Why do husbands think that they can have all the fun a you are home with the kids and no one will take care?

Question

I AM ALWAYS HOME WITH THE KIDS AND STAY HOME SO I WON'T GET THE 3RD DEGREE.

Answer 1

That used to be me, then I threw a fit and packed my stuff to show I wasn't gonna put up with it, so he settled down.

Answer 2

Because you are allowing him to do that to you. If you put your foot down and tell him that he needs to take care of the kids while you go out and have some fun. If he does not do this then I suggest you find someone that you trust to watch your kids while you paint the town red. I will also suggest you have him followed by someone that he does not know. Usually when men have all the freedom they want they might be up to no good. Do not be a doormat to this man you are worth so much more and you have every right to live your life as well.

Answer 3

It's perfectly healthy for a guy to get away every once in a while (more than once a week is pushing it) for a little time with his friends. And by that token, it's perfectly fine for a woman to do the same thing. Having a social life outside of a marriage is hardly a sin.

I am guessing by the heat in your post that he does this quite often though, and gets mad/ refuses when you want to go out with the girls. Let him know how you feel. If he has set up a double standard, or refuses to let you have any fun it may be time to try something drastic.

Answer 4

3rd degree? Been there. Will not ever happen again. Do not let him make a prisoner out of you. Get a babysitter, go out with your husband or better yet...inform him that you and a couple of friends are hiring a sitter one night a week and going out for a "girls night out" you don't have to go clubing or get drunk or anything just some girl time ...maybe out for pizza or to the movies or something like that. Enjoy life, but be responsible about it! Stand up for yourself.

Answer 5

I hear you I'm the same way they can have Friends we cant they can come home from work and want to go to the store but god for bid we ask them to take the kids cause they never can or ask them to watch them for a while cause we need to go somewhere there answer is always take the kids

Answer 6

You need to tell your husband how you feel and that you would like to go out with him. Get a Babysitter and have some fun, with your husband. Make him feel wanted and loved and he will no longer give you the third degree.

Answer 7

Being parents it's a shared task. I understand men wanting to spend time with friends (I'm one of them), but women have the same right. So, I'll suggest to that husband, to take care of the kids sometimes, and allow his wife to spend some time with her friends. Or go to see friends together with the kids. Everybody needs socializing. You are keeping your wife in prison, and that leads to no good.

Answer 8

That happens alot. You should tell him you would love to go with him on his 'outtings' and the reason why he does that is because he can get away with it. At my home, I'd be the one to wash dishes all the time, but if I do let them pile up, he will eventually wash them his self. The same goes with you, if you leave one day, he has no choice but to watch the kids. When you get back and he starts in on you, just tell him, you do it all the time!!!

Answer 9

Whoa, there is something wrong here with communication between you and your husband. Don't be a doormat. Talk with him and work something out between the two of you so you won't be so resentful and angry. Most husbands don't do as you say - most are totally happy spending time with their children and wives.

Answer 10

I would have a husband like that for about 2.3 seconds!!!!!!! But look on the bright side: He's out of your hair!