do you ever break down bc. of that one special relationship in your past that just didn't work out?

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Answer 1

Every single day, I feel miserable, angry and mad at myself for not realising what i had when i had it, it breaks my heart, sometimes i wish i could go back to the past and do things so diffrently, it hurts every day.

Answer 2

There is one that really hurt me.. actually I mean really CRUSHED me.. for a long time.. It was right that we broke up as we weren't compatible for the long run, but at times it was a very fun relationship and he was a great guy.. what anyone would describe as a great catch.. there was nothing that could've changed the situation and we have been out of each others lives for a long time, but I do find myself comparing other guys to his good points.. which I don't think is as bad as it sounds, because his good points are things that I would want in a man, so it's good to have an idea of what you are looking for. But sometimes.. once in a while, I will look at that past relationship with rose colored glasses again, wishing it had worked out and leaving out the painful memories so that I wonder why I let him go.. Of course if I look at it rationally I know we weren't meant ot be together.. but this doesn't change the fact that sometimes I think about the good times and break down because they are gone for good. (When we broke up we didn't stay friends even though we had said that we would.) Being honest that was the hardest part. The man had been my closest friend for a while. We told each other EVERYTHING about what was going on in our lives and how we felt about family/friends/strange experiences/work/school/... there aren't many friendships that are like the open one that we had... and I haven't met many people like him.. there are some days when I don't know where to turn or who to talk to and ask for advice, then I think of him, because I know that when that part of our relationship came into play, he was always there for me, no matter the bad parts of our relationship.. I miss his friendship most of all.. and spontaneity.. and interesting conversations.. he was very self-confident and it was catchy.. (ok.. almost or really pretty arrogant) but I was such a shy/timid person at the time, that it was really nice to be around someone with so much more confidence.. He usually brought out the best in me and isn't that what we hope for in a partner.. anyway.. the short answer to the question.. is yes.. I certainly do.. sometimes..

Answer 3

Yes. You have to accept that that person doesn't love you. You have to begin to let go. :-( The longer you hang on it, the longer it will hurt. Let the tears flow. Keep a journal about your feelings. When you keep a journal, you will begin to understand that it was never meant to be.

Take good care of yourself. Build a good support system for yourself. Allow yourself to go through all the stages of grief, and write in your journal with each title:

Five Stages Of Grief
1. Denial and Isolation.
At first, we tend to deny the loss has taken place, and may withdraw from our usual social contacts. This stage may last a few moments, or longer.

2. Anger.
The grieving person may then be furious at the person who inflicted the hurt, or at the world, for letting it happen. S/He may be angry with him/herself for letting the event take place, even if, realistically, nothing could have stopped it.

3. Bargaining.
Now the grieving person may make bargains with God, asking, "If I do this, will you take away the loss?"

4. Depression.
The person feels numb, although anger and sadness may remain underneath.

5. Acceptance.
This is when the anger, sadness and mourning have tapered off. The person simply accepts the reality of the loss.

Grief And Stress:
During grief, it is common to have many conflicting feelings. Sorrow, anger, loneliness, sadness, shame, anxiety, and guilt often accompany serious losses. Having so many strong feelings can be very stressful.

Yet denying the feelings, and failing to work through the five stages of grief, is harder on the body and mind than going through them. When people suggest "looking on the bright side," or other ways of cutting off difficult feelings, the grieving person may feel pressured to hide or deny these emotions. Then it will take longer for healing to take place

Recovering From Grief
Grieving and its stresses pass more quickly, with good self-care habits. It helps to have a close circle of family or friends. It also helps to eat a balanced diet, drink enough non-alcoholic fluids, get exercise and rest.

Most people are unprepared for grief, since so often, tragedy strikes suddenly, without warning. If good self-care habits are always practiced, it helps the person to deal with the pain and shock of loss until acceptance is reached.

Answer 4

ANY TIME I FEEL DOWN,LONELY OR DEPRESSED I THINK ABOUT THAT ONE, BUT OBVIOUSLY THAT "ONE" WASNT MEANT TO BE, BECAUSE IF IT WAS, THEN I WOULD NEVER BREAK DOWN AND MISS IT BECAUSE WE WOULD STILL BE TOGETHER, RIGHT! THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE FOR EVERYONE AND AS SPECIAL AS YOU THINK THAT ONE WAS, ONE WILL COME ALONG, THE ONE THAT IS MEANT TO BE, AND THAT ONE WILL BE BETTER THAN YOU COULD'VE EVER THOUGHT IT WOULD BE. BUT ONLY IF ITS THE "ONE". IM STILL WAITING FOR MY "ONE" BUT IN THE MEANTIME, IM NOT SETTLING FOR LESS. IF HE IS NOT THE ONE, I WILL KNOW AND THE ONLY WAY TO KNOW IS BY HOLDING OUT....WOMEN CANNOT HAVE BOOTY CALLS!!! SO SAVE YOUR EMOTIONS AND YOUR LOVE FOR THE ONE!!! DONT WASTE IT ON ANYONE ELSE, BECAUSE YOU MIGHT END UP WASTING MORE OF YOURSELF ON ANOTHER ONE THAT ISN'T THE "ONE"!!!

Answer 5

Never, because theirs so many other hot girls out there. I mean 3 billion girls out there.. why worry about one?? and the one relationship u had that didnt work out??

move on'

Answer 6

Never,I learn from my own experiences. I dont expect everything in life to be perfect so I move on and whats meant to be for me is inevitable.

Answer 7

im glad it didnt work out because she wasnt on my side anyway.

Answer 8

yes, when I'm alone