Ok.. me and my ex have been divorced for a year and a half! He remarried a few months after it was finalized but kept telling me he wanted me back and was coming back... after waiting around on him for a year I moved on. I'm now engaged to the most awesome guy in the world! I have three kids with my ex! Here recently he filed for custody becuase I refused to go back to him. He just dropped the case and gave the kids back... and is now getting divorced from his wife! He keeps asking me to come back to him. I was with him for 7 years.... but he cheated on me repeatly. I'm extremely happy where I'm at now.... but he says I'm choosing My fiance over the happiness of my kids! Am I???
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2006-10-13 20:20:47 · 21 answers · asked by sexymama2420052000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I should also mention that the kids are happy where they are and how things are going. I have asked them if they want there mom and dad back togather and they say no! They have told him that too!
2006-10-13 20:27:03 · update #1
Your ex is just using the kids as an excuse to get what he wants. Besides, your children already told u they are happy where they're at, so that is your answer.
2006-10-13 20:39:12 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The following group of persons appear to be concerned in the matter--- yourself,your ex-husband ,your fiance your three kids with your Ex and the present wife of your EX until she is divorced. You ask yourself honestly which of the two options namelly (i) to stay back with your fiance and the kids with their step father or mother's boyfriend or (ii) going back to your Ex with the children with or without marrying him again will make you and the children more happy.In this evaluation the children deserve some additional weightage. because while the adults have already exercised some options in life, the children have not. Then choose what appears to you to be a better option.
And remember your past is not your present and your present need not be your future. You will see the correct option and will be happy. Best of luck.
2006-10-13 21:15:20 · answer #2 · answered by KNOW ALL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the greatest gift parents can give their children is to love each other. your ex didn't love you enough not to cheat on you. i'm sure there's more to the story than that. he sounds very manipulative and vindictive if he tried to get custody of the kids just because you were moving on with your own life. that's just a bit scary. no child needs to be caught in the middle of any bad situation between their parents. if you're happy your children will most likely be happier too. you're doing the right thing by not going back to him.
2006-10-13 20:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by jbslass 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO way.
The guy has proven over and over to you th.at he is a creep,
Stick with the awsome guy and don't let your X take away your joy.
Your kids can be happy with you .
Why would you ever believe anything your X says? And your kids have told you they don't want you to remarry Geesh stay away from the X
It is much better for kids to be from a broken home than it is for them to live in one.
Stop letting your X maniluplate you. He is a user and a control freek. Don't even deal with him, except when he picks up the kids. AND NEVER trust him.
Where is your worth woman??? Stand up for your own happiness and go with the wonderful man you are engaged to.
2006-10-13 20:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by cuttiestrawberypie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. You're not if he has cheated on you.
But ask yourself a few questions;
1 - Do your kids mind you marrying your fiance and like him?
2 - Who were you happier with (ex or fiance)
3 - Who do you love now?
4 - Are you suddenly getting cold feet on your wedding?
5 - Who's on your brain more?
6 - Does you fiance know everything in your head, does he care and does he know what your ex is trying to do? If not then you aren't being honest in your relationship.
2006-10-13 20:26:51 · answer #5 · answered by x_Super_Social_Superstar_x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its always a sad situation when people (your ex) try to put the kids in the middle. you did the right thing by moving on and it sounds like the kids are welladjusted to that fact don't let your ex put you on a guilt trip he's used you in the past not mention the kids you are doing the right thing it your turn and your kids turn and your fiance to be happy!! best wishes
2006-10-13 22:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder why you even listen to that man ,if the children were so important to him then why did he cheat and marry another woman?He left you for some one else asked you to hang around and wait for him to have his fun and expected you to wait?If you went back to this jerk he would properly leave you again and that would harm the kids more .A breakup is bad for kids but dragging then back and forth is worse.they need the security of a home and your ex doesn't supply it
2006-10-13 23:22:44 · answer #7 · answered by stephanie n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are extremely happy...why would you even listen to that guy for 1 second. So you had some kids with him. Big deal. Tell him to bug off or you'll get a restraining order.
2006-10-13 21:16:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated on you repeatedly, you would be unwise to go back to the same lifestyle. He had his chance to get his act together and chose not to. He's using the kids as a last straw to sway your decision.
I think the kids have already answered your question for you.
2006-10-17 12:06:03 · answer #9 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy parents is the first step to happy kids, and it sounds like you are happy now. If I were you I wouldn't go back with there father. You teach your children be example and if you went back you'd be teaching them that it's OK to treat people the way he treated you.
2006-10-13 21:33:09 · answer #10 · answered by loveorlust06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋