I love him alot but everyday it's a different story.This will be my third 3rd kid, my oldest ain't his. But he also has another kid with someone else. And he always brings up the past w/me but dosen't look @ himself w/the past. He left cause of (the past) that he just found out. But theirs so much past that i found about him and i let it go because i love him. I don't know what to do. What should i do?
2006-10-13 22:03:12 · 9 answers · asked by CRISTY B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have a mess, and whenever there is a mess it needs to be cleaned up.
If he's someone who wants/needs to make an issue out of any past you have, and if he left because of whatever past he found out about, you should just decide to do your own thing and let him go. You can't change the past, so if he doesn't like it you can't do anything to make it undone. If he changes his mind and decides the past thing isn't worth breaking up over, you won't know if he'll change his mind again later or if he'll dig up some other thing to leave over the next time.
If you found out about "so much past" he has maybe you'd be better off without someone with all that past.
I think you should have your baby, raise your three children, and enjoy them and your life with them; and hold off on bringing in any new boyfriends until you are older and they are older. You could go on an occasional date, but I think you should just build your life with your children for the near future.
If this guy shows up to visit the children, fine. Have a nice visit, go out for a picnic or to the beach with him and the kids; and then let everyone go back to their own place when the nice day is over.
People so often get all wrapped up in boyfriends and girlfriends they put their children in second place. I'm not saying you're doing this at all, but your children do need to come first; and I don't think the situation you describe is an indication that this guy is "Mr. Right".
2006-10-13 22:12:09 · answer #1 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There sure to be a past for everyone. You did the right thing cause if you love that someone you will not look at the past but the future. Get yourself up ... u don't need such men I believe when u meet the right person he'll not mind the past.
2006-10-14 05:21:31 · answer #2 · answered by Sob Sob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do for yourself is to focus on you and your children. Give them all the love in the world and let them know they are important, then love yourself. There is nothing wrong with being a strong and independent woman! It's great for you and even better for your kids. Worry about taking care of you first, then maybe things will workout with him, but if not, you have taken care of you.
2006-10-14 05:07:44 · answer #3 · answered by Tell me something useful 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To make your relationship work he really needs to forget about the past. Even if he had a bad past you need to forget it to, and look to the future. The past can haunt us sometimes , it he's having a problem with it there are places that he can go to for help and advise good luck with the pregnancy
2006-10-14 05:08:46 · answer #4 · answered by Ruby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love him, but your love for him is not enough for him to accept you as you are.
Forget the past, move one, leave him, learn from your mistakes and try not to commit the same mistake again.
He left you because he got you pregnant, and he is not responsible enough to face it, just like what he did in his past, so it is clear that you can't rely on him.
2006-10-14 05:21:14 · answer #5 · answered by firedragon_luver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have 2 get ur live straight maybe because ur 2 childrens trit him really bad being meen 2 him? u have 2 find out or u should just have 2 talk 2 him !! and get it right !!! if u dont have him under control that really bad u never know what else he doing !
2006-10-14 05:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its up to you weather you keep the kid, but i wouldn't have him back, the man sounds a right fool and if he can't let go of the past he just isn't worth it and obviously will never change.
2006-10-14 05:07:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop looking to the past
2006-10-14 05:05:08 · answer #8 · answered by johnno K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should b worrying about you and bub at the moment.It sounds like your partner needs counciling if he cant forget the past.Move on time is to short to b worrying about him is my advice if it doesnt work him talkin about it.
2006-10-14 06:07:23 · answer #9 · answered by cowgirl angie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋