hi, i go to gay clubs every friday night as i love the atmospere it's brill , we never get any hassle unlike in straight clubs .. i have a partner of 20 years and 4 kids and it doesnt bother them but my neighbours slag me off for it and asume i'm either a lesbian or bi
which i'm not and would it be any of their business if i was
2006-10-13 19:45:22 · 31 answers · asked by margaret 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
how dare you call me trash i am not ,i have brought them up to respect everybody no matter what race,or sexuallity they are . i live in manchester and they go to the mardi gras with me and my pals and they love it and always ask to go every year .. what is wrong with wanting to go out i am only 36 not 86 .
2006-10-13 21:59:41 · update #1
sorry i call him partner as we are not married
2006-10-13 22:01:43 · update #2
Seriously, some people need to get a life. Who actually cares if you go out to a gay club? The only reason they're making a fuss about it is because they're trying to divert attention away from their own insecurities, they're probably homophobic for a start. I say go out and have a good time! Why not? Who says going out to a club is going to have any impact on your children? A girl is allowed to go out and have fun!
This is the way I see it (being gay myself), if people are going to judge you, let them. They're doing you a favour because it allows you to see them for who they are and to be honest, would you want friends like that anyway?
2006-10-14 10:47:17 · answer #1 · answered by iBac 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Jesus...i have two children, i don't have a 'partner' and even if i did i'm my own person who is entitled to a social life. I have worked in nightclubs (On top of my fulltime job, whilst being a single mother...) and yes i do prefer a good old GAY night out. I'm not a lesbian, and i think a lesbian would know that i'm not. Twitchy curtained neighbours, who have sad little lives with nothing else to do apart from wag their poisonous tongues, i bet all this yap is done behind your back, they haven't the front to be up front!! All that matters are your kids who will grow up with a broad out look on life and your fella...i hate people who assume!
Kick your old man out, have the kids wondering the streets, leave home alone and sod off on holiday for two weeks leaving em a tenner, go on the game, pop a few pills, and have a different bloke every night, they wouldn't say a word!
2006-10-15 11:09:23 · answer #2 · answered by untanuta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just that neighbourly thing, people love the chance to gossip, you must live in a quiet neighbourhood if all they have to talk about is you.
I'm sure there is a little bit of envy too, firstly, going to gay clubs (and cool about it) and they probably resent that you have a stable longterm relationship with 4 equally openminded kids.
It isn't any of your neighbours business but you do live next door to them, so best advice is to take no notice and invite them to go with you!
I have straight friends that go to gay clubs for exactly the same reason as you, they can dance the night away without harrassment and the music is usually better too!
2006-10-14 07:36:17 · answer #3 · answered by Debbie Mc 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Margaret, I think your attitude is phenominal, and cannot understand the lesbian and gay replies here, I am a lesbian,and lot older than most on here, and cannot understand their odd answers, I only wish you and many like you had been attending clubs when My friends and I were young enough to go.Dont worry about your neighbours love, its just the old adage, dont know dont understand so I'll knock it>>>>
Keep your open mind lass,and I admire you for speaking out, you are still young, go and enjoy yourself and your happines will generate itself into you kids.xx and ,regarding your partner, I think he is the one you should worry about,not the rest.
2006-10-15 17:22:31 · answer #4 · answered by Croeso 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to do whatever you want to. Don't let your ignorant neighbours affect the way you live your life. They are just jealous because you are out there having fun every weekend.
And to the people who have posted ignorant pathetic answers - Go away and get a life because you clearly cannot be happy. If you think your rude replies validate you as straight you are mistaken, they just make you look like a closet case.
2006-10-15 08:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by kitpoodle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People will always attack what they don't understand. I know exactly what you mean though, gay clubs have a great atmosphere unlike straight clubs, which are predominantly cattle markets.
Don't let it bother you. They are either jealous closet queens or they don't understand why you choose to go to these places. Explain to them if they want to listen, if they don't then what does it matter what they think? The people that matter don't mind, and the people that mind don't matter.
Go for it and have a great time!
2006-10-14 02:52:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
They think so because they are narrow minded. What does it matter to them that when you go out you go to gay bars etc!. You are right, even if you were, they would have no right to judge you as a person.
Lots of people go out to enjoy themsleves and at least you can enjoy yourself without all the problems you say you get in straight bars.
The important thing is that your partner and kids are comfortable with it.
Maybe thise people who slag you off are just jealous because you are free and comfortable to live your life as you do.
2006-10-14 11:33:56 · answer #7 · answered by GORDON P 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
The level of ignorance displayed here is almost beyound belief - some of you lot need to get outta your narrow bigoted little closets (hehe) and get a life and stop making rude and ignorant assumptions about people and what they do with their lives!
Gay/straight/bi or whatever - WHO cares?
Ohh - just as a note for you ignorant pig headed str8 guys out there - firstly, lesbians DON'T need a good man to straighten them out (and even if they did, none of you would pass the test anyways) and secondly, gay men DON'T wanna turn you str8 guys gay - we have MUCH MORE taste than that (after all - what gay man would want a pig headed arrogant idiot who is a right wing bogoted ignorant dult?) :-)
2006-10-14 07:59:56 · answer #8 · answered by chrisN17 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
B0ll0cks to them....go where you like....
The only problem I've got with it is when there are more straight people than gay in what is supposed to be a gay bar/club...it definitely changes the atmosphere...Canal Street aint what it was 10 years ago....
2006-10-15 16:21:08 · answer #9 · answered by Mr Glenn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course they assume such as most straight folks would never do such and certainly not weekly. By telling them you've made it their business as they certainly wouldn't know otherwise. I wouldn't let it bother you but perhaps you should keep your private life just that...private. Going against standard convention is always risky and one must either buck up and stand ones ground or simply practice a bit more discretion. Personally I say good on you for doing what makes you happy regardless of public opinion.
2006-10-14 03:01:58 · answer #10 · answered by Sphinx 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋