A 23 yr old man & 16yr old girl having sex how can we stop it?

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A 23 yr old man & 16yr old girl having sex how can I stop it?
My niece is 16 and she has been hiding a relationship with a 23 yr old man and they have been having sex he even admitted it to the police and they won't do anything. He has posed as her father and called her into school sick, picks her up for lunch and enters her mothers home when she is not there (against her wishes) Cops won't do anything. Mother, Father and Stepmother and me the Aunt are outraged. She is grounded from everything but at night when mom is working until 8pm sneaks him in house or meets him at lunch. We follow them, catch them in the bedroom together and even tap phones and force her to sleep with door open. She is only allowed to go to school and come home now. But at lunch time no way to stop her. Cops told him that there is nothing we can do us against them. That is stuatory rape in WI boyfriend/girlfriend/consentua... or not. Why won't they help us stop it? What can be done?

Answer 1

Kick his ***

Answer 2

Talk to a Lawyer and see about filing a case on Her. If the Police will not help, which is not right, perhaps hitting her with a lawsuit will. You have the evidence. Get Someone to stay with them while Mom works...find the money. Go to the District Attorneys Office, and the Mayor, go over the Police Departments Heads. Do everything in writing, certified. Remember the squeaky wheel gets the grease. Consider taking the 16 year old on Judge Hatchet, she has wonderful programs to help. If all else fails, move. Look in the phone book for Attorneys, for Family Court, or Rape, find the ones who will give You the first consultation for free. Write down everyone You call, who You spoke with and what they say. See if it is legal to contact His job to notify them of His actions, but only do it if You can do it legally. Do a back ground check to see if He has prior offenses such as this. I can't understand having to catch them twice. Is 16 legal where You live? My Mom had a Friend whose daughter-in-law was cheating on Her Son, and they lived in a small town. She put a large sign in Her back window of Her car saying (Her name) is a shore with a W. Ask the attorney if You can pass out fliers warning other parents. Fight, fight, fight. Contact the Politicians in Your State, that can be done by computer now. Godspeed.

Answer 3

You have to do something about it. If it is against the law then the cops should have taken the guy into custody. If they fail to do their job then you can sue the police department. Write down the names of the officers who handled the case and go directly to the police department and tell them about the situation. Also contact an attorney in your area and tell them how the police are not doing their job. Contact the local news reporters in your area. You got to take it seriously for the crooked cops to stop lagging. Some of the cops would just ignore doing their job because they don't want to go through the mess of the prosection process and have to deal with all the paper work. You need to do something about if you really care about ur daughter and to rid the crooked cops.

Answer 4

Even though the sex is consensual, it is statuatory rape (which means if a minor and an adult get it on, the parents can leagaly press rape (statuatory) against the adult. try talking to her parents about doing that.
otherwise if the cops dont do anything thats neglagence and can also be brought into court. dontn u just love the way the courts work (when u are not guilty of anything that is)
you have a voice use the media if u have to take it to the supreme court. if nothing is done than sue some1 and trust me than something will get done. make sure u sue the right person(s) though.

Answer 5

if where you live this falls under statutory rape then the police have to do something its the law and by now doing something about it they are breaking the law. call the aclu or go to your local d.a.

otherwise and i know this will sound bad and will be the hardest thing you've ever done but accept it for now...the reason i say this is because the guy and your niece have had quite a time together when its secretive and rebellious but consider how they will act if its accept to some degree. i'm not saying you ought to invite the creep to your house but basically for your own sakes ignore it, don't bring it up in conversation nor ride her about it. just act as if it doesn't exist...it will drive her nuts knowing you know whats going on but don't seem to care. she'll hate it that she can't get a rise out of you too and you'll see eventually it will sputter and die out. but too if it is the law in your state pursue it, go over the cops heads they are not all of the law and there is one higher than them. personally i can't tell you what i'd really want to do to the guy but good luck..and i hope you nail his sorry butt to a wall.

Answer 6

I can understand your agony but this is not very uncommon in this country is it? I know of many high school girls in my neighbourhood who hang out with guys in their mid-20's. You are outraged only because you found out that they are having sex but there are so many other cases which are not spoken aloud.

THis is become very common in america since the late 90's. percentage of girls of 13 and above getting aborted or becoming pregnant is on the rise. As and when they grow up the parents are responsible and educate their children of the good bad and ugly. But in this century parents are too busy and they seldom try to teach their kids anything. They know that the kids will anyways grow up if they personally nourish them or not. They know that the school will give them just enough knowledge to get to the next stage of life.

I belive spending more time with children , knowing their likes and dislikes and act accordingly. Its not wrong to influence the kid when they cannot think much for themselves. As they grow up they will remember what their parents thought them and act accordingly.

This 16 year old kid must have probably grown up watching their parents quarelling and swearing at each other and watching R rated movies in front of them and discussing their last next sex experience when their kid is around. Eventhough the kid probabaly didnt understand the whole thing but they definitely pick up the wrong things quick and easy.

Please have them around good people, decent conversations and healthy entertainments. Its gonna be very hard to be like mentioned in this century and in this part of the world. This is the reason i have decided to take my kids back to my homeland and come back when they are old enough to understand the difference between the right and the wrong (cultural and the common sense way).

btw i am not married yet and i dont even know who i am gonna marry :)) Yes i have already planned a lil bit :p

Answer 7

May I assume you are american? If so, then u are correct that is statutory rape. Cops should actually do something about. As twisted as it may sound may I suggest that u video-tape one of their encounters. I know it sounds borderline porn but maybe do this and show to police, they may sit up and take notice.
However, on the flipside, who are u to decide what is best for your niece? I understand that u are family and wish to protect her however at 16 many people are capable of thinking for themselves. It is her decision to see this guy and as long as it doesn't affect her schooling I don't think there is a problem. Maybe, however, she should be a bit more respectful about the wishes concerning not bringing him home.
On a final note, by openly oppossing the relationship and such, u are encouraging her to be rebellious and continue it (teenagers being rebellious). Maybe care a little less and it will lose it's appeal to her.

Answer 8

This world is a shame at times kids do what they want and adults taking advantage of that I would send her to a special school somewhere far where they are strict and dont let this happen at least till 18 I had the same thing and got pregnant at 16 and I wish someone got in the middle and said enough is enough now he is long gone and Im still struggling best wishes and good luck

Answer 9

Is your family ready for a runaway situation? I am sorry to say that this is heading there really quick! You need intervention with the girl first. Make sure that she knows that you are all doing this because you love her. You remember what it was like being a teenager especially when you were "in love"! Then the 23yr old needs to be racked in the ballz and taught a good lesson. As for the police, you really need to go over the head of the last ranking officer that you spoke with if there are laws in your state that protect innocent girls.
Good luck!

Answer 10

First off sorry to hear that but now that ya'll went to the police and they won't do anything take matter in to your own hands and BUST A CAP IN HIS A** as soon as you see him in your house and the cops won't be able to do anything to you because he will be in your house uninvited. As for her, when she goes to lunch at school either have a teacher eat lunch with her or one of you go to the School and have lunch with her. If this is not possible, talk to the principle and have it where she has to eat her lunch in the office with an adult. I wish you all the best with this!

Answer 11

I cannot comment much on the cop thing but it must be fraustrating to your daughter as it is to you. Please talk to both of them instead of calling "authorities" and blame them for whats happening because that is what they are doing the samething back. So, get together as family and sort things out quietly. I wouldnt want anyone make me look like a fugitive with a rape charges but I would really appreciate someone understanding my situation and come upfront. Goodluck.