she has been seeing someone for about 2 months.thay only see eatch other on weekends but during the week she ask's me to come over. she tells me one thing and tells other people somthing defernt .why does she leade me on. she said to give her time to think but i don't know how she can think when she is seeing someone. should i just give up on her .I don't know why I let her do this to me
2006-10-13 15:49:08 · 19 answers · asked by big o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we have kids togethershe told me she is scared that if we fail the kids will get hurt worse than thay already are.
2006-10-14 04:11:08 · update #1
you let her do this because you love her and its sad i would tell her to stop seeing someone else so she has time to think about what she wants give her a month or so good luck and best wishes to you
2006-10-13 16:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by Christine M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once, after a break-up, I read that the best thing to do is go along with it and HONESTLY say, "You're right, I want out. This isn't working. Thanks for everything." And then start your new life, dating and having fun. Because there is always one person chasing and one person running away in any relationship. If you become the runner instead of the chaser, she may come around. If not, you haven't lost anything because you've come to terms with the fact that it might end. I will try this next time I have a relationship that's ending. Think you're up for it? I'd love to know how it works.
2006-10-13 22:57:47 · answer #2 · answered by Sinner & Saint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not want to play second fiddle if I were you. There are plenty of woman out there in this world. She likes that you are always available every time she wants to see you. Make her wishes come true give her a lot of space and stop calling her for awhile. Start going out and mingling with other women. I say why wait for an answer if she is just stringing you along like a lost puppy. If she does not know what she wants then why waste your time waiting for an answer.
2006-10-13 23:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You let her do this to you because you love her. And quite likely she is waiting to see if things go well with this other man she is dating, and if not, she will run back to the security of you. She knows you are there waiting in the wings for her and she does not want to lose you in case this new guy doesn't work out. I won't say give up on her if you truly love her, but don't sit around waiting for her. Go out on dates and enjoy life, but don't waste your life waiting for something that may not even happen. Life is too short.
2006-10-13 22:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by elanabutcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry I know that has to be painful. I would tell her it's over and move on sounds like she is using you. Hope there are no children involved. Even if there were it would be better to show them that this is not a good situation and let them know you must move on.
I pray God blesses you with a faithful wife in the near future. Best of luck Hun.
2006-10-13 22:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by spirit filled 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a very sweet guy, I'm sure you deserve better that being treated like trash!!, don't let her do this to you!! she's just playing you. Put your head up and move on, there must be someone out there who will treat you with love and respect.
2006-10-13 22:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truelly love her then continue to give her time and keep the line of communications open between the two of you, however set your boundaries and listen to only what she tells you not what other people say this is between you and her not every one else. and don't torture yourself by being isolated live alittle and find you someone to hang out with!
2006-10-14 01:36:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you still married? Because if you're not maybe you should move on. I myself went through a divorce, and I promised myself that I would never see my ex again. Granted we never had children (that makes it a little easier) but I really think it's been healthier for both of us to just end it for good. Maybe you should consider that too--it sounds like you're still holding on.
2006-10-13 22:53:02 · answer #8 · answered by moflo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, get some self respect! Have some dignity and move on. Unless you like stirring this other guy's vanilla, you need to take yourself out of this.
2006-10-13 22:51:22 · answer #9 · answered by Senor Pig 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shes playing games with you, shes enjoying both you and your husband in law. Call we the people they do your papers for $ 300.
2006-10-13 22:58:12 · answer #10 · answered by val l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋