Somepeople say that "MOST" people are Lesbians or gay because they was abused as a child or did not have a good/close relationship with their father. I am bi-sexual and I know that is NOT true for me. I think that it is NOT true but to be sure I figured I would ask to be sure. This is a real question people I am not trying to insult anyone. My question is do you think that most people are gay/lesbian because they was abused as a child or because they was not close to their father?
2006-10-13 15:57:20 · 24 answers · asked by larrys_babygurl_4life 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Thats what I said too. I was NOT abused and I was and still am close with my father. My brother is straight and so is my sister.
2006-10-13 16:04:20 · update #1
"jenniferchri..." Well you was wrong!
2006-10-13 16:05:16 · update #2
"IndyT" Thats what I told the person who told me that most people are gay because they was abused or not close with their father. I said its a sterotype.
2006-10-13 16:09:08 · update #3
Hello, and great question and observation. With the Foley scandal the old stereotypes come to the suface that gay people were abused as children or had defunked relationships with mom or dad. I think that we as humans just need some way to rationalize something we dont understand. To most same sex attraction is just not normal to them and they need a reason why someone would find the same sex attractive. It's just people needed a answer to why and what made that person that way. It cant be as simple as we (gay people) just dont find the opposite sex attractive. I am a out and proud lesbian and I was NOT abused sexually or any form by any male or female growing up. And I had/have wonderful relationships with both my parents. I am gay simply because I find women attractive and not men. And it being that simple is hard for some people to understand, i know from experience. When i first came out i had friends and some aunts asking me if i was ever abused and i wasnt but they just can't grasp that me being gay was MY choice and not some screw up in my past. So i just feel it is everyone needing a reason when the only reason is we are all our own person and we all make our own choices.
Granted i do know some gay people who did get abused but i also know straight people who were abused..so it all still comes down to the need for some to have a answer why and people making thier own choices....
2006-10-13 16:16:17 · answer #1 · answered by judgemental 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. How others feel and how they choose to live their life is up to them as long as it doesn't hurt anyone. If you don't approve, then you don't have to approve of it, but you shouldn't deny others their rights. A church shouldn't have to marry a gay couple if they don't feel it is right. As I doubt a gay couple would want someone to marry them if they didn't truly approve of their marriage. Marrying an animal or object is ridiculous. Neither of those can consent to marriage. Family members is a different story. Personally I wouldn't want to marry a close relative, but there are cases of those who fall in love with them. If that's how you feel, then that's how you feel. I wouldn't want to deny two people who love each other rights. It doesn't hurt anyone, except the possible children they could bring into the world. Is it anymore wrong for them to have kids than those who know their offspring will inherit certain conditions? Morally I feel both are wrong to have kids. There's plenty of healthy kids you can adopt. Being gay is not normal and is not right. People who get depressed and are suicidal is just as abnormal for human survival. However there is currently no proven way to turn a gay person straight. There's no medicine they can take or treatment they can get. Even if there was treatment, should they be forced to get the treatment? That's like telling everyone who has any condition that they must get treated for it. I find it insane that people use religion to persecute people, deny them rights, and even do hurtful and cruel things to them. I can't believe that the god they worship would stand by them and yet send a gay to hell because of the way they were born.
2016-05-22 00:17:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people were abused, but I also believe that some people that feel s if they arent good enough for the opposite sex try to find someone that will better accept them as a person and love them for who they are. For me, I was never close to my father, and I saw my stepfather beat my mother. Some people are born gay though, they might not like the opposite sex right from the beginning.
2006-10-14 03:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely not true. Most of those I know who are gay or lesbian were not abused as children & are close with their parents. I do know one young lady who was abused by a stepfather & wasn't close to her actual father, but she's very close to her mother & is recently married to a nice young man. According to the streotype she should have been a lesbian, but she's straight.
2006-10-13 16:12:37 · answer #4 · answered by Dragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all a female would get her gay tendencies from the maternal side, and a guy would be the one who needed the fathers love and attention more.
I absolutely disbelieve in genetic homosexuality. Its just not proven, and the bible would not condemn something that you were just born with. Is a pedophile born with his sexual desire for small children??? Can they help it, and isn't it wrong for us to condemn them for something they can't help?? Even it they never act on it, we think of them as perverted for desiring it. Its the same way with homosexuality, its as old as time, its called perversion. I sympathize with people who have these feelings, because I TRULY do not believe most homosexuals WANT to have these feelings, and so they are confused about how much control they have over it. But its temptation and not all that different than other choices we make. I may be REALLY tempted to steal something, but that doesn't give me a genetic disposition for theivery. Our culture has made it more acceptable, and so now each generation that has "urges" for the same sex, is told its good and they can't help it. Sexual freedom, casual sex, experimentation is so touted in our society, its no wonder people are confused. That doesnt make it right.
P.S. its not "abuse" that would make someone reach out for the same sex, but could be more of a strong lack of something that they only can find in the same sex.
2006-10-13 16:16:43 · answer #5 · answered by Coco 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
no, not at all true for most of us. most of the people I know that were abused as children are straight (except for my partner). I was not abused, I have straight parents (who were together 29 years until my father passed away...not divorced), I was close to my dad, and I'm still close to my mom (who I'm out to, and she accepts me), I knew no one gay when I was growing up, nor did I meet anyone gay until after I realized I was. the majority of the "reasons" people claim make people "turn" gay are not true for me....nor for 99.9% of my gay/lesbian friends. I'm not offended in the least, as it came from someone in our community (and asked politely, as well). most of the 'phobes come in here and merely make assumptions and accusations, never in the form of a sincere, polite question.
2006-10-13 16:03:28 · answer #6 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they were born that way. I wasn't abused and my father was around alot and I was close to both parents. Besides, my brother is straight as an arrow so explain that one =)
2006-10-13 15:59:16 · answer #7 · answered by JR 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I cannot think of a single incident that would suggest I was abused by any member of my family even though we were quite religious. My partner had the same experience, though her family were more extreme. After we began living together, their behavior would have ensured that their daughter would never return to their fold.
Best wishes, Rose P.
2006-10-13 16:44:47 · answer #8 · answered by rose p 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't have bad parents i have a great mother-my dad was an alcoholic,they divorced when i was 6 or 7,but he never mistreated me bad in any kinda' way! I wanta' say i was born this way-but i have to look back when i was in school and i hated people like me-or maybe i was just in denial i don't know-but in any case-I was never treated bad,didn't have a bad childhood with anyone bothering me!
2006-10-14 11:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sexuality has nothing to do with circumstances or how you were treated. Either you feel attraction for somebody of the opposite sex, or the same sex or like in your case you feel attracted equally to both. Society wants to determine who YOU feel attracted to, but how can they, only if you let them.
Sexual orientation is not a life style, is simply who you are, that's all. And is just one part of who you are.
2006-10-13 16:14:58 · answer #10 · answered by theenforcer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋