We have contacted school & the police. Told we must tell HIM first he is not allowed in house (done) Then he must be caught 2x before they will file for a restraining order...Hmmm guess how many women r killed & raped b4 they can get a restraining order. School another issue. Open campus they don't babysit. We do as much as humanly possible & still keep our jobs. When she is at her dads her rope is eyesight distance. No phones,computer,friends,nothing. We have had to go so far as 2 lock all phones up n bedroom or she finds them. At her moms(she works until 8pm) she threatens little sister & then he comes over. We have done stakeouts & tapped the phone there. (little sister has 2 have access n case big sister gets out of hand) we have set up friends 2 case the joint trying 2 catch them 2gether. he even told the cops in small little NE WI town that he had sex 3 x at her house and because it took place n different city it was handed to them & still no help now what?
2006-10-13 18:06:02 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
YOU CANT STOP LOVE BABY
I WOULD GO TO THE ENDS OF THE EARTH FOR MINE TOO
YOU SEEM IGNORANT OF THAT
2006-10-13 18:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
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2017-01-20 21:15:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a Lawyer and see about filing a case on Her. If the Police will not help, which is not right, perhaps hitting her with a lawsuit will. You have the evidence. Get Someone to stay with them while Mom works...find the money. Go to the District Attorneys Office, and the Mayor, go over the Police Departments Heads. Do everything in writing, certified. Remember the squeaky wheel gets the grease. Consider taking the 16 year old on Judge Hatchet, she has wonderful programs to help. If all else fails, move.
Look in the phone book for Attorneys, for Family Court, or Rape, find the ones who will give You the first consultation for free. Write down everyone You call, who You spoke with and what they say. See if it is legal to contact His job to notify them of His actions, but only do it if You can do it legally. Do a back ground check to see if He has prior offenses such as this. I can't understand having to catch them twice. Is 16 legal where You live? My Mom had a Friend whose daughter-in-law was cheating on Her Son, and they lived in a small town. She put a large sign in Her back window of Her car saying (Her name) is a shore with a W. Ask the attorney if You can pass out fliers warning other parents. Fight, fight, fight. Contact the Politicians in Your State, that can be done by computer now. Godspeed.
2006-10-13 18:20:47 · answer #3 · answered by JusticeStandsTall 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Just because you don't like it doesn't mean you should try and stop them being together, she is legally consented to have sex regardless of anyone elses age. This guy is probably a lot more maturer than a 16 or 17 year she could have gone with. I was 16 when I met my first boyfriend and although my Mum wasn't too pleased that he was 24 she accepted it and would rather I was happy and not having to sneak around feeling miserable all the time - because of that it lasted over a year and I grew up to have a good education of sex, we were sensible about sex and I don't feel now that sex is "wrong" like you could be making her feel.
2006-10-13 21:32:56 · answer #4 · answered by caroline b 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Iam only 19 so ikinda no wot ur daughter is go in through all dat u are doing 2 stop her seeing him have u actually sat down and spoke 2her and seen wot she has 2 say or thought that they mite actually have feelings 4 each other in stead of Putin so much effort in 2 stoping them witch some of the things u have done are crazy try 2 understand her because it wont be long b4 she is legal to have sex what then lock her in her room 24/7 and homes school her. did u talk 2 her bout the pill or using condoms. keep acting in this way and u will lose her 4 good. best of look
2006-10-13 18:28:26 · answer #5 · answered by cruise girl 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What kind of Mayberry town do you live in? Sheesh... bad news for you and yours.
I'd do a number of things. I'd contact the local prosecutor's office and see what the law is in your state. At the least, he should be charged with statutory rape - but it does depend on the age of consent in your state. Find out just what your rights are and be persistent!!
Go as high as you can with law enforcement. Contact the sheriff, contact the state's attorney general's office.. Contact the school - you do you have rights there. While they are not babysitters, they are in charge of protecting your children while they are there.
Another option is staging a well-planned intervention and send your daughter to Outward Bound or a similar program.
On another note, get the girl on birth control and get her to a gynecologist or Planned Parenthood for an examination, including tests for sexually transmitted diseases. Get some condoms.
Good luck.
2006-10-13 18:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by Aunt Gwenna 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you are in the UK - you can't stop it - it's legal! But if you are in the US it is 16 unless you reside in Arizona (18) Illinois (17) Louisiana (17) Montana (18) New Mexico, New York and Nabraska are all 17 North Dakota (18) Tenessee (18) Texas (17) Virginia (18) Washington, Wisconsin and Wyoming are all 18. The Worldwide average age is 16.
Plus I agree with a few of the others who have left comments, You can't come in the way of love. My brother was 16 when he met his wife, she was 23 and they have now been married for 15 years and are as madly in love now as they were then!
2006-10-14 11:36:57 · answer #7 · answered by DikiDoo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you need to sit back and take a breath. First of all she's old enough to make this decision, or so she thinks and 7 years is not that big a gap. I've known couples who married and there were 14, 12 and 8 years difference.
Did you ever stop to think that maybe this is the love of her life? And his?
Instead of taking so much time dogging her maybe you and her mom? dad? should try getting on with yours and leave her be.
If she threatens the little sis about him coming over look what you have done already? They should be growing to be friends and you *adults* are pulling them apart.
Shame on you!
2006-10-13 20:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
At this point, you have to consider what's more important - your job or the child's safety?
One of you needs to talk to your boss to see about taking a leave of absence. This *child* should not be left to her own devices - *ever.*
Or you could always call one of those boot camp places. If she's threatening her little sister, you would certainly have cause to do it.
If my oldest daughter ever threatened her younger sister, I can assure you she would *never* think about doing it again. I'm not talking about abuse, I'm talking about a punishment she would *never* forget.
It also seems that this *child* needs counseling. Maybe even an inpatient type setting. She seems to be acting out and right now you're not getting what you need from law enforcement.
It also may be an avenue of pursuit to pursue truancy charges against her. Can you hire a PI? If you can, have them tail her at school, and the moment she leaves to be with him, have him get on the line with the cops. Weirdly enough, they'll be more inclined to go after a truant than a sex offender. Go figure. And if the PI has good connections with the cops, he may even be able to help you out with keeping Creep away from child.
It may even be worth your while to have a PI trail these two and get photos of them in compromising positions (at 2 different times to satisfy requirement) and then go that route.
I'm really sorry you're having to deal with this. What a crappy situation to be in.
2006-10-13 18:16:00 · answer #9 · answered by tagi_65 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
what u cant stop it and you have no right to.
they are both legal (assuming your in UK) so its none of your business.
you can stop it happening at your house tho.
the best thing to do is if YOU be mature.
explain to her about love and sex (ie when shes older some men wont want "damaged goods" if she sleeps around)
explain to her about safe sex and get her on the pill or something. the depo injection is very good, its once every 12 weeks and there are no pills to hav to remember in the mean time.
and remember age really is only a number, when i was 17 my bf was 28. we were together for 3 years. he might love her and she him for all you know. my mum hated me being with him, she even kicked me out at 18, but that just made us closer as we lived together.
so YOU be the adult and just make sure she understands all the risks involved, but dont live her life for her, she is old enough to make her own decisions now
MJ
2006-10-13 19:34:39 · answer #10 · answered by mj_junkie86 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you need to chill a bit.
Here in the Uk the legal age of consent is 16.
She has decided to have sex and there really isn't much you can do about it. But you can have an adult conversation with her about the dangers she is running. You can make sure she has adequate protection - the pill and a ready supply of condoms (belt and braces!). You can talk to her abot STDs and about pregnancy. By allowing her to have sex in her own home you are also making it less dangerous - she is less likely to be raped or attacked in her own home - much more likely in the back seat of a car or a hotel room and this is what she will end up doing if you continue to treat her like a six year old.
Your baby is growing up fast - you can push her away with your ridiculous stance or you can help her become a confident, knowledgeable woman in control of her own sexuality.
I first had sex at 16 with my boyfriend (admittedly the age gap wasn't as big as with your daughter) and my parents did exactly what I have just described to you. I thank them for it, they made me feel comfortable with my sexuality, with my realtionship with them. It made me take care of myself and respect them because they gave me respect as a fledgling adult too.
Of course the school don't babysit - your daughter is no baby.
2006-10-13 22:09:33 · answer #11 · answered by Leapling 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋