My husband doesnt realize his own temper.He always thinks he's right when he yells or even ends up damaging things(phones,holes in the wall).Everytime someone attempts to disrespect him he feels that ;that person deserves to get beat.I am the complete opposite and i try to talk to him but he thinks he is always right. (ex)My 14 year old cousin threw his shoe and it hit his head and my husband told me that he felt like cracking his head open.Its my cousin and i know he was playing around.How can i make my husband realize that he has to leave the street s*** alone and grow up ?
2006-10-13 16:29:20 · 8 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like you are more mature than he is, and since he thinks he is always right, he probably isn't going to listen to you or anyone else that has something to say he doesn't agree with. I'd suggest counseling, even without him, and he really needs an anger management course. Is there anyone whom he really respects and listens to who could suggest this, too? You may need a more united front when you approach him with a suggestion like this, esp. since he has a violent temper. Whatever you do, do not let him abuse you - ever! Not verbally or physically, either. He realizes his own temper. Don't let him fool you. He just doesn't care, or have enough respect for anyone else, to control it, and he is behaving selfishly. Remember - the abuse will get worse with time. Seek counseling so you'll know how to handle it, and take care of yourself.
2006-10-13 16:41:48 · answer #1 · answered by Deedee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just my opinion, but you might want to consider signing both of you up for counselling.
Usually, when a person feels the need to be physically abusive, they have a backgroud of either getting beaten on or being raised in an abusive background. 9 times out of 10 they will take it out on their partner, kids or anyone that's close to them.
Please seek some help... I've been thru the marriage from hell and can tell you from experience it's best to get out & get help earlier rather than later. One of these days or it may even be today, he will turn and start abusing you - don't let this happen...get help...please! Before it's too late. Call a local Domestic Violence Shelter and ask for resources.
2006-10-13 16:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by grumpygal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's like this now, he'll never change. They NEVER do! You'll never be able to "make" him realize anything! Pretty soon he'll be trying to damage you, not just the walls. Please leave while you still can....These men never, never change. They can't control it and most don't want to. Don't think you can cry and beg and reason with him because you can't. You can't change him. I speak from a lifetime of experience. My father was like that and grew worse over the years. My first husband was like that and I tried for 7 years to "make him realize" that he was wrong to behave in this way. I finally left after he almost choked me to death one afternoon. Most importantly, DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN WITH THIS MAN! If you do, he will make their life miserable. Don't risk it....I'm trying to "make you realize" that you need to leave now. It will never get better.....I know you love him since you married him but he'll never listen to you. I'm so sorry.
2006-10-13 16:58:06 · answer #3 · answered by IamLoKi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is this a new development? or has your husband always been this way? you should get him to see a doctor...aggression and temper can be signs of high blood pressure which lead to heart attacks, so he should get on medication for it.
if it's not a medical problem, try the best you can to get him to a psychologist. he needs to see how is anger is upsetting you and the effect he's having on the important people in his life.
2006-10-13 16:33:15 · answer #4 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband is the exact same way, we had to replace 2 doors, a crockpot, and a couch in our old house. when he's driving he goes completely psychotic EVERY time. I dont think he'll ever change, he doesn't think he has a problem.
2006-10-13 16:34:16 · answer #5 · answered by texascomet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to change (go to counseling, talk it out more, -use you and I statements when you bring all of this up to him-) or you will have to leave because you can't take it anymore. But you will have to LEAVE WHEN YOU SAY THIS OR IT WILL BE LIKE CRYING WOLF AND HE WILL NEVER EVER TAKE YOU SERIOUSLY AGAIN. good luck
2006-10-13 16:35:42 · answer #6 · answered by Trojan8408 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you try to enroll him in anger management.
2006-10-13 16:34:01 · answer #7 · answered by jocelyn o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him
2006-10-13 16:32:49 · answer #8 · answered by Jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋