I have been married for 4 yrs and I found out my wife was cheating on my. After that she reacted in different ways. First she apologized then she got mad and wanted divorce. She will move out soon. But in the mean time I got a small infection nothing serious but it hurts very bad and gives me fevers upto 104F. The doctor said I might have to go to the emergency room tomm. My family does not lives close to me she is the only person I have. Still she left me and went out to movie and dinner with that guy. She is not openly cheatin and says will move out soon. She says she had not had sex but spent a night in hotel with him. She is the same one who send 2000 IMs in 2 months and 245 IMs to the guy in last 5 days. I helped her get a good job recently b4 that she was makking about 1200 a month now she makes 5 times of that. But even in the past she used to spend a lot of my money in shopping. Tell me how do I cope with this. WHY GOD WHY ? WHY ME. I loved her still me. Life has lost meaning
2006-10-13 14:41:34 · 22 answers · asked by peter 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Her bad behavior is not your fault. I hope you get your infection under control FIRST - that's really important. Infections can be life-threatening!
Also, as soon as you can protect your assets and get a good lawyer!
You deserve better!
2006-10-13 15:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Peter, I am sorry your are going through a lot yourself, If I was you I would probably be very depressed and feeling lonely.
But you must remember that EVERYTHING has a purpose in life, the minimum little move has its purpose. OK? So if this girl didn't respect the relationship, that means she didn't care. I am sorry it hurts.
You have to let her go.. not only from your place but also from your heart, I know you must be very sad and to a point disappointed, But it is not the end do not give up Peter, Time will help you get through anything, God won't let you alone.
You said that life has lost meaning, It might sound right for a while for you but then you Will see hat it was just a bad moment in your life, You Will find the light again.
Forgive her and just keep going, do not keep resentment for yourself cause that might make your life really miserable.
My advice for you Peter is to keep going, and find some activity to keep you busy. You Will find the right woman.
Good Luck Peter!!!
2006-10-13 15:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by moon light 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dear pete,
`first dont stress!! u must protect ur health, be tough n be strong.
`shes being a coldhearted b**** and the more u let her walk over u the worse she will disrespect u.
`next thing is to get ripe pears and olive leaf tea or extract as these will fight the fever & fight the infection
`do not eat any other foods but only eat /drink the pears, olive leaf & natural things as follows
1in heinermans book it says that cinnamon, ginger, cayenne pepper & basil tea is good for fevers.
`when u are well, do not eat yeast bread or drink beer as these make fungus that can confuse the brain and reduce ur masculinity, so keep having the olive leaf extract.
`now the next thing to take is MACA ,this is from the health food store and it is an essential part of building a mans masculinity, to be strong, not let cold / mean women treat u like a doormat and this in turn makes women respect u more. You wont let another woman treat u like that. It was her duty to help take care of u, at least till u got better.
Hey like the others said, theres something better for you, pete
2006-10-13 15:53:05 · answer #3 · answered by globalveg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Peter you deserve better. Some times life isn't fair and you feel cheated and you have every right to feel that way. She's bad news. although this will hurt you as you love her and want her. She isn't worth having she sounds very selfish and cold ruthlesss you know what.
So let her go. she will come to realize in time.. But you on the other hand have something better waiting for you out there. and so you you keep on plugging away. and She will come to you in time.
Get yourself looked after with your fever. and call a cab don't bother asking her she sounds like she'll remind you it was a big deal what she did. She doesnt' sound like a good person at all.
YOU can do much better okay. Just tell yourself that causse its true.
Not all women are like her.
Kick her to the curb where the rest of the garbage goes she'll fit right in.
2006-10-13 19:11:54 · answer #4 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you are going through all of this right now. Sounds as though she is heartless. I tell you just focus right now on getting better. After you are better I say try to get your mind off of her as much as you can. Find a hobby and find things you enjoyed before you got married. Go out have fun. Why waste your time on a woman that would do that sort of thing to you. I know you think your life has came to an end but hey it just might be a beginning of a new and better life ahead. There are so many women out there. Once a door closes usually a better one opens up. Take care of yourself and have fun. Life is not over.
2006-10-13 16:41:55 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you are in the middle of the storm it looks bleakest. All you can do is take one step at a time to get out of the mess. Have her bags packed for her so they will be handy when she gets home and kick her a** out the door. Make sure the door hits her on the way out.
In the morning go to the doctor and get your health back up to snuff. When you are feeling better physically, you will gradually feel better emotionally, and sooner or later come to the realization that you are much better off without her. Fish and the sea immediately comes to mind.
Sorry for your troubles.
2006-10-13 15:32:04 · answer #6 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just hold on. I have no room for judgement, but you diserve someone and something else M U C H B E T T E R. Try going to a church that you like. You will start to see that everthing will all start to make sence and you will start to figure out what is important. God! He will love you forever. By the way, Why haven't you changend the locks on the doors?
2006-10-13 15:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by Lucky Lady 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My GP sent me to scientific institution with intense chest discomfort numbness in left arm and intense B/P the A/E dept. made take a seat for almost 5 hours devoid of seeing a representative then i could no longer take a seat anymore had to pass abode so i can relax in my mattress with the discomfort. even with the incontrovertible fact that the discomfort isn't as intense now as i'm taking painkillers yet nonetheless have the discomfort in my chest and that i'm apprehensive i'm 70 and that's the 1st time I experienced this i do no longer smoke or drink. Any advice thank you VJ
2016-10-02 06:55:54 · answer #8 · answered by vishvanath 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In fact life has not lost meaning. You need to pray to your Heavenly Father for first; strength to endure your ailment, and second emotional strength to deal with your harlot of a wife!
Why she left you sick and alone to sin is beyond me. I could see if you guys were proactively heading towards divorce, and mature enough to remain in the same house, but for her to leave in such a time of need ( to parade up in some man other than her husbands face is just a hot mess).......WHOA!
This may be God stalking you. Calling you to him. She may be what God is trying to pull you away from. It happens like that sometimes.
2006-10-13 14:56:35 · answer #9 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sue for divorce, and ask for alimony. Use every legal tact in the book to make her pay for your suffering. She has been using you and now you want her help until you get back on your feet emotionally. I can tell you how to cope with this, GET ANGRY! She's a lying cheat. Treat her like one. Then go get yourself a real woman.
2006-10-13 14:55:58 · answer #10 · answered by nitr0bike 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋