I was with a guy for about 6 months when I dumped him because of how possessive and controlling and jealous he was. There were times when he told me he would kill me if I left him and he even got a bit physical when I would annoy or anger him. He would pinch me when we were infront of others to let me know that I was making him mad. And I know alot of you are thinking,"What a stupid girl". But you have NO idea how hard it is to leave a guy like this when he is trying so hard to get me back and wont leave me alone. I have been trying to work things out with him for the past couple months.. and it seems almost like we are still together. In a couple months. It would have been our one year. Now there is another guy in the picture that I am very attracted to and I think he may be attracted to me as well. He is sweet and cute. And just seems like a really great guy. But I dont know how to get out of this situation with my ex. **Read my details. I need more room.**
2006-10-13 18:43:04 · 12 answers · asked by y0ur_l0ve_is_suicide 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know Im not being smart right now but I dont know what else to do because he wont leave me alone. We go to school together. Our school is not that big so we see eachother all the time. He calls me and emails me. He loves me so much and I care for him too with all my heart. I must if I have gone through all this pain just to work things out. But its tiring.. And I keep finding out new things about him.. THat he did when we were together. But I dont have much room to explain everything. But he wasnt good to me at all. There were times when he was the sweetest guy ever.. like he is now but I think that may just be because he is trying to win me back. Buying me flowers and saying sweet things.. Sex is great.. But I need more than that. Its gotten to a point where I flinch when he moves fast towards me. When he tries to touch my face or anything like that.. I flinch and then he gets angry. I just dont know what to do.. Expeshially since this new guy. He seems amazing. Im so lost. :-(
2006-10-13 18:46:12 · update #1
GET AS FAR AWAY FROM THE POSSESIVE, JEALOUS GUY AND FAST!!!! HE IS NO GOOD, BELIEVE ME, YOU DON'T WANT TO BE WITH A GUY LIKE THAT...BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, NOT FUN AT ALL!!!! TRUST ME, I KNOW RIGHT NOW IT SEEMS LIKE SOMETHING YOU CAN GET USED TO AND/OR DEAL WITH BUT IT WILL GET WORSE HUN, I PROMISE, IT WILL GET WORSE... Look sweetie, if you don't want to be lying on the floor battered, bruised and in tears or even worse have kids who are watching this happen to you or even worse getting abused too...I suggest you get away from him now, get a restraining order, tell people you trust about him and notify the police of his actions so if anything happens people at least know all about him. You deserve to be treated like a princess and nobody has the right to hurt you physically, emotionally, sexually...anyway!!! Please please please believe me on this, you don't need him and if he is able to be so jealous, possesive and angry with you I really don't believe that he loves you...find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated!
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2016-10-02 07:03:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell yourself you are being stupid so listen to yourself. Continuing with him will only ensnare you deeper. Use the unavoidable contacts with him at school to let him and everyone else know that you are though with him. Let it be clear to all that the reason is his controlling attitude and his physical assaults. Those will only get worse also. The sooner you break this off the better. Make it complete - accept no phone calls, reply to no e mails or im's. You will feel better and thank yourself.
2006-10-13 19:48:39 · answer #3 · answered by gatzap 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah a tough position you are in alright, but not impossible! Listen to your heart (sounds like a song title) and do whats good for YOU! Take a moment and make a list: positive verses negative, which side you come up with more? You must be young! And I don't say that in a disrespectful way, just having that feeling. Don't waste your best years with abuse and control, you already experienced that there is better out there! Be strong and go for it! Good luck!
2006-10-13 18:50:15 · answer #4 · answered by CC Top 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I understand how hard it is !! Seems like the possesive controling ones are all i attract.and they always get more and more abusive.so get out while you can!whatever it takes the first step is to make it clear its OVER and move on with this new guy,just dont rush into anything. good luck
2006-10-13 18:59:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If youre not in love with your current boyfriend...who is physically agressive with you...and has no self control, you might try breaking off again with some help and keep a distance. Getting involved with another right away...I dont know...your ex may prove violent.
Maybe he really doesnt 'hear' you. Make yourself very clear to him that if you dont love him...tell him so.
2006-10-13 18:52:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
OH HELL NO ! THERE IS NO WORKING OUT ANYTHING WITH THIS GUY ! HE NEEDS HELP! BAD ! AND YOU ARE IN VERY REAL DANGER !
GET AWAY AND I MEAN FAR AWAY! AND MAKE HIM GET HELP! EITHER BY FORCE OR BY CHOICE
YOU HAVE ALTERNATIVES , AND SHOULDNT BE KEPT DOWN YOUR WHOLE LIFE BECAUSE OF HIM , WHEN YOU FINALLY REALIZE YOU SHOULD HAVE LEFT HIM A LONG TIME AGO , YOU WILL BE TOO OLD TO ENJOY YOUR LIFE LIKE YOU SHOULD HAVE !...GET OUTTA THERE......GOOD LUCK , TAKE CARE , AND HAVE A SAFE N HAPPY HALLOWEEN !.....GR1M........ADDENDUM.......IF HE LOVED YOU SO MUCH , HE WOULDNT PINCH YOU AND CRAP LIKE THAT CAUSE YOU MADE HIM MAD , HE WILL GET CONTINUOUSLY MORE VIOLENT , AND YOU WILL BE HELPLESS IF YOU WAIT TOO LONG....LEAVE !...PLEASE ......
2006-10-13 18:47:16 · answer #7 · answered by (\ G®1M R34|Dê® /) 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
so
you're a kid
you give sex
but you don't know how to stop
giving sex
because the other kid (your ex) wants it.
maybe you should go home after school on friday
and totally refuse to see or talk to your ex
until school on monday
and keep doing that
maybe it'll start to get through his head
otherwise kick him in the nuts
or get someone to do it for you
2006-10-13 21:45:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are very confused. Abuse is not a way to win someone's heart. And from what you say, he's abusive. Please calmly and firmly tell him that you choose to date others. If he is unable to accept that, and threatens you in ANY way, you get a restraining order, against him! If you live home with your family. Advise them about him!
2006-10-13 18:51:20 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your ex is very abusive.If he is threatening you like that you need to stay away from your ex.Get a restraining order (order of protection).The new guy should be nicer??RIGHT???
2006-10-13 18:52:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋