My husband is bad tempered and im hoping that i can convince him to go to counseling.Has anyone ever been ?How does it work and did it work?Are u still together now?
2006-10-13 19:06:01 · 11 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My wife & I attended marriage counseling. It helped open both of our eyes & see the way to solving our problems. This was 2yrs. ago & we're still together. Don't get me wrong we still have our disagreements or arguements, but we solve them more rationally now. I had an extremely bad temper & short fuse, but after talking to the counselor I was able to find more effective ways to approach problems that arise. Usually you start by going in seperately for a bit, then when the counselor gets an idea about what problems you're having then you both go in. When you first go in it's hard to put your trust in a stranger but they usually manage to ease your tension. I am able to talk to my wife about more things now than I could before. The best part is I don't turn into a crazed lunatic when I start to get aggitated. I haven't regretted it once, in fact I love my wife more everyday. Because I know I can talk to her about anything much more level-headed now. Wishing you the best.
2006-10-13 21:09:36 · answer #1 · answered by ccl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Counseling can work if both people are willing to work at it. It takes both people to be commited to working out their problems....the counselor can help but not fix a problem like this. He has to see his problem with anger first and be able to admit to it and talk about where it comes from. Then the work begins. It is worth going to counseling if you love each other and want to try and save your marriage.
2006-10-14 05:10:21 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage counseling has the potential to helps most couples, however, most couples must be willing to really work towards the problem and they must be completely committed. Sadly, most couples go to counseling in an effort to "save" their marriage when it is already too late. Get into marriage counseling early, and then you'll have a chance.
2006-10-13 19:40:05 · answer #3 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage counseling worked for me after I got divorced.
2006-10-13 19:08:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do probably need some counseling together but not until he has some anger management counseling. Your joint counseling will do no good if he hasn't learned the cause and how to manage his anger. No matter what he says it is not and I repeat NOT you.
2006-10-13 19:11:07 · answer #5 · answered by sosueme534 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It works for many people.
In my case, it just opened up the wounds. Also He became worse as time went on. It was a way to convince me that it was time to divorice. I had to try everything to get to that point.
I don't have any regrets. And I have learned what I want and need in a relationship. And I won't ever compermise myself again.
Even if he won't go for counseling........Please go on your own.
2006-10-13 19:41:26 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage counciling didnt work for my marriage i wasnt angry but my wife got into a sect that is a group of people who believe in some stupid ideas she believed them and left .In my country they have anger managment courses for men maybe yours does or look on the internet for anger managment ,some libraries have books on the subject .Having told you my truth there are marriages that are saved by counciling .
2006-10-13 19:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it did no longer help, we went 8 circumstances mutually and a pair of circumstances on my own. no longer something replaced, my spouse become a hundred% unfavourable and quite refused to cooperate. she says she loves me yet i do no longer purchase it... her version of love is consistent along with her way or the line. the considerable challenge is that she would be in a position to on no account initiate intercourse and she or he would be in a position to no longer clarify why. as quickly as I initiate, 80% of the time she says no. after 12 years of unemotional rejection i went ballistic. she did no longer care. i do no longer want to divorce, we've 2 constructive young ones and each little thing else is okay. however the counselor ought to no longer help me get to the muse of the challenge, I haven't any thought what her challenge is. if the two anybody is keen to talk and artwork out a compromise (or the accountable occasion supplies in and variations) then you definately do no longer want any counselor. yet whilst one occasion won't provide in and cooperate... then the counselor can not have the skill to alter that. the only ingredient it did accomplish become that it gave me the boldness that i attempted, and that the situation wasn't my fault.
2016-10-19 09:09:31 · answer #8 · answered by bergene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen counsel save marriages that were otherwise doomed, especially by anger.
2006-10-13 19:07:57 · answer #9 · answered by Onjel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apparently not,bcause mine is shot to hell,however,i know folks for whom it has worked, so, go for it,u may b one of the lucky ones
2006-10-13 19:09:32 · answer #10 · answered by auntymadness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋