Mine bitches about everything I do! She even bitches about things that I do when she basically does some of the same stuff! How do you deal with it?
2006-10-13 16:44:59 · 24 answers · asked by madroofer36 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't want a divorce! I've been with her most of my adult life! I just want her to stop bitching about everything.
2006-10-18 15:31:50 · update #1
I'm obviously not a man, but I have to say, I admire your question. This is one of the reasons that I don't always get along with females - I HATE the bitching and nagging. I refuse to act this way with my husband, because I wouldn't want him acting that way towards me. Since I'm not a ****** or a bitcher, I can't say EXACTLY why women have a habit of doing this, but I can guarantee that's it not all your fault. I think some women just need something to complain about. Maybe something is going on in her life and she is taking it all out on you. I wouldn't go as far as divorcing her just yet. Maybe you should try to get to the bottom of it. I know guys aren't always all about "feelings" and that type of thing, but have you tried talking to her about it? Explain how crazy it's making you. Tell her how you feel. She may not even realize what she's doing. I wish you luck with this! I hope you find out what's going on and put a stop to it. I know that it would drive me insane if my husband was acting that way. Good luck!
2006-10-13 16:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by Megan 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest you go for marriage counseling. My husband and I went many years ago and it really helped. We had very similiar story and both could see each others faults but not our own. I admit I had a very hard time admitting I had any! It may be covered by the health insurance, ours was in part but we also took some classes through our church which were free. Marriage is a give and take relationship. It sounds like you have a big heart, which I am that way too. It is hard but I think it is best to go as you sound like you are both about ready to give up and may regret it if you do. Good luck.
2016-05-22 00:22:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be that nagging little wife who never shut up. Not so much with the b*tching, but with non-stop chatter and nagging. When my husband finally told me that I simply talked too much and that it drove him crazy, he did so with a very serious tone, without acccusing me of anything, and without being frustrated or ticked off. And I "got it". Before that, he'd just tune out or flip the 'off' switch, which drove me nuts. Now, I taper off the amount of talk, and he listens to me waaaaaaaay more. In fact he basically listens to everything I have to say. Compromise!!!
2006-10-14 01:11:44 · answer #3 · answered by olliebee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do I deal with it?
"SHOT AND A BEER, SHOT AND A BEER, SHOT AND A BEER!" -- Scott Ferrall.
Seriously, my wife's got really crappy PMS mood swings, so I made sure that our house was large enough that I wouldn't have to deal with her 1 week out of every month, and insisted on no intercom system. Our solution is we each have our own hobby rooms that we can cave ourselves in when the need arises.
2006-10-13 17:00:46 · answer #4 · answered by Charles C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its the same amount of women who have men who are always doing and saying **** that they have absolutely no business doing or saying.
But honestly, double-standard people I have zero tolerance for. If sh's that selfish and hypocritical..either seek counseling or seek another who would be less selfish, more considerate of tolerance as a male, and more aware of her own faults.
My partner and I just talk or scream things out. Sometimes we realize our faults and sometimes we fall asleep with our fingers still pointing at the other. It balances out to where its tolerable.
Again, therapy or leave if its not tolerable.
2006-10-13 16:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by wearyblossom 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
to all the poeple who said get a divorce,are losers.i'm a wife and i do ***** at my husband,becuz he needs it sometimes.it mostly happens when he don't pay attention of what i'm saying so nagging and bitching do work,u don't like it,do the things she simple asks for.just as u will want her to do for u.
2006-10-13 16:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by lovegirl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ha ha ha im the bitchy wife. we do love our men but we just get tired of them acting like children and we figure since asking nice doesnt work then bitching for awhile will... good luck buddy maybe when she asks for a lil help you should respond before she bitches.
2006-10-13 16:48:02 · answer #7 · answered by evilella 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
We wouldn't always have to b*tch if men didn't always give us a reason to. Pay attention to what we say the first time and we won't have to nag.
2006-10-13 16:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well not sure what will work for oyu but i just go outside when she starts and do stuff outside, and if she complains about you doing stuff when she does the same tell her its her fault in the first place, i just ignore her for awhile.
2006-10-13 17:56:38 · answer #9 · answered by someone_you_wish_you_knew 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
All men have wives that bit*h and nag. Suicide seems like a good way out....
2006-10-13 16:59:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋