Why is it so hard to wait on black people in restaurants?

Question

Black families,groups generally don't tip,they are mean,they run you to death getting one item at a time,and eveything they want they act nasty about,they leave a big mess,they send back food,and again-NO TIP! (no other customers do this-and I wait on mexicans and chinese and whites and some hatians,and cubans--its only the american africans that treat us white girls like crap-and it really isn't the men-its the WOMEN

I had one family who came in-ordered their food to go-sat in the parking lot and ate it-THEN THREW ALL THE BOXES AND TRASH ON THE GROUND in front of the restaurant!!!! What the hell is up with that?

it isn't stereotyping-this happens to me and my fellow workers every day-its the truth which blacks don't want to hear-your too busy being racists

nigeriang...i said specifically american blacks-as in blacks who have been here more then one generation-foreign blacks are polite and well mannered...AND they tip

naples-all you have to do is see the responses by people in the business to know I am not the only person to experience this

to all of you black women that are taking such offense-I know there are exceptions,and as I wait on blacks daily-i meet alot of terrific blacks-that being said-the majority still are rude and obnoxious-i give everyone excellent service-because i dont know how they will act until after i have started to wait on them-and i want the money-thats why i am there-money is green from everyone-but i have seen black professionals tip me extra-because they watch some rude black woman treat me like crap-having been told to hurry my white ***-if i said hurry your black *** to a black waitress i'd get kicked from the rest.
and by the way-there are black waitstaff where I work-they do not want to wait on blacks either

for the record black who treat me with respect-get treated with respect,and all of you haters,who are trying to slam my job performance-your probably the ones i'm talking about

Answer 1

I have found that blacks are difficult to deal in most situations. Everyone will think I am a racist, I am not. But one of my previous questions shows that my husband and I both deal with their whinning and complainng everyday. I have a few black friends and they are great, but they still seem to have no respect for property of white people, even though none of their families were slaves. Matter of fact, today there is more inequality than ever before, and it is all in the name of diversity. But they do seem to trash everyplace they go. They are for the most part disrespectful and rude. If I were you, I would refuse to wait on such people no matter what color they were. It seems that blacks can decide whether they want to work with, live with or socialize with whites, but whites do not have such choices. Because to make such a choice makes us "racists". All I every here is that they want to be treated equal. If that is what they truly wanted instead of a free ride because they are rude and lazy, then you, who are working hard to please them would not be treated so badly. I am just sick to death of all this race sh**, because it is, for the most part the blacks that always bring race into anything they don't like. I am sorry for what you have to deal with in your job. My husband is a university professor. Has been for 26 years, and has really only in the last 10 years has had to deal with race on a daily basis because his black students are never satisfied unless they get all A's whether earned or not. And if he speaks to a white or non black first who is waiting in line to speak with him, nine times out of ten he gets a complaint from a black that he is showing whites preferential treatment. Once again, I am sorry that you have to deal with this. Non blacks are systematically being lost in the great sea of diversity.

Answer 2

I work part time in a sub shop and I can usually wait on 5 White, Hispanic, Asian people etc to every 1 black person for they are ridiculously picky on how they want their sub made. I had two today that wanted their meats shaved not sliced what we have is sliced that's what everyone else is satisfied with keep in mind we have a line behind them. I get back oh no, no, no that's not the right meat and it's shaved wrong and that's just not going to work.To make a long story short it took 15mins to make 4 subs. My blood was boiling. I don't know if I can keep my cool if this happens again and without doubt it will. Society doesn't owe you jack ****! get over yourself's and be happy with what everyone else is happy with.

Answer 3

I am a professional Black woman and when the service is good. I tip lavishly and often go to familiar eating spots with friends. We always get choice tables and service, because the staff knows us and know we tip well. I do not know where you or the others who post work and live, but perhaps you behave in such a way that is insulting to your customers. I have gone to restaurants where the waitstaff, Black and White, break their necks trying to get to non-Black people and often serve those who have entered after Black customers. I have seen people of all ethnicities who lack manners and behave atrociously in restaurants. I am guessing that something happened to that family you speak of in the restaurant that was demeaning or embarrasing to them. Sometimes White and Black staff are unwittingly, but nontheless rude to Black Customers, who in turn will do passive agressive things such as you describe. I do not agree with these methods, but will fill out comment cards when experiencing less than adequate service.

Answer 4

You know, my sister--a Black woman--is a former restaurant manager and in the past I have heard her say the same thing. (Note: She does recognize, however, that it is quite silly to make such a generalization across the entire Black population.) Given that information, and though I do feel that there may be some truth to your comment, I feel that you have to be careful and refrain from making such generalizations about all Blacks. Yes, there may be many silly people--Black people in this case--out there that just refuse to tip. However, have you ever thought that your feelings regarding this issue have caused you to sometimes treat your Black customers a certain way simply because you feel that they won't leave a tip? Meaning, you create a self-fulfilling prophecy, which means that you make predictions about how one situation will turn out, and subconsciously, do things to make sure that your prediction comes true. I'm not saying that this is the case all of the time, but do know that it does happen.

(And just for the record, I am a BLACK WOMAN who truly appreciates good restaurant service and is not afraid to leave a sizable tip. Given that fact, we now know that your generalization about Black people, especially Black women is quite faulty.)

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Okay, you are right; I have witnessed what you have mentioned. I'm sure that must be hard for those who are the wait staff. However, it is your job to wait tables. As a service professional, I expect exceptional treatment from you when I come in to eat. When you see me, don't get an attitude and give me your worst treatment because the last five blacks you had that day treated you like crap. Don't take out your frustrations on me. Blacks who tip well and treat you with respect should not have to receive crappy service just because you don't like waiting on blacks. So many times I have received crappy service because of this. I am just as sick of it as you are.

Answer 7

First of all, like it or not, tipping a waitress/waiter isn't a requirement. If someone doesn't want to tip you, they're not obligated to. You're getting paid by the restaurant you're working for, and a tip is simply a bonus. Anytime I have ever been a waitress or bartender, I felt grateful for the tips, but didn't expect them.
And I REALLY don't get why you seem to feel like you're owed a tip when a costumer sends their food back, because usually when people send their order back, it's because they were given the wrong thing, or it wasn't cooked the way they wanted, and that would be your fault as the waitress! You're the one that wrote down the order wrong!
If you're attitude at work is anything like the way you're coming off on here, then you probably don't get tipped because you're rude! Perhaps your black costumers pick up on your racist attitude towards them, but observe you being nicer to white people. And yes, try to justify what you're saying and claim that you're not prejudice, but you defiantly are!

Answer 8

I agree with Naples-6. You sure are a racist, or at least have the attitude, especially if you go to a table seeing skin color to begin with.
Wake up little girl...people can look you in the eye and tell if you have issues with them because of their skin color...I know I can, that's a part of survival now and always has been.
You expect your customers, I don't care what color they are, to tip you when you got that shi t ty look on your face when you come to the table. The problem is you are going into a situation, in this case to a table, thinking you know exactly what's going to happen. When you get there, it shows all over your face. Racism stinks, I don't care who you are. I guess you try to hide yours though, right?

I eat at the finest restaurants, usually with a group of no more than 10 and no less than 8, of all races. Normally we tip more than the standard 15% gratuity on parties of 8 or more. If your service stinks, so will your tip. If you work at a crappy rr, you will get crappy tips.

Here's a tip, do unto others as you'd have them do unto you. Are you going to complain how skimpy this tip is too? That's what happens when ya get greedy for money.

What about that comment that it isn't the men, it's the women? I see where that's going. A little nicer to the men than you are the women, huh?

Answer 9

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Answer 10

I agree with all of the reasonable people on this topic... Everyone acts differently no matter what race. You have probably been dissed by a white woman and didn't even pay attention to it. Maybe you only pay attention to how the black people are treating you just to get at them. I am just saying, sometimes you racists need to think things through before blowing up like that. Not everyone is on your side on this you know. I'm thirteen and I don't blow off my cool like that... Sometimes you adults act like we're the immature ones.

Answer 11

I can't speak for ALL Black people but I tip and I'm very friendly and respectful to waitresses and waiters.