some lubricant and try for round 2 get him aroused (erect) by any means to please him, and U. Men seem to go longer in round 2.
Hope that works for ya.
2006-10-14 06:31:06 · answer #3 · answered by C T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think so. I think that, in order to achieve more passion etc., you should maybe try changing the sexual enviroment and maybe try something such as playing romantic music while doing it etc. Sometimes building up a desire in yourself will help but, for sure, this accumulated desire combined with a more romantic enviroment will bring the ultimate pleasure. Oh yes, try taking in some aphrodisiacs.
Good luck!
2006-10-14 06:28:52 · answer #4 · answered by Romeo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man's ability to last long and wait for the wife to orgasm with him ahead or at the same time as he does often depends on the position where he is able to control it and wait for the woman.
2006-10-14 09:18:11 · answer #5 · answered by seabug_46 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way you need to explore each other lots more,the longer you have been having sex with yr partner the better it usually gets.
Are you and your husband open with each other do you both know what makes the other tik,dont make him wait such a long time,no wonder he dont last long, maybe spend a little time on yourself and get to grips with your own body exp;ore yourself if you and your husband love each other deeply orgasms should be powerfull and not need thinking about so much.
2006-10-14 06:39:11 · answer #6 · answered by robertboozychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well then stop holding off. That is the problem right there. He is not getting it enough and when he does he is like a bomb getting ready to go off at any minute.
2006-10-14 13:11:25 · answer #7 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be trying to hold off for 10 days,its not a contest,talk to the poor guy about what you need,show him if need be,he will love it,trust me.
2006-10-14 06:31:21 · answer #8 · answered by Cool Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, too much of a good thing becomes boring but you could try to releive your hubby in other ways if you are saving yourself, as it sounds to me as though he needs regular 'lovin' LOL.
2006-10-14 06:25:49 · answer #9 · answered by sue l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definetely. Me and my woman went 4 days without and when we did it, it was trully amazing. Get some baby oil involved n let me know how it went.....good luck
Oh...and if you think your going to blow quickly, make sure you have a good few vodka's before you start...trust me, you last much longer...well i do anyway
2006-10-14 06:41:16 · answer #10 · answered by Lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋