so I see her all the time and I really like her but everytime I see her she is asking me how many loans I've closed and how much commision I'm getting from each and if I just get paid once a month ect ect.. I try to just laugh it off and say...oh "i don't keep track"...or I "try not to jinx myself" but today she was driving me crazy with the questions. I really like her and were good friends but I guess I've always I'm more private about how much me and my husband make? How can I say something to her without being rude? or should I just keep trying to laugh it off? I really want to be nice about it I'm not a mean person? any ideas? She even asked my daughter about the number of loans. I closed..my daughter is 10?
2006-10-13 17:02:32 · 18 answers · asked by Jen G 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You should just say something like "I would rather not talk about it" or " The company I work for will not let us talk about our job". That way you can blame it on something else so you don't feel like you have hurt her feelings. And I would tell my daughter the next time she ask her to say " My mom won't let me talk about it".
2006-10-13 17:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by motheroftwo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try saying something like "I don't gauge my success by how much I make, but more on how good of a person I am, how many people I help. I am so busy at work I don't even focus on my stats. But yes, I am doing okay, I guess, etc"...or just change the subject.
By the way, this person is being rude to ask you AND your little daughter!
2006-10-13 17:04:13 · answer #2 · answered by Myra 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-04 19:40:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she may be envious of you working from home and wants information. I would politely answer one of her questions like," Oh, I don't know for sure, why do you ask?" If she responds "just curious" offer her some informational material so she can look into the career herself. And if she declines, I would just confront her and say I'm really not comfortable sharing my financial information with others and would really appreciate it if you would not ask me those questions. Make it clear that you're not trying to be rude, you're just uncomfortable and it's starting to hinder your relationship with her. If she's a true friend she would rather you be honest than avoid her.
2006-10-13 17:14:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's extremely rude of her! And worse! She's a very nosy person and probably a gossip. I would be more straightforward than you want to be. First, tell her that you'd appreciate her not asking your child personal questions about your family. No - demand it! And next time she asks you a personal question just look at her and say, "Why?" That usually stops them in their tracks. If it doesn't just say, "So and so, you've asked me enough questions that are not your business to last a lifetime. Give it a rest!
2006-10-13 17:09:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
depends on why she is asking. maybe she's deciding to go into the same buisness and is curious as to whether it is lucrative for her or not. next time she asks, just ask her if she's contemplating doing the same. if she says no, then politely let her know that you wish not to discuss finances. tell her that your not trying to be rude, but would rather discuus another topic.
2006-10-13 17:06:45 · answer #6 · answered by locowherto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently, she doesn't know any better. Unfortunately it doesn't seem like she can take a hint either. You'll just have to tell her that's not a topic your comfortable discussing. She may feel embarrassed when you say it, but she really needs to know.
Good Luck
2006-10-13 17:11:38 · answer #7 · answered by D N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be desperate for some additional income and so is anxious to know if you have somethign that works from home. Wish I could do what you are mentioning, I have tried three work from home projects but neither one worked out very well.
Then too, maybe she is just plain greedy.
Tell her bluntly that her constant quizzing is straining your friendship and it will be hard to think so kindly of her if it continues.
2006-10-13 17:21:03 · answer #8 · answered by mindbender - seeker of truth 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to laugh it off, and since it is ABSOLUTELY NONE OF HER BUSINESS, all you have to say to her (and very firmly) is that you never discuss your business --- which includes your financials --- with ANYONE else. Period! And by the way, ask her politely but firmly to LEAVE YOUR LITTLE GIRL OUT OF THIS!
2006-10-13 17:09:12 · answer #9 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very rude and its none of her business, just tell her you do fine and you disclose your finances to anyone. or turn it around on her and ask what she makes, how many loans has she closed/opened etc. see how she feels when you ask her the same very personal questions
2006-10-13 17:09:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋