She thinks shes not doing anything wrong, but the way she dresses just frustrates me! Everytime I go somehere, people have to stop and stare at her. She has got a nice figure, but shes overdoing it with the thongs, low jeans, & streched T-Shirts. I thought I was going to be okay with it, but its been some time now & I still cant accept it.
Now before you start bashing that I should accept her for the way she is, I dont think its a problem for me to give her my opinion. Besides, I think its healthy in a relationship to do favours and to make each other feel good.
2006-10-13 18:14:30 · 12 answers · asked by Zwerg 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do others feel the same way? Does she have a sister or Mom that feels the same? Or a do you have a daughter old enought to say something? If a comment comes from them it will hit her differently than if it came from you.
Did she dress like this when you met her? Or was there an evednt that caused her to act out where she has something to prove? Did she loose weight? Hit a certain age? Did you make a comment about someone being hot that dresses like that?
There is no way she is going to change the way she dresses for you. It has to something that snaps inside her that makes her want to change. The only thing you can personally try is make comments on outfits that you would like to see her in...and say " You would look hot in that oufit"
2006-10-13 18:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by KA 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should be able to tell her.... but you also have to realize that she might need and want that kind of attention. If you hold that back from her you might have other problems that will creep up....
Just a funny story to share about the same kind of thing: I have a teenage daughter that is a good kid and dresses very well. Actually normally she wouldn't go out and get the mail without looking her cutest. Well, when her dad and I want to go somewhere that she doesn't want to go she always dresses like a gypsy... she does some funky stuff with her hair and puts on the oddest stuff. We used to make her change because we didn't want to be seen with her like that and we got the point that she didn't want to go. Now we just leave it and make her go outside dressed like that. We pray that she will see her friends while we are out... lol...
2006-10-13 18:25:38 · answer #2 · answered by Couple of Cents 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a firm believer in face to face talks with each person saying honestly and with *kindness* what's on their mind.
Do what you did here - compliment her, tell her she has a fantastic figure, but you have not been able to become comfortable with the way she shows herself. Tell her you respect her and it bothers you when you see others behaving in a manner you find disrespectful. You could always offer to go shopping together to see if you can find some compromise where she still feels sexy and desirable and you feel as though she's added a bit of "class" to her wardrobe (but don't *ever* use the word "class," in any form, to her! biiiiiig no no.
I think if you approach it from a standpoint that you think she looks hot no matter what but that the lack of respect she receives from others is disturbing, you'll have a good chance of opening the dialog :)
2006-10-13 18:20:53 · answer #3 · answered by tagi_65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.... What do you want to see her in? What colors are good on her?
Take her shopping. Take her to some nice, well-heeled stores and buy her a few nice outfits (Dillards, Macy's/Foleys, boutiques etc.). Have her try the clothes on and model them for you in the store. Give her some great compliments if the outfits look great on her. Take her out for dinner afterwards. Give her a spa day with the works - hair/color, massage, manicure/pedicure. Style can be expensive. :0)
Tell her what a beautiful woman she is. Maybe she can tone down the hoochie look with some great outfits and accessorize with some nice jewelry.
It may take some time and this wonderful wife of yours may always be a bit of a exhibitionist, but this is part of the great woman you married.
Good luck.
2006-10-13 18:30:30 · answer #4 · answered by Aunt Gwenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you would rather have her dress for the occasion and find something that you think is nicer, for her to wear and tell her that she looks so pretty, in what ever you chose for her to wear. Compliments go a long way. Hope you can convince her to wear something else. Good Luck.
2006-10-13 18:21:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about complimenting things that you DO like....tell her, I love it when you wear that.....(anything of which you approve). Maybe she will start to wear things like that more often. If that doesn't work sign her up for TLC's what not to wear because you're doomed if you're the one who tells her she looks terrible. Let someone else do it.
2006-10-13 18:18:30 · answer #6 · answered by Meredith M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your a sweet guy, Try taking her shopping, tell her that you want her to try something else with her style and if she don't feel comfortable than she can wear what she wants but least try,
2006-10-13 18:20:08 · answer #7 · answered by missouri girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy her some clothes and tell her you think she'd look really sexy in them. It a good hint and a nice thing to do for your wife.
2006-10-13 18:21:09 · answer #8 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pick an outfit you like and say, You know, I really think you look gorgeous in this outfit.
2006-10-13 18:17:16 · answer #9 · answered by ammellisa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She dresses to make herself feel good. Try to shower her with compliments and tell her you want her to yourself (it might come off possessive if you say it wrong).
2006-10-13 18:18:51 · answer #10 · answered by jamesnjaime 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋