Everyone has try to talk to him but he refuse to open up and tell things to anyone.
He did tell few things to his girlfriend but not as much as he did to his grandma.
What could be making him comfort to talk with my mother? I've tried to use same approach and it didn't work, I've tried everything and nothing work. I hope that he could at least open up a bit and let us know a bit more about what is going on with him.
2006-10-13 17:34:39 · 12 answers · asked by Mary M 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
He's seventeen.
2006-10-13 17:37:52 · update #1
gosh, maybe you are trying too hard. If he's talking to Grandma, that's fantastic! Everyone needs at least one person to confide in. If it's grandma it's great. i'm guessing your son is a teenager? He'll get through it, but really, you need to let him know you're there if he needs you, but also let him have a bit of space to make a few mistakes and learn a little bit about life. If he's talking to Grandma, she might be able to tell you if he's up to anything that you need to know about, but don't force her to give up his deepest secrets or thoughts, that might make hime stop confiding in her and turning to someone else. Sorry - it really is very unlikely that it will be Mum or Dad. Give him space, let him grow. The very best of luck.
2006-10-13 18:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say probably a few reasons why: obviously, he feels his grandma is more approachable, but still close enough to understand him, whereas you are his mum and he may feel as though he could be judged by you or that you may not be able to give an 'outside' observation. the next time your son is talking to his grandma, just in general, observe her body language, most communication is done via the body, very small percentage is actually speaking. it sounds as though your son has a great rapport with his grandma, i think that is wonderful and i would definitely nurture that relationship they have with each other.
2006-10-13 17:51:30 · answer #2 · answered by leolady0765 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for sure! Christmas isn't about promises. faith aside, Christmas is about kinfolk and the exhilaration of giving. At my residing house, we do not open promises until eventually the finished kinfolk is waiting, so as that any one can take section on the relaxing. this is no longer a lot of a topic at my residing house, notwithstanding - my 6-year-old son woke my husband up with each and every of the noise he replaced into making downstairs!
2016-12-04 19:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is comfortable with her. Obviously there's no threat and trust is more prominent in his relationship with her. It doesn't mean that he won't open up to you if you try similar approaches, it may just mean that she is offering him something that is easing his mind more at this time.
I would fall back and allow him to have the moments with your mother. I believe if there is something extremely serious, that she would let you in on it or encourage him to share it with you. Be patient.
2006-10-13 17:44:11 · answer #4 · answered by sugarapple25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows what goes on in the minds of children. Be grateful, though, that he does open up to someone in the family, especially a person whom you trust. Perhaps, you could ask that question of him, but through his grandmother. Maybe she can get to the answer.
GOOD LUCK
2006-10-13 17:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by nonametomention 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i did the same thing with my grandma when i was a teen, teens really dont care to talk to there parents unless there close to them i find, but i was very close to my grandmother and felt that i could talk to her about everything , maybe he feels that he is closer to his grandmother have that special thing where they just seem to be more understanding and seem to like to listen more not that u dont like to listen to your child but just that grandmothers are special to there grandkids...i lost both of my grandmothers and i miss having them to talk to ... so maybe hes just going through something where he is noticing how special your mother is and wants to spend time with her..
2006-10-13 17:53:49 · answer #6 · answered by katie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be because she listened and was non-judgemental from an early age and he always found it easy to talk with her. The good thing is he's talking with someone close to you, who you know and trust.
2006-10-13 17:48:25 · answer #7 · answered by JSalakar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might feel more comfortable talking to his grandmother, might feel that she is more understanding and he feels safe... parents are the ones who correct and judge and rule over the child...grandmothers are nurturing and easy to talk too...at his age, do not take as a personal insult. the main thing is he is talking and trying to work out his issues....let him keep this to himself for awhile..as he grows more mature he will come to you....
2006-10-13 18:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by churchonthewayseniors 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because you're are to pushy. He doesn't want to open up because you are trying to hard to make him open up. You sound kind of controlling, let him grow up on his own terms, not yours.
2006-10-13 17:42:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really doesn't matter, be happy that he opened up to someone. (My thought is she is less judgmental or he thinks she is because she listens and doesn't try to jump in and "set him straight")
2006-10-13 17:43:40 · answer #10 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋