I've said and done some pretty awful things that I regret, and that have hurt people. I didn't mean for anyone to get hurt and at the time didn't see how it could, but somehow someone always does. I look down on myself for alot of stuff I did, and even though my family doesn't mention it much I feel like they always expect me to screw up. I can't let myself move on and i have tried to do right but always end up repeating my mistakes, how can I move on?
2006-10-13 20:56:37 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just try to forget about the past, time is the cure... They will forget if they realise that you want to change, that you will not repeat the same mistakes...
2006-10-13 20:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by Lady G. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I 401 a guy called Agathon who was a writer of tragic plays said "Not even God can change the past". It was true then and its true now. You can't spend your life beating yourself up for what's gone by. That itself is an indulgence, one you should have no time for in order to restart your life. Now you've had some time to be introspective, you've decided that you want to re-civilise your life. That's the first step, the hardest step - so good for you so far. That epiphany, realisation or desire to leave behind that tangle of mistakes and better yourself is one that many people never reach. Brian Aldiss said that Civilization is the distance man has placed between himself and his excreta. A kinder version comes from Corinthians in the bible : "When I was a child I spake as a child... now I put aside childish things". First, realise that everybody makes mistakes when they are young, and many have regrets. Forgive yourself that - none of us are born experts at life. You are only as dirty or as clean as the person you try to be, not the person you were or have been. If you're a religious person, remember the theif who was reprieved on the cross as he was preparing to draw his last breaths. If you're not a religious person, the desire to suceed, to be the best you can be is a natural and healthy drive that even the most basic animals strive for. Ask yourself - Who are you? The answer is that you are not the result of your failures, your failures are merely symptom of your stumbling about in the darkness of doubt. Now you've decided to light your way, it'll be clearer sailing from here on.
2016-05-22 00:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by Lizabeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your first step by admitting every negative thing you have said or done to people or yourself. No one is perfect we all make mistakes. It's the maturity in you that will change you. After awhile your mind and body will tell you your tired of being the person you are and you want to change and you can. Just work at it and always have a positive mind. Time heals and people change. Your time now is to change for the better. It will take some time but you will become the better person, despite what anyone tells you. You will move on and be a happier and nicer person. Anything is possible. I believe in you! Good luck!
2006-10-13 21:07:23 · answer #3 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one is perfect including you! We all make mistakes! Yes, they vary with the individual! How to move on
01. Accepting that you made a mistake
02. Try to correct it
03. Own up to it
04. Ask for forgiveness
05. Learn to forgive your self
06. Strive not to do it again
Your actions speak louder than your words! When your actions say you have changed then your on your way!
2006-10-13 21:34:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I done some awful things in the past but i always learn from them. Now I feel better about my self because I let it go its not worth holding the regret inside. it just stops you from being happy. if somebody makes you feel worse inside dont worry. just take your mind off of it by listening to music soemthing that keeps u going...I listen to celine- thats the way it is...it makes me feel stronger. and another what keeps me moving on is AMUSING my self lol...i laugh at stupid things. ...i know how u feel if u need advice IM me if you like
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PS. If you really want to move on. You gotta put your mind to it.
2006-10-13 21:34:20 · answer #5 · answered by Maria AKA one of a kind 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are supposed to learn from your mistakes...and then use that knowledge to not repeat your mistakes.
1. acknowlege mistakes
2. forgive yourself
3. ask for forgiveness
4. don't repeat the mistakes
5. change something, do something a different way (in constructive ways)
6. do random acts of kindness without letting anybody know it was you, don't expect recognition
7. Thank God everyday for being alive, thank God for everything
2006-10-13 21:04:50 · answer #6 · answered by sisrose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you have to believe that you are worthy. You have to believe that you are worthy of love. Change your perception. When you start seeing only the positive things in people and everything around you, you yourself will change. You'll be able to make better decisions because when your mind is full of positive thoughts- like attracts like. You'll be able to attract positive things in your direction. Let go of the guilt, let go of what's right and what's wrong, let go of the past. Just give love to yourself and the people around you.
2006-10-13 21:08:12 · answer #7 · answered by Renee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a good sign that you repents on your mistakes. that means that you have ego and good soul. Just promise with yourself that in future you will not repeat any mistake and try to control your emotions. With a little bit practice you will learn to overcome your weaknesses and mistakes.
Wish you a good luck
2006-10-13 21:02:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its true.think before you speak or act.But I know how it is diffcult to do it. So, for example, dont be too fast.Slow down.Think faster and speak slower.Try it out.Try to control and choose the words before you speak. And do not forget to say sorry if you hurt someone.The more it happens you will see yourself that its too much,that you are going too far and this feeling will remind you that " THAT'S IT! I HAVE TO CONTROL". Learn to tame yourself. Trust me it should work out.Be careful with what you say.
2006-10-13 21:13:58 · answer #9 · answered by Jaya 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey i did the same thing too and it about got me down the only thing i did i kept telling myself i had to get past this or i would be miserable for the rest of my life i just ask the good lord everyday to forgive me and that makes me feel better. hold your head up and keep going
2006-10-13 21:01:03 · answer #10 · answered by tottie512 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋