I love this guy,i know he loves me 2,i see it daily,however there r things that just keep happening to bring doubt,pain and hurt
2006-10-13 19:00:37 · 22 answers · asked by auntymadness 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Love shouldn't hurt. If it is truly love, then it should be respectful, caring, considerate. If things keep happening to bring doubt, pain, and hurt, then pay attention to those things. What a person does is the truth, not what they say, or what you wish to believe "could" be the truth, if the ugliness was only out of the way.
Control hurts. Codependency hurts.
2006-10-13 19:05:11 · answer #1 · answered by ICanCan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love can only hurt you as much as you let it. What is causing the doubt? If you are truly in love there should be no doubt. If there is you should try to talk it out. If you can't then there is a failure to communicate. This is one of the big 3 in most relationships. And when you say pain do you mean mental or physical? Both types shouldn't be present in healthy relationships. I wish you had more info to present so I could advise you better. Hope something here can help.
2006-10-13 20:52:45 · answer #2 · answered by ccl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Communication is the principal building block of any relationship, but communication isn't just about expressing a thought. It's also about understanding what your partner is saying and conveying, back to them, that you understand. There is much truth to the statement that timing is everything. We aren't always meant to be or do the things we want at exactly the time we think we should. Sometimes life has other plans for us. I think in your situation you need to assess exactly what stage of a relationship you are in (if any) and where the possibility of a relationship could be. Best Wishes
2006-10-13 20:18:44 · answer #3 · answered by rebelicious_angel228 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 09:09:05 · answer #4 · answered by bergene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because love brings so much joy, you must open yourself up completely to experience it, and that is the source of the potential pain.
If you look at the famous lovers in history, you find that they were not "happy." Nobody said being "in love" was the key to happiness.
My daughter's current favorite movie is "Moulin Rouge." Talk about a tragic love story.
Of course, it all stems from that famous quote in "princess bride." "Life is pain, highness. Anyone who tells you different is trying to sell something."
2006-10-13 19:06:52 · answer #5 · answered by jbtascam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No pain , no gain ! The very fact that u love him makes u undergo all these feelings .. is because you love him .. And make sure its the right person , you really love him. . you need maturity in a relationship , just give yourself time and the true love will come along !
All the best and give it time !
2006-10-13 19:05:28 · answer #6 · answered by Beautiful Snowwhite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..it's okay
Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are.
The most powerful symptom of love is a tenderness which becomes at times almost insupportable.
2006-10-13 19:05:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love doesn't hurt but unmet expectation does. Also your doubt brings pain too.
2006-10-13 19:04:51 · answer #8 · answered by h2o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts because it's inevitable to grow expectations when you are in love. Big mistake. When you learn to accept, instead of expect, you won't get disappointed anymore. Plus, it's better to love and be turned down than not love at all...
2006-10-13 19:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by Horumaket 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're in love....your greatest fear is losing them. That is why love hurt so much!!! I always feel that a girl might steal my b/f or he will cheat on me. He would always confirm me many time that he loves me and he wanted to marry me but there are times when you feel like you'll lose them. That feeling really hurt.
2006-10-13 19:06:28 · answer #10 · answered by strawberry_kiss_gurlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋