2006-10-13 16:29:38 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
let it go! seriously! dont let those nice lovey feelings get you in trouble! one problem could be that you only remember the good things of the relationship so you imagine your life wtih him bliss....dont do it! I've been in teh same boat as you except I'm engaged, the more I thought about it the more I realized that I am in the best place in my life right now and so much would change if I were to go back with my ex. You obviously married this guy for a reason, there has to be somethign real there. Hold on to it and do a lot of thinking and remembering....even focus of the bad times with your ex to get yourself fired up over him again.
Good luck! :)
2006-10-13 16:33:50 · answer #1 · answered by M. M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really dug the last boyfriend i had before I got married. It was quite clear that it wouldn't work out and I never thought about going back to him - but after I got married I did think about him a lot. Sometimes you can't help wonder what might have been.
I know that I made the right choice, but I did track him down after i got married and told him that I did. I told him that I wished him very very well in his life and that he really deserved a wonderful wife and I hoped he got her soon.
I think he appreciated it, and when he did get married he emailed me to tell me and tell me a bit about the wedding. There was never any suggestion that we regretted out decisions or anything - we just still really like each other and have warm feelings for one another. I think it is probably best that we live far away from each other now, but I am glad I called him. I feel I have a life long friend in him if I ever need it and I am grateful.
Peace!
2006-10-13 16:34:40 · answer #2 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me and please don't make the same mistake i did. I blamed my husband for my life and losing my exboyfriend because he did have a little to do with it but we make our lives and you have made yours. Love you husband and your baby and make the best of things and move on and never lose touch of where your responibilities lie and that is with the life you have now and if you can't then you will live and sad and miserable life but if you can wake up and love your life and try to make the best with your husband then leave now because if that is what you truely want give it a year and if nothing develops in your heart do him and yourself a favor and that is move on don't waste your time or his. I did it and stayed married for 20yrs. and after i left I realized there really was something there but you mask it because of anger or resentment. My son is now 28 and going through the same thing with his wife and now I see what i did to my husband because its killing my son and he has no children so I tell him to leave but he is in love......I feel awful for him
2006-10-13 16:35:45 · answer #3 · answered by cshell442003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat.. First question the feelings you have for your husband.. If you have a good life and you are happy.. Let go of the ex.. I have been married for 3 years.. And was madly in love with soemone else for 4 years before that.. But I'm finally accepting that my husband has given me my home, my car.. My child.. Everything.. And where is my ex.. He left me..
2006-10-13 16:34:16 · answer #4 · answered by britney813 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to grow up sugar. You made your choice to be with someone other than your ex. You are now married to that other man and you have a child. If you still loved your ex you should have never gotten married. I mean think with your brain and not your sex organs sweetheart. Is it worth loosing your family?
2006-10-13 16:38:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
S--t or get off the pot. Your holding onto those feeling from fear and insecurity most likely. Even if you're not its a diservice to the man you're living with now. Get over yourself and then do the right and honourable thing. Let your actions reflect your innermost beliefs. If you don't love the father then leave him. This has nothing to do with your ex. Pathetic.
2006-10-13 16:32:40 · answer #6 · answered by joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wonder how old you are...i bet young, between 18 and 25?
either way, it might be because you are missing something you once had in your relationship, not because you wnat to be with that other person. ever think about how life would be like without your hubby and kid? imagine having that taken away because you feel a need to be with an ex...would it be worth it? i dont want you to be miserable, but i dont want you to regret your decision. good luck with that...dont act on impulses or you'll end up alone.
2006-10-13 16:38:32 · answer #7 · answered by *mommy to two* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have asked yourself this question before you got married and had a baby. Your marriage and your child should be your primary focus now. It is very disrespectul and unfair to your husband for you to even go here. Your ex is just that. ex, done, finished. How would you feel if your husband felt this way towards his ex? Treat people the way they should be treated.
2006-10-13 16:34:33 · answer #8 · answered by Mae G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1st let me ask u is ur ex single or taken, if he is single than it is just lust n wishin u were still single n nothin else, 2nd if he is in a relationship than its still lust, just wishin u can still be childless n free, u don't have feelings for him, u r just confused havin a baby, not havin the freedom u once had, u r still adjustin to bein tied down, sometimes dat can take yrz, so look at ur baby daddy n ur baby n accept it, dat u r a good mom n good wife, n u'll c itz just lust nothin more, Note Mention lust 4X
2006-10-13 16:35:15 · answer #9 · answered by KaOz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a converstaion with you ex and once you speak to him and find out what he is doing in his life you ll be fine. I think the mystery is whats killing you inside.Just remember the grass isnt always greener on the other side !
2006-10-13 16:31:58 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋