Would really appreciate advice.Cant figure it out.?

Question

If there was this girl who had all the qualities you look for in a wife or longterm relationship but you dont feel sexually attracted to her at all in fact you feel a slight repugnance do you call the marriage of or do you go ahead and marry hoping that this slight repugnance would go away with time.In other words how important is sex for marriage.Should you choose a girl who really turns you on or sacrifice that for a good person.

Answer 1

There should DEFINATELY be sexual attraction! If it's not there, you won't survive. Don't sell yourself short thinking your mind will change. There is someone out there that was meant for you--someone you're attracted to that has all those qualities you're looking for. It just might take a little longer to find her than you think. But yes, sex is very important--it's one of the only things that is just between the two of you. It's a special bond because you are the only one to see them in that state. To get married with no attraction, you are putting yourself at high risk of cheating and/or becoming divorced rather quickly. Don't do it!!

Answer 2

I can only say that she must have a motherly function for you, judging on the details to your situation.
Is that what you want, a wife who is just your best friend, cook, cleaner or whatever? Or, do you want to have kids and wife you love?
If it is a family you are looking for i would follow your gut instinct, your repugnance is there for a reason. Try sex maybe to find out if your repugnance is still there? Sex is very important in a marriage, try talking to your girlfriend about it. If you do not try you will never know!

Answer 3

Call it off. NOW!!! Sex is pretty important. It's not the only thing, but if you are finding her repugnant already and you aren't even married yet, all the qualities you look for in a wife will eventually be everything she isn't. Call it off... Save yourself time and a the price of a divorce lawyer later on.

Answer 4

DO NOT GET MARRIED!!!!!!!!! If you feel repugnant to her and you marry her just so you dont hurt her feeling it will hurt her more and worse in the long run. DO not get married. Tell her the truth because if you do not you will end up in a divorce and mayb e with kids. This will be far worse than being rejected before marriage. Plus it gives her the chance to find truwe love later without the stigma of divorce or cheating. Or worse still loving one you cant have. Be patient true love will come to you. Repugnance will lead to anger, resentment and worse.

Answer 5

Having been married almost 20 years, I would have to say that sex is very important. But attraction is a very important but complex emotion. My husband is not the MOST attractive guy I've ever dated, but he has some of the best qualities a man could offer (as far as loyalty, honesty, trust), he respects me, and he's the backbone of the household even though he works a full time job. For those reasons, he is more attractive to me than when we first met, thus the passion gew with it. Call it "inner beauty" I don't know what it is for men. Consider that you may grow to love her more and more each day, more than you could ever imagine. And by marrying her you should commit to being faithful despite the fact she may not win any beauty pageant. Big decision to make

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Go for the gusto. If you don't find her attractive enough to marry why do it. All those ideas about what would make a good wife are baloney. get real, get out, have some fun you anal retentive fool. If you sit down to supper do you want just health food or do you want it to taste good? Would you eat a meal that was good for you according to a dietary plan but tasted repulsive? I sure wouldn't.

Answer 8

Good question. Best is to move on. However, the down side is starting over and you could find the perfect women but who can be a real witch who uses sex as a weapon. Trust me you can work through this whole issue. Enjoy her for what she is. Learn to appreciate love making and do not rush things. If she is perfect but has one flaw sort it out. She sounds like a wonderful women. Good luck my friend

Answer 9

Call the marriage off. It's too hard to make a marriage work without being attracted to the person. It's hard enough to be married when you ARE attracted to the person. Do yourself and her a favor and don't get married. She deserves to be with someone who thinks she's hot and you deserve to be with someone who you think is.

Answer 10

if she felt that way about you, would you want her to marry you because you were a "good person?" you should not prolong the inevitable and get out while it's still fairly easy (ie. no kids yet or not any accumulated items to have to divide). it's not fair to you or her to drag it out. life's too short to be unhappy, especially by choice. your concern indicates that sex is important to you, so you answered your own question. it's pretty important to me and anyone i've been around. Remember, we are all animals. good luck.