I'm pretty close to this guy at work, he's married and has kids. Somehow he gets things out of me that I don't normally tell anyone. Recently we were talking about birth control, I'm not even sure how it came up... and I told him I wasn't on it for a while and somehow he got out of me that I had an abortion with my husband... who was then my boyfriend. I'm so upset with myself for having told him that. It's none of his dam business and he shouldn't be trying to pull out info on me that's private. I also should learn when the topic of conversation is leading in a way that makes me feel uncomfortable that I should just stay quiet. Can anyone lend me some advice on how to handle myself when it comes to telling people things they shouldn't know. It's such a personal things and I shared it with someone whom I shouldn't have.
2006-10-13 15:21:59 · 16 answers · asked by flighty001100 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
that's your punishment for having an abortion. how do you think the baby felt?...
2006-10-13 15:24:30 · answer #1 · answered by jess l 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you ever think that maybe it came out for a reason...or that you maybe wanted to talk about it? I can see how this may upset you, but I think you're being a little too harsh on yourself.
Do you think his intention was to be nosey or hurt you with this info? Probably not. If you feel like you're getting too personal with him, tell him this...he's a big boy.
If you feel that the conversation is getting uncomfortable or you don't want to share something, simply tell a person this. Any mature person will respect the fact that you don't want to talk about something personal.
We can't all have our filters running 24/7. Don't beat yourself up over it. -Albs
2006-10-13 22:29:26 · answer #2 · answered by Allybally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you can see a conversation going to wards a personal thing remind your self I will not tell anything I do not want published in the paper tomorrow, and stick to that, Because once spoken you cannot hit delete, and you can not control what is done with the information, even from so called trusted friends.
2006-10-13 23:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard thing to do, but you need to remind yourself that certain aspects of your personal life are nobody's business but yours. If the topic of conversation is heading toward a sensitive subject, steer away from it or change the subject. Or make a personal list of the things that you don't want to discuss with anyone and remember to keep these things to yourself.
2006-10-13 22:25:33 · answer #4 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good way to deal with a person who you feel is getting too personal, simply tell them that you don't want to talk about that. If they keep pushing the issue, tell them to let it go or go away.
Just be professional and polite, that way you don't cause any problems.
2006-10-13 22:26:25 · answer #5 · answered by analystdevil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your telling these things to some other guy, maybe you should spend more time talking with your husband about personal things. I would distance myself from a guy who is asking all these personal questions.
2006-10-13 22:24:15 · answer #6 · answered by Hicktown girl66 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect yourself,and your spouse.Never involve your personal life with business.People will respect you more.What's done is done and now it's time to change the way you approach a conversation.
2006-10-13 22:30:50 · answer #7 · answered by charles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone asks you a direct question, it is ok to look at them and say, why would you even ask me that question? Other than that, learn to moderate what you say. It doesn't have to be all or none.
2006-10-13 22:25:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People only know what YOU tell them about your personal business
2006-10-13 22:28:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
suddenly changing the subject works wonders. "oh! i forgot i really need call ______ before (few minutes before the current time), hold on." leave to make the fake call come back and start talking about something else.
2006-10-13 22:27:08 · answer #10 · answered by rljetsetradio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is a victim here. You just need to keep your private life private and if you dont then dont cry about it.
2006-10-13 22:23:57 · answer #11 · answered by Sassy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋