my mother is always trying to make my brother and i fued by saying one another says things about one another, and she says she does not like my husband unknown to me why because he never did anything to her or me, so she talks to my 11 yr old son and 7 yr old daughter and calls my ex mother and father in laws and tells them that my husband and i are on drugs when we are not and she also says things to my children about us what should i do and what do you think
2006-10-13 19:19:40 · 8 answers · asked by mplove 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like your mother has alot of mental problems. All the mean things that she said to you is actually a reflection of how she feels about herself. She probably was being treated the same way by her own parents. Whatever she said to you is not what you truly are. She is just projecting her dislike for herself by insulting you. People around us are a mirror of what we don't like about ourselves.
What you can do is try writing a letter to her. People tend to listen better when reading a letter than talking. When talking, people tend to focus on themselves and try to win the argument. Don't insult and attack her, just let her know what your feelings are. If she doesn't stop this toxic behaviour, you'll have to get away from her. It's not healthy for your children to live under all these negative situations. They might think that it's ok to be treated like this by others because their mommy didn't do anything about it.
2006-10-13 20:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by Renee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 04:32:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you let her!! You are a grown A@@ woman with no disrespect to your mother, but if you don't put a handle on that scenario soon your kid's will be disrespecting you too. If she can't respect you and stop talking down on you to your kid's as harsh as it may sound back away from her and give her some space.. She'll get the picture !!
2006-10-13 19:23:13 · answer #3 · answered by chubbie dumplins 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it is time to put you mother OUT OF YOUR LIFE (and the lives of your children)!
Sometimes this is the ONLY SOLUTION, especially since your mother is INCREDIBLY TOXIC and will destroy your entire family if this goes on any longer!
GET AS FAR AWAY FROM HER AS FAST AS YOU CAN AND HAVE NO CONTACT WITH HER TO SAVE YOURSELF AND YOUR OWN LITTLE FAMILY!!!
2006-10-13 19:25:40 · answer #4 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others. You don't have to put up with it. Put your foot down and let her know you love her, but are not taking any of her crap anymore. And, if she doesn't stop, you will keep the children from her. Then let her make the choice. Best of luck to you.
2006-10-13 19:31:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think ur mom probably see too much of her in u and it scares her bcause she wants better for u
2006-10-13 19:24:37 · answer #6 · answered by auntymadness 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because YOU allow it to happen.
2006-10-13 19:22:17 · answer #7 · answered by Aine14 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dunno because my mom does the same thing and i think it might be because she is jealous of my relationship with other people other than her.
2006-10-13 19:25:15 · answer #8 · answered by Elle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋