Would you feel weird afterwards, would you still talk to that person or would you grow feelings for him or her?
2006-10-13 15:29:39 · 20 answers · asked by buttapecangoddess2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't think the friendship can ever be the same after you cross that line. If you try to remain friends and keep sleeping together, someone is going to develop feelings and end up getting hurt.
2006-10-13 15:32:40 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the whole point of having friends vs. boy/girlfriends is that we don't do certain things with one that we do with the other. When we enter sexual relationships, we do this usually with a completely different mindset...I mean we're usually much more selective when it comes to lovers rather than friends, aren't we? The relationships evolve much differently and so do our perceptions of one another. You should probably ask yourself...does this friend meet my boy/girlfriend criteria? I say this not implying that you will end up dating...but as friends this may easily elevate to the next level quite quickly. It's really something you should discuss because true friends are harder to come by than decent sex. It could be a great thing, it could be a disastrous thing and only you can weigh the options.
2006-10-13 22:38:48 · answer #2 · answered by Allybally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you have been friends longer than you have been sleeping with him then you will grow more feelings for each other. So now its not weird to be sleeping with him. Question does he really like you the way you like him?
2006-10-14 11:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by rdee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That can all depend on the persons involved.
I have had friends with benefits in the past that were close friends and as long as the understanding is there that that's all it is there's been no problem.
2006-10-13 22:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by gypse76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're talking about friends with benefits...
I've yet to experience or have known anyone who's gone to bed with a good friend and NOT develop strong feelings for them.
If you can have sex without feelings for the person, you've gone esteem problems...
Or sadly, you've been sexually abused when you were young...
2006-10-13 22:33:07 · answer #5 · answered by The Mac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's absolutely great, if you don't suffer guilt issues.
Who better to be with than your best friend.
When people tell me they are engaged, I work the conversation around to who is their best friend.....if they mention some other person, I tell them not to marry the now-fiancee/fiance....
If your mate for life is not your best friend, you've messed up.
I sleep with my best friend. We can talk and have fun and understand each other and I have no guilt. No, we aren't married and we have no guilt.
2006-10-13 22:34:49 · answer #6 · answered by Cookie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will change the relationship and if you just want to be friends with him... leave it at that. Friends. If you are sexually attracted to one another, your actions will change your relationship. Who's to say how. You also have to think about future boyfriends and girlfriends and how they would feel if you slept with your best friend and remained close.
2006-10-13 22:34:35 · answer #7 · answered by flighty001100 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have often wondered this myself. I have a good friend; we have had sex, many times. yet, we are still good friends. I do think that there are underlying feelings there; I know there is for me, and he has eluded to the fact also. but, there is nothing I wouldn't do for him or he for me. Best of both worlds
2006-10-13 22:37:06 · answer #8 · answered by scrapper723 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I did it and it didn't change anything. It just happened the one time because we needed a special closeness with each other. I think it made us closer.
2006-10-13 22:42:09 · answer #9 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everything would remain the same as long as you both understand that it's just sex.Good luck, Your friend Hoosier
2006-10-13 22:40:51 · answer #10 · answered by charles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋