I'm 27 and have been with my bf for 5 years, currently I have no plans to marry him. But in my state if your with some one more then 8yrs your married, its called the common law marriage. I dont want to be married to anyone. How does this law effect me? To be honest it scares me. I just dont see why people feel they have to get married. I know you want to prove your love but why do u need to have a party and a peiece of paper to prove it. 3 years ago my bf asked me to marry him,i explained why I dont want to be married, he excepted that. Truth be told when I was growing up all my friends parents were divorced or seperated. My parents split when I was 9. In 95 my dad died but i know if he would have lived they would have divorced to. Before he died my mom was so bidder and angry, she used to say she wished she never got married. I've heard lots of other people say the same. So my ? again is why get married.
2006-10-13 15:57:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just want to make it clear...im not putting down anyone getting married, u love someone and want to prove it to the world and shout if from the roof tops thats great, wonderful for you. Im just saying for me and the way I think as or right NOW...its just not somthing im interested it. Maybe in 5 years i'll think differently about it.
2006-10-13 16:06:42 · update #1
I don't know. I'm in my 30s and have never married. People give me that "What's wrong with you?" look all the time. Maybe I'm paranoid, but I think the bias is still there. I don't know how to answer your question, but I'm on your side.
I think it's dishonest to tell somebody you'll love them forever no matter what. What human is capable of that?
2006-10-13 16:01:04 · answer #1 · answered by Sinner & Saint 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is a moral and traditional obligation, in the USA.
And you're really doing your bf a dishonor by not marrying him.There's no such thing as a tomorrow marriage, but all marriage laws affect you. You shouldn't base your life and future on the past. Just because your parents split from each other 18 years ago, doesn't mean you would end up divorcing. Besides, if your bf wants to save his family bloodline, the only way to morally do it, is to get married and have sex, resulting in children. To quote the columnist Amy, "to be together 8 years with no possibility of marriage, is not worth it." And even though your reasoning may seem understandable, it's really an irresponsible attitude, especially if you're a single mother.
2006-10-13 23:06:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, its like this...When you are married you have one partner, where as, when you are just boyfriend and girlfriend; you have several partners... If you are married and one of you screws around you know you have a lot to lose and you try not to do it again, in other words the guilt sets in....However, when you are boyfriends and girlfriends you can screw around and not really feel the same guilt as being married.....In a way you do, but you have no ring that really signifies this relationship is suppose to last forever....Marriage is suppose to be forever, and boyfriend and girlfriend is just a fling....Even though you have been together forever does not mean you are as married couples....Being married is more respectful where as just being a couple he can fall in love with someone else and leave you with even telling you why until after the fact....With marriage it is so sacred that you tend to lose a lot more than just being a couple...Being a couple for years without getting married is crazy, to think that you will just end up in divorce is all in your mind. Why live that way....I know a few people who have been just couples, and their relationship was totally out there....He did what he wanted just as long as he came home, and she did what she wanted....You are more like roommates....If that is the way you want it, then that is on you.....Be happy, but if you really think about it you two are really not committed as a true couple.....Do it right and get married.....
2006-10-13 23:39:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anastacia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a norm set by the society for a valid reason. It may not appear so relevant to some at a young age. But in later years of life it looms to be very relevant and that juncture there is nothing but to regret as life is irreversible.You may marry and get divorce; it is another matter. But getting married at the right age is definitely important.
2006-10-13 23:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by Ishan26 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The common law marriage only gives you rights to benefits, community property, etc. if you claim those rights. It's not like the government pronounces you "man and wife" against your will. Do a little research.
BTW, marriage between a man and woman has been the foundation of every human civilization in every culture. JUst because it doesn't suit you does not mean that it is a flawed concept.
2006-10-13 23:01:51 · answer #5 · answered by Senor Pig 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because women keep getting married. It's horrible.
I've been married 36 years and I know it's a rotten choice for women.
Statistically single women live longer than single men,
Married men are happier than single men.
So---we are forgetting our role in the world and doing things for the convenience of men.
Don't do it.
2006-10-13 23:24:34 · answer #6 · answered by Cookie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it in this time and age everyone lives together and nobody gets married anymore.
Notice Divorce rate been going down, because no one is getting married.
2006-10-13 22:59:58 · answer #7 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO, common law marriage is if you LIVED TOGETHER.FOR 7 YEARS........YOU HAVE ONLY BEEN WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND 5 YEARS....YOU ARE FINE...you do not have to be married if you don't want to...and because of your experiences....
2006-10-13 23:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by sweet 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
do what you feel is best not what society thinks
2006-10-13 23:04:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋