is everyone out for themselves or is it truer to say that they wd be out fr themselves if they had enuf sense?

Question

[i think we are confused about selfishness - true bad selfishness is failing to take into account the effect our actions will hav on behaviour of others towards us - false selfishness is thinking it is wrong to think of yrself - imo it is THE WHOLE OF DUTY to pursue yr own happiness 100% of the time - but IF U DO THIS, u will immediately grasp the golden rule: that generally speaking all hurting comes back, ie ppl arent doormats, every injury produces equal opposite reaction]

if ppl pursued their own happiness with any ATTENTN, they wd comprehend & clasp this reasoning:

we know that taking 90% of income off 90% of ppl wd produce giant trouble, pain & unhappiness, so we know that STOPPING taking 90% off 90% will DESTROY giant amounts of trouble, pain & unhappiness

because of 1000s of yrs of uncontrolled richgetricher etc, we HAV this extreme injustce - WORSE than this - therefor we know we can be GIANTLY HAPPIER [!!!!] [if we think it thru]

we ar hurtg rselves & we CNT C IT

Answer 1

Truthfully, If we don't first look out for ourselves and work up enough in us to have some left over, there is nothing we can do for anyone else. We would always need back immediately because we are not adequate when trying to look out for others. but if we give at least 110% first to ourselves, we have at least 10% for others and the circle would be continuous.

Answer 2

All people are not just out for themselves; and, no, it is not because they don't have enough sense. People who believe everyone should be "sensible enough" to just be out for himself have a narcissistic point of view. There is plenty of wisdom, joy, reward, and sense in not just being out for oneself. It is people who don't have enough sense to realize THAT who may not find fulfillment or happiness or sense of purpose in their life.

It isn't correct that people would "immediately grasp the golden rule....." (which, by the way, isn't about things coming back but which is about not hurting other people). The fact is that people can hurt and have it not come back. They can injure and not have it come back. Hurting/injuring other people does not always have an "equal and opposite reaction".

I don't really get the last couple of paragraphs of your "question".