I have been with,my now ex because of what I did, for 4 years now and we have a one yr old son together. Two years ago I slept with his ex friend (they weren't friends @ the time). I just now told him and of course he said it's over. I don't know what to do to get him back. Or what to say to make it better. On top of that he keeps asking me to give him DETAILS...like how i kissed him and where and who started it and all that. What should I tell him and what should I leave out. HELP!!! I truely am sry for what I did I mean after I did what I did I didn't even contact this guy ever again...he happened to see my man and tell him this week so I just felt it was right to let the truth out...Please Help
2006-10-13 15:23:12 · 12 answers · asked by Confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't think there is anything that you can do except to give him some space. He has lost all of his trust in you. You need to be completly honest with him, you at least owe him that much.
2006-10-13 15:27:17 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason you told this guy what you did was to make yourself feel better, not anyone else!! You hurt him by doing it, betray him, lie to him, and now, when you think YOU might be found out what do YOU do??? Tell him something that hurts, more than you know, say it is the 'right' thing to do, (yeah, for YOU) Making him a pest for asking about this, try to be the innocent victim here, justify by saying "OH, it's OK, they were'nt friends at the time", Jeeesus, I can't believe this bulls**t. I hope every guy on the net reads this one sweetie, you have just proven to all of us what the real truth about women is!!!! I hope to God I never have the misfortune of ever meeting you. Ever.....Wait a second...am I yelling at you? oh God, I apologize, I can be a real meanie sometimes. Wait another second!! I take back all that meanie stuff and apoligize. I think you are saying that he, (your soon to be ex BF) just heard this stuff from the guy that you banged 2 yrs. ago right? so... you only told him after he already knew, right? Maybe this is one of those rare cases where lying to your BF would have the way to go. I mean the retard BF you got here didn't want to believe this other ahole, and if you said the other guy was lying, you couldn't lose! Think about this: you lie , BF has to choose who to believe, Yes? OK. If BF goes with this other moron, you win, 'cause now you know what an a**hole your prince charming really is, plus now you're glad princey boy knows, 'cause he just told you he thinks you are a lyin' sack of s**t, (I think sack is uncalled for) sides with Einstein, your old F/B, giving you the opportunity to detail your magic nite with Gomer. Let him know it all!!! Don't leave out anything!! mention the d**p throat, (a whole 4") BJ, the 3-way with his sister, the DP with Gomer, herself, and Sparky, the neighbors' Bulldog. This was taped, I assume. On the other hand, if Bozo the B/F believes YOU, Viola!! You still are victorious!! He doesn't want the truth, no man? well no one wants to believe that his manly prowess and power in the bedroom are no longer doing it, even worse, to accept that his plain looking flat chested wife rejected his pathetic submissive advances and went down to the local biker's bar and pulled a Train? NO WAY, So there you go, sweetie pie, I know a winner when I see one!! Caio, --Le Rat
2006-10-13 15:47:52 · answer #2 · answered by Raptor 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow - he is probably freaked out. Regardless ... DO NOT, NOT, NOT give any details - he will thrive off of that and it will get much worse. Your relationships prior to him do not need to be analyzed!
Only discuss your relationship with him. If he can't come around and use reason to heck with it. Try counseling if need be.
On another note, why do these guys care what a woman does, bc they aren't marrying them when they're pregnant, they're not making a commitment to the woman - and then he holds you accountable for what happened years ago. It's ridiculous. You don't owe this guy squat and I wouldn't take his wrath. Either he wants a real relationship or not. If he's immature and you let him push you around, you need assertiveness training.
2006-10-13 15:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get him back. You did the crime, now you do the time. You deserve what you get. I feel bad for your son. You screwed over everyones lives for your own pleasure. The fact that it happened two years ago doesn't mean a thing. You still cheated. And then you lied about it for two years and figured he should be ok with it?
Have a brain. What would you do in that situation?
2006-10-13 15:27:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't give him any details. That will make him more upset.
He feels betrayed and angry. It would be pretty hard to get him back now but if does not want you anymore then move on.
You just reaped what you sowed. Let this be a lesson for you in the future. As the bible says "Thou shall not covert your neighbor's wife"
2006-10-13 15:31:08 · answer #5 · answered by Bachelor boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well u shouldn't do that sleeping thing with your ex friends because now u have lost the trust forever and if u think u can be with your ex ever it wont work! You have ruined any chance of evr getting back together and what a bad example for your child!
you should change your ways before it's to late to turn back
U need to ask for forgiviness!
hope u see the light someday soon
2006-10-13 15:38:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Knowing all the details will just give him more evidence to throw in your face later. Either he forgives you and lets the past stay in the past...or he stays pissed and moves on. Until there is a ring on your finger there is no commitment anyway...legally or morally
2006-10-13 15:31:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you feel you needed to confess?
Forget this one and move on---just learn your lesson.
No one needs to know about your past. Bury it, forgive yourself for it and leave it buried!
Even if you did make up now, he will NEVER and I mean NEVER forget.
Whatever you do, DON'T give any details. Just tell him that you are not going to do that and make sure you don't. It will drive him totally over the edge. Don't give details!!!!!
2006-10-13 15:30:38 · answer #8 · answered by Cookie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do people kiss and tell??????????????????
I would never kiss and tell.
I would never tell my friends if their spouse, g/f, b/f, was messing around on them.
Has anyone heard of the word, DISCREET?
What does a person accomplish by telling everyone at work in their break rooms, on the floor, in the bars whom they did.
I never tell my friends if I went out with another lady, because I would be afraid they would try to take my lady out.
I do not get it people.
2006-10-13 15:30:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't give him any details....I would tell him I made a big mistake and I am sorry ....NO DETAILS!!
2006-10-13 15:28:21 · answer #10 · answered by southernn_sky_2020 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋