He Passed away November 29th, 2004
Nearly two years ago! But it still feels very fresh and the pain is still there in my heart!
2006-10-13 18:53:21 · 14 answers · asked by beefcakelatinoboy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
His Birthday: October 22nd, 1978
He Passed away November 29th, 2004
Nearly two years ago! But it still feels very fresh and the pain is still there in my heart!
2006-10-13 19:14:51 · update #1
yes most definitely. i would tell her that i was thinking back to when he was still around and bring up a good memory and tell her that you still miss him very much and wish that he was back to help you through something.tell her that you miss her cooking or whatever, and say you want him back for her sake and yours, tell her all your feelings.... it may help to laugh about the way you miss the way he did some thing, it may also help her if you cry with her and get your feelings out in the open.
I know it helps me to talk to my (deceased) friends parents and cry with them it helps them and you. it also shows them that you really liked them and miss them too and that they are not alone when it comes to missing that person. it is a source of encouragement to both of you. and believe it or not they appreciate knowing that, and knowing that you have not forgot them.
2006-10-13 19:17:04 · answer #1 · answered by malinda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be most thoughtful of you. A mother always appreciates knowing that their child isn't forgotten. It might be a difficult phone call because she may cry a little or be silent so she won't cry, who knows. Just say you wanted her to know you are keeping your friend in your heart and think of him always. Maybe you could talk about favorite memories or something. Just don't feel bad if she wants to keep it short for now. When it is so fresh, it is hard to speak of it. She will be glad you let her know you miss him, too.
2006-10-13 19:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by busybody12 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, please call her. The pain is still in her heart as well. Every mother wants to hear how much her child is loved.
Tell her you were thinking of your friend especially today and were missing him. Ask how she is doing. Unfortunately in our fix-everything-in-a-30-second-commercial society, many people don't remember how long grieving takes. It will be a relief for her to talk to someone close to her son, who is still grieving.
Even if the conversation is short, she will appreciate the gesture. You are a good friend. I'm sorry for your loss.
2006-10-13 19:12:31 · answer #3 · answered by Kalliope 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the domicile isn't haunted expensive. God would not enable souls get misplaced and could hang-out. you're in simple terms having those aims because of fact your mom died and now your'e wearing a splash one. Your hormones are out out of whack first of all. And the finalness of the dying of a kin member overlapped via the information of a upcoming start. you want mom must be around to work out your toddler and share those powerful moments. you sense the guilt over being satisfied with regard to the baby on the same time as you basically those days buried a kin member. enable pass, be satisfied. God's takin' care of your mom...and father. he's no longer letting their souls lie in limbo.
2016-10-19 09:08:29 · answer #4 · answered by bergene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought about maybe sending a lettr or a card. A phone call can be awkward for both of you. You know there could be that uncomfortable silence. Or she may feel the need to cry in remeberence, and you may make yourself feel awful, or she may noit want to cry openly. Either way, I think it might be good to make a gesture, it lets mom know her sons friends were real, and that he meant something...but I would try a letter or a card and enclose your phone number if she wants to talk about anything. That would be really nice and thoughtful. oh, and it may also be easier for you to express exactly what you want to say.
2006-10-13 19:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by RAW29 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be a very nice gesture if you called your friend's mother. She'd probably appreciate the fact that someone else still cares about her son and it would probably be helpful for both of you to talk about him and share stories of how wonderful a person he was so that his memory can stay strong in both of your hearts.
2006-10-13 19:47:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You know she is thinking of him. It may comfort her to know you feel the same. Just say hi and that you are thinking of all the good time you had together and wanted her to know you care.
I answered this question because my Mother died 2 years ago today, Oct.13th. I am not sure anyone in the family remembered this. I lit a candle in her honor today and smiled.
2006-10-13 19:02:41 · answer #7 · answered by GiGi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmm thats a good question. It depends on two things, how well you know the mother and what type of person she is. i mean if you think she'd appreciate knowing someone else was remembering him then go ahead but if she is one to keep her sorrow to herself and just greive alone then i'd leave it be. If you do call just let her know that you still remember and miss _____ (friends name)
sorry for your loss. :)
2006-10-13 18:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
a parent never forgets and they don't want anyone else to either.
i persoaly think i nice card would be the way to go. something she can hold and look at to remind her that she is not the only one thinking of him. then if she feels comfortable about it she will contact u. this way u don't put urself in an awkward situation. we all handle death differently.
good luck, its nice to see u r a true friend.
2006-10-13 19:05:36 · answer #9 · answered by jesse james 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call and tell her that you were just thinking about her. Ask her how she is doing. You might be a sounding board for her. If she wants to talk, just be there for her, and probably do more listening than talking. If she doesn't want to talk, that is alright too.
2006-10-13 19:01:14 · answer #10 · answered by kayboff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋