i HAVE BEEN WiTH A GUY FOR GOiNG ON A YEAR. AND THERE iS THiS GUY i GO TO SCHOOL WiTH WHO i AM VERY MUCH ATTRACTED TO. HE iS EXTREMELLY CUTE..HE SEEMS REALLY SWEET AND FUNNY.. AND iM ALMOST POSiTiVE HE iS ATTRACTED TO ME AS WELL. BUT. THE ONLY PROBLEM IS.. MY BOYFRiEND. WE BROKE UP A COUPLE MONTHS AGO.. BUT WE HAVE BEEN TRYiNG TO WORK THiNGS OUT. i BROKE UP WiTH HiM BECAUSE OF HiS POSSESiVENESS.. JEALOUSiNESS.. AND SOME OTHER THiNGS i WONT MENTiON. i DONT KNOW THiS NEW GUY THAT WELL.. BUT i WOULD LOVE TO GET TO KNOW HiM BETTER. WOULD GETTiNG HiS NUMBER AND TALKiNG TO HiM MORE MAKE ME A BAD PERSON?? i THiNK HiM AND i COULD POSSiBLY HAVE SOMETHiNG EXCiTiNG.. BUT i DONT KNOW MUCH ABOUT HiM TO MAKE THAT KiND OF DECiSiON. iF MY EX KNEW ABOUT THiS, HE WOULD FREAK OUT. i CANT REALLY TALK TO HiM ABOUT THiNGS LiKE THiS. THERES SO MUCH MORE i WOULD LiKE TO SAY ABOUT THiS SiTUATiON BUT i DONT HAVE MUCH MORE ROOM. :-( pLEASE HELP ME THOUGH. i NEED ADViSE!
2006-10-13 18:26:01 · 7 answers · asked by y0ur_l0ve_is_suicide 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thank you so much for the replies so far! I know that ditchin my ex would be the right thing to do but its so hard cause he is trying so hard to get me back. He was sooo jealous and possesive when we were together though. Sometimes he was a bit physical and there were times when he told me he would kill me if I left him. I know some of you may be thinking how could you still be with him or even speaking to him but its so hard to leave when he wont leave me alone. :-( I think Ill make a new question for this one. On how to get away from him. Search for my new question in a couple minutes to help me out on that one. Thank you so much for the help.
2006-10-13 18:38:13 · update #1
Lets start by letting you know I am in my last beer so with that said here it goes.The things you cannot tell us & share with us we have to imagine you say your Ex is very jealous and possessive that tells me that he might have verbally or phyiclly hurt you in the past and you state that he will freak out this is only what I can read in between the lines.I would give this new guy a chance why not ? Forget exciting you want peace and happines , love and so on.Good luck this was my 2 cents..
O.K I just read the rest You leave him simple as that no man should hit a lady . I saw my dad do it to my mom and we would get into some figts and I was just a kid . Mom finally left him . Go to the Police if you need to have a protective order against him and so on there is help out there it is not like the old days .All that really needs to happen is that you want to be left alone .Good luck..
2006-10-13 18:40:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ditch the insecure guy. A friend of mine dated a guy like that and he was crazy. He could have even been insane. He flipped out one night when I stayed at her place and he knew we were going out to a bar without him cuz he wasn't old enough. So when we came back he was waiting in the parking lot in his car. We got in her place and her mom calls her. And I'm also on the phone. I notice something move outside her window and it was winter. I look out and see foot prints at the window. Then he comes to the door and starts banging on it. I don't open it cuz she's in her room and it's not my place. So he starts yelling and saying he knows she there and won't answer his calls. And he just stays at the door. The guy was wacko. He was spying on us and practically stalking us. He was extremely possessive and jealous even if she said hi to a guy that she knew from work. Those kind of guys are bad news. Get away as soon as you can. Even if it seems like they are settling down with the jealousy and all that. It could just be their way to get you back with them so they can start acting the same old way they used to when you are back together. If nothing comes from this new guy then so be it. At least you are free from psycho boy.
2006-10-14 01:32:50 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already know and trust your boyfriend then you should stick with him. My ex girlfriend left me for a guy in a similar situation and he beat the crap out of her. All im saying is that if you already have something you like then why try and change it. Maybe you should go on a few dates with this new guy and try him out then make your decision
2006-10-14 01:34:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well one thing that you can do is give it a try but why would your bf freek out? you both broke up and if he still has feelings for you he's not showing it. so trust your heart and do what you wish. but remember YOU BROKE UP!! if you have feelings for your ex then talk to him and get back together. this will make you forget about this new guy!!
2006-10-14 01:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by delta_bonds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue to be friends with your "boyfriend". And DATE others!
You dont sound like you're ready to be in a relationship. Enjoy your youth! And your boyfriend doesnt own you. You have a free will and able to do as you wish. If he cant handle that, then HE has a problem.
2006-10-14 01:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you try to avoid your boyfriend more and more to the point where you two arnt attracted to eachother anymore. Also,I suggest that you hang out with this new guy more, and try to flirt with him more and more each time you see him, and eventually you two will become extremly attracted to eachother.
2006-10-14 01:33:40 · answer #6 · answered by osembob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it wont hurt to ask
2006-10-14 01:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋