English Deutsch Français Italiano Español Português 繁體中文 Bahasa Indonesia Tiếng Việt ภาษาไทย
All categories

My mother in law gave my 2 month old a very small peice of cheese, (i wasn't there when she did, she had told me.) I was P***ed but for some reason i could not say anything,(all i said was i heard that you aren't supposed to give a baby any dairy till they are a year) i don't know if i am scared she will be mad at me or if she will get upset or if i am intimidated by her but i need help on saying it in the nicest way to do what i say with my kid or else. I never knew it was so hard to speak my mind i can usually do that well. Help!

2006-10-13 19:35:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

6 answers

You seem intimidated in this instance and you shouldn't be. It is your perogative to excercise your parental rights without interference.
Next time something like that happens just matter of factly state that you would appreciate being consulted or asked before anything is given to your child.
A reasonable person will agree without a fuss.

2006-10-13 19:51:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

What's more important your child or your mother in law's feelings.
Speak up for your child that is what your job as a parent is to protect. You have a right to be upset. A good way to explain this is to bring her a copy of guidlines/rules that you want for your child along with the reasoning behind them. My mom did some scary thing with my son when he was an infant. When I confronted her in a manner of asking nicely to refrain from doing the actions again, she was hurt and upset. But she got over it and we are still close. Again safety comes before anyones feelings. Doing the right thing is often scarey but you will be thankful in the long run. If she does not listen to your request I would suggest she be supervised with your child. Cheese or any food items at that age can be serious.

2006-10-14 02:45:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You really need to tell her something because if you don't your baby could get really sick...if they are going to develop a food alergy it is usually the one of the first foods that they eat thats why they start out with oat & barley cereal and not until their at least 6 mo old. I would just tell her that the baby got colicy so you called your doctor and then tell her the doctor said...and list everything that you want or don't want her to give or do to your baby...that way if she gets a little upset it will be at the doctor not you also remember that it has proablly been a long time since she has been around a baby and things have changed...gl and don't get upset i mean she loves her grand baby too...but mother knows best...

2006-10-14 02:53:15 · answer #3 · answered by bunny 2 · 0 0

I find it impossible to speak my mind too... You could say it in a conversation, next time you see her, "I was speaking to my friend the other day & it turns out you arent supposed to give babies dairy untill they are atleast one year old, lucky I havent been feeding baby dairy" or you could just say "I was talking to my doctor & he recomended that I dont feed the baby dairy for a year, because there is a chance he she might be lactose intollerant".... hmm, Just count to twenty & blurt it out, that's what I do... hope that helps good luck...

2006-10-14 02:41:49 · answer #4 · answered by idk 3 · 0 0

as a mother of 6 and grand mother of 9 ill tell you as i do mine.this is grandma house and grandma house does not run under your rules.if you don't think i can take care of my grand child then don't leave them with me.its up to your job to raise your children.to make them eat their veggies and to go to bed on time to help with home work to get off to school to punish when needed.its at grandmas you get ice cream before dinner,you get to fall a sleep watching cartoons, there's no school tomorrow so can i go to grandmas, because you know grandma forgives most every thing. i don't know your mother in law but i assume she raised your husband and you picked him so she must of done a lot of things right. what you have no understanding of is just how fast they grow and us grandmas know in a few short years they as our own children will out grow us. so please leave the mommy rules at home and let us enjoy each other while we can....when i said you have no understanding of how fast they grow i was not saying any mean or bad about you at all. i just mean its only when you look accros your thanksgiving table and see three generations looking back that you truely know how fast time goes.

2006-10-14 03:18:42 · answer #5 · answered by BLOODHOUND 6 · 0 0

be up front and honest and tell her how you feel this is your child also talk to you husband and get input about your mother in law

2006-10-14 02:48:24 · answer #6 · answered by dogydoorman@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0 0

fedest.com, questions and answers