Who could the daddy be?

Question

The day after my period I had unprotected sex, my partner pulled out before ejaculation. Within the same week I had protected sex with another partner on my highest fertile day. Now a blood test determined that I am pregnant who is more likely to be the father? I don't want to tell either one that I slept w/another just for social privacy but how do I determine who the dad is w/o telling?

Answer 1

Unfortunately for you there is zero way of telling who is the father without a dna test. It is much more likely that the father is the one you were with during your fertile period. Pulling out before ejaculation in not any way shape or form a method of birth control. It is a scientifically proven fact that there are sperm in the pre-ejaculatory fluid that leaks out before ejaculation occurs. This being said, it is much less likely that you became pregnant a day after your period, but anything is possible. That is why a dna test is the only way to know 100%

Answer 2

Since condoms are 99 percent effective I would bet you got pregnant the day after you got your period with the first guy. Pulling out is very uneffective as precum is filled with sperm. From now on though, try not to have sex with two different guys at the same time, then maybe you won't have this dilemma again. Oh yeah, sperm can stay alive for up to a week, so that means the first guys sperm could have fertilized your egg for 7 days after you had sex which it sounds like that time period correlates with your highest fertility day. Congrats, I bet its a girl.

Answer 3

there is no way to determine this without a DNA test...your highest fertile days are anywhere from 11-14 days following your period You said that you had protected sex within that same week of your period....that would not be your most fertile days You can still conceive when you are on your period though, so you should at least have one of the guys tested

Answer 4

AND TELL ALL THOSE HATERS TALKING SMACK TO SHUT UP IGNORE THEM HONEY U CAN DO WHAT U LIKE WITH UR LIFE DONT LISTEN TO NOBODY JUST BE A GOOD MAMA TO THAT BABY FORGET THESE HATERS!! THEY JUST ANSWERING FOR POINTS!! IF IT WAS A MAN WITH 2 girls IN A WEEK they wouldnt say nothing...THEY JUS HATIN CUZ THEY DONT GET NONE


Well sweetheart, that's a difficult one! It all depends... Condoms have like a 99% protection against pregnancy, BUT ONLY IF U USE THEM RIGHT! Also, there is that 1%... You must use the condom correctly, it has not be expired, not left in the heat all the time, etc, etc, etc.... Also, withdrawal is not effective, there's the whole pre-c|_|m thing, and also young guys supposedly can't always control themselves (Surprise, surprise!! DUH!!!) and they don't always pull out in time.

The most accurate answer I can give you, if you have a 28 day cycle is that most women are not fertile right after menstruation... But each woman is different so again, this is just a maybe!! I'd ask the doctor for their opinion, but tell both guys that there is a chance that the baby isn't theirs. Just dont let one man think it's theirs, when it might not be, that would hurt everyone in the end...

Here's a great, at home DNA test you can order, and the kit is free... they send it to you within a couple days, and you can do it in the privacy of your own home!!

Answer 5

i started to say the second one, even though neither one of the choices seemed likely. think back really hard. are you sure you were not already pregnant and didn't know it? the reason i say this is b/c you can still have a light period or sometimes even a full one in the first couple of months that u are pregnant. as a matter of fact, its very common. (i did this) also b/c your most fertile days are starting from 14 days after the day your period stops. so, you are very likely to become impregnated about 2 weeks after your last period stops. so think back to last month and the month before, and think about if u were with anyone at that time. if yes and it was the second guy, i'd really put my odds on him. but if not, i'd still kinda put my odds on him.. think about within the last 2 months, have u had any unusual symptoms. especially your breasts swelling, light nausea, headache, being really tired. if so, like i said, u were probably pregnant before then. go to an ob gyn. you have to see about the baby anyway. when u are there, tell the md your situation. don't be embarrased about it. it's nothing they haven't heard before and they really do not pay as much attention to your business like that as u think they do. the md will be your most helpful tool now, your expert. after all, it's in their business to know things about paternity, what your fertile days are , when u got pregnant, and will probably give u the correct answer. just be sure to put your memory into full gear now and be really honest about every important detail about this situation, that way you get the most accurate answers from him. take good care of yourself. be sure to get a PRESCRIPTION prenatal vitamin. don;t let them tell u to get one over-the-counter. b/c they will try to. you want the best in an important decision like that- that effects your baby's health. drink plenty of milk too, trust me. good luck.

Answer 6

The only definitive way to tell who the father is, is by having a DNA test...

Sperm is present in pre-ejaculate, ejaculate and post-ejaculate... Condoms do fail...

While socially you may be embarrassed because you had sex with two different partners in such a close time frame... It's what you did and you now have to live with it... You child deserves to know the identity of his/her father and you are the only one who can get that information for him/her...

Knowing the identity of the father will help later as medical problems can be hereditary..

It's time to fess up and take the consequences of your actions..

Answer 7

try going to a website like fertilityfriend or mymonthlycycle...one of them has a thing where you can enter some information and they can give you a date you conceived or something like that. maybe by that you can figure out who the dad would be.

and I also just wanted to say that when I took sex-ed in school...hmm..last time was about 7 years about, but back them condoms were only like 89% effective at thier best so unless its changed since then and you used it 100% perfectly and stored them at the correct temp with a thermometer and everything then there is still just as much chance it could be the second guy as the first. good luck

Answer 8

Within the same week like that, it's too hard to tell. Pre-*** contains sperm, and sperm can live for 3 days or so, and condoms are not fail-proof.

Unfortunately, I think that in this case, a DNA test is really the only way. And I'm pretty sure that they can only be preformed after the baby is born, so you may have to go ahead and tell both guys.

Hopefully, neither one of them turns out to be a jerk, and whose ever baby it is will help you raise it.

Good luck and congratulations!

Answer 9

well if you slept with someone on your most fertile day it would more than likely be him. You ovulate 14days after the first day of your period. You were more than likely not ovulating the day before your period, however you never know. There are some women out there who get pregnant on their period. The only true way to know is through a DNA test.

Answer 10

Could be either, you are pretty fertile after your period and pre-ejaculate DOES have an amount of sperm in it. As far as I know, a blood test (on the baby) is the only way to determine paternity. They have to have someone to compare it to, so at least one guy will have to know.