She's has lied to the kids about father but refuses to have her new husband adopt them because she wants ex to suffer financially. They both work full time and he been treated for sever depression and cannot work because he has lost his kids. He would prefer to break all ties cause then he can move on but she won't release him. He's not bitchin, i am as i can see him hurting.
2006-10-13 15:05:51 · 10 answers · asked by Fran T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The kids are in the middle, us usual. Bad idea. THEY pay the price, no one else.
You don't get to "move on" where your children are concerned, short of turning your back on them. That would make it hard to shave that face in the mirror each morning.
There will be school plays, graduations, birthdays, weddings, grand children..........only a true lowlife could turn a blind eye to that and the damage done to the kids' psyche can create more pain than I would want to inflict on anyone.
People don't always have successful marriages. So what? More people need to "suck it up", put their own selves as second, and try to have a successful divorce. They do exist, you know...............
2006-10-13 15:17:49 · answer #1 · answered by Samurai Hoghead 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're kidding right? You sound like one of those new gf's from hell. What even gives you the right to ask such a question. First you say that he would prefer to break all ties and then you say that he isn't bitchin. Which is it? You haven't given the whole story so there is much to be assumed. My best advice to you, is to not concern yourself with this mans children. They are not your kids. Leave it to the depressed Father and the lying Mother to decide what they will do about parental rights. If the man has been in courts for 4 years over his kids, I can assure you that he does not want to just walk away from them. Get a grip on reality. You're not worried about him hurting at all. I think you are worried about the financial support that he is required to give and not the father or his kids.
2006-10-13 15:16:29 · answer #2 · answered by lilmisstickletoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your children are your children FOREVER. There is no such thing as breaking ties and moving on. That is not a choice with your children. Having children does not help anyone financially. But, they are his responsibility. No Matter What. If he is jobless, depressed /// whatever, He is still a parent and is responsible for supporting those children. It is not an OPT OUT program. Divorce sucks, its hard, everyone suffers. But, adults suck it up and take it so the kids won't have to. Quit whining, grow up and take responsibility.
2006-10-13 15:18:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so he's depressed and can't work because he lost his kids but at the same time wants to cut ties. Sounds to me like someone doesn't want to pay child support and maybe the mom is telling the truth about a dead beat dad.
2006-10-13 15:11:45 · answer #4 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is in severe depression because he has lost his kids but he would give them up?? What is not right with this picture?
Sounds like he needs to suck it up, stand up, wipe himself off, pay his child support and get over it.
Sorry to sound so hostile, but I can't count the number of times I have seen this sort of thing. Are you his Mom or his new girlfriend? If he is suffering from severe depression, I feel for you. Depression is not easy to live with, for the sufferers or their loved ones. .
2006-10-13 15:16:11 · answer #5 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be obvious go back to court with the Dr. statement about not being able to work. File for relief of all child support he may be in arrears on and then ask for a a refund on payments made out of saving or whatever while he was out of work. Then ask for alimony if your states allows it because she is working and he is unable to. It may not work financially but it should get her of his butt.
2006-10-13 15:31:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kid you not, she is displaying signs of psychotic behaviour.
He sounds like a brave soldier and i am sorry to say that it will not be long before he is driven to the final alternative. You can only push a person so far.
Watch out for him. He might not make it much further.
2006-10-13 21:35:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a stupid woman if she wants her x to suffer financially over kids who don't deserve something they never ask for.
2006-10-13 15:17:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a hard one for me to even adivse on. we are talking about childern who need thier real father. not because of any finance's should he ever sign his childern over to another man to raise.
2006-10-13 15:18:03 · answer #9 · answered by kierstead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't adults....act like adults here?
2006-10-13 15:38:37 · answer #10 · answered by xxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋