Let's pretend this gorgeous, sexy, sultry lady appears in front of you and seems to be wanting you. Would you cheat on your wife? How men who say they love their wife still cheat on her?
Which do you think is worse: love affair, or plain sex? Are both equally bad?
Answer as sincere as possible, please.
2006-10-13 14:35:38 · 30 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hmm belinda, i know women also cheat but... no offence, i don't date women... so i'm more keen on knowing those things from the male point of view.
2006-10-13 14:45:29 · update #1
HELLO!!!!! i know women cheat too... just that I DON'T DATE WOMEN! ok...? That means i want to know about this matter from the males point of view...! Thanks!
2006-10-13 14:58:06 · update #2
I guess that I am an old fashioned countryboy, but I would never cheat on my wife. However there are alot of men out there that do. I really dont understand that either. If my marriage was that bad then I would get out before that happened. My wife and I aren't very sexually active. She has some issues in that field having an anxiety/depression disorder. She sometimes will ask me if I would like for her to go and buy me a hooker and I tell her NO that I will wait until she is in the mood. I have been back from Iraq in august after spending a year there and we have only had sex twice. She will from time to time give me oral sex. Even though I dont get sex from my wife I still wouldnt go out and find someone else to do it with.
2006-10-13 14:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by soldierman69 2 · 9⤊ 1⤋
It's really tough being a married man nowadays. (I've been divorced for many years) There are scads of available women out there and they don't care, married or not. That's why I've never remarried. Plus, if I did, I'd immediately lose half of everything I have. And that would be a lot. Not a good option. When I was married I was stone cold faithful, and I had many opportunities, but then, my wife was an extraordinary woman. She knew exactly what it took to keep my attention and interest. I couldn't imagine fooling around.
There is no "worse" between an affair and just plain sex. The marriage bond has been broken. But, often the marriage has been badly fractured before the first act of infidelity. All it takes is for a wife to refuse her husband a couple of times - "I hope your not expecting anything tonight because I've had a lousy day and I've got this massive headache" - or for a husband to lose respect for his wife in small matters. And a man might still say he "loves" his wife after catting around, but he loves only the domestic part, that part of her that cooks his dinner and does his laundry. Some women are like Hillary Clinton and give their husbands license to do whatever they like. And Bill Clinton is much admired among some circles and he has proved it to men that they can screw around as much as they like and still stay married. So I suppose infidelity has become more socially accepted. And if HRC gets to be president, marriage will be redefined. Too bad...
2006-10-13 15:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The problem with this question is that its very general. Because everyone is different, there is always going to be a different excuse. Maybe the most common excuses are: even though everything else in the relationship is good, the sex isn't, some guys are just programed that way, maybe to escape. Sometimes when you are married, have younger kids, full time job, life could get stressful and that's when a person will look outside of the marriage for that sexual spark or excitement they once had before all of the responsibilities., You can love someone, really love someone, but need that extra something for yourself. It may not be right and the person cheating knows it but sex is a powerful drug.
2016-05-22 00:07:27 · answer #3 · answered by Greta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me begin by saying that you can still love someone even though the passion may be gone. If I knew that I could meet someone, no strings attached (and nothing getting back to me or her) and feel like I did when I first met my wife I'd do it in a heartbeat. Perhaps that sounds strange, but people need different levels of emotional and physical contact, and when these things are missing from your life, the emptiness can be deafening. And actually it doesn't even have to be sexual. Sometimes just the idea of someone wanting you can make a big difference. I'm sure that there are a lot of guys out there who may think I'm full of s**t, but I believe that the guys out the collecting women, the players, are just trying to fill a need anyway they can. Of course some a just plain ***holes. As for which is worse, I'd have to say that a love affair is worse, because plain sex is just our animal instincts overcoming our feeling of right and wrong. A love affair runs much deeper. And that is about as sincere as I get.
2006-10-13 14:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by bondo 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Women cheat too!! I can see your getting a bit up tight over that reply being repeated, so I thought I would get my share in!! (I enjoyed that bit)!
Now back to your question, and sincere as possible as requested.
I am a male (married) well past my 'sell by date' but age has nothing to do with it really.
I must have spent most of my life meeting pervs and retrobates? (I dont think so)!!
I have never met a man yet who wouldnt go for the chance of 'a bit on the side' BTW looks have nothing to do with anything, she may be the most ugly bird living, but if she makes a feller feel great then shes in with a very good chance!
I have worked away from home a lot on contract work, just about all the guys I have worked with have had flings!
(with the exception of myself of course!!
Some of these flings have resulted in marriage break downs on both sides, most have been a quick 'leg over' or the female being used as a 'bed warmer'!
Or the guy being ripped off for cash.
Yes its a sad old world!
"What is worse love affair or plain sex"?
I suppose the guys wife would think it was a love affair, but if her husband said it was just sex, he would likely get away with it if he eats enough humble pie, (and cries a bit)!!!.
So I would say the worse as far as the wife is concerned would be if she thought her husband was in love with another women, esp' if it was an ugly other woman!
"How can a guy tell his wife he loves her and still cheat"?
Years of practise I guess!!
As for myself, I wish I had never started to answer this question, it all looks a bit hard hearted, but it is sincere!
How to prevent all this?? You never asked that, but I would have thought most of the onus would be on the wife, Is she a nagging bitc*? Keeps getting headaches at night? Thinks sex is a filthy habit?? etc etc.
Good luck in your quest for the truth!!
2006-10-18 06:13:36 · answer #5 · answered by budding author 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm a woman but still going to answer! The word 'apparently' gives the thing away. If a man is totally happy with his wife and his sex life with her, why would he cheat and possibly throw all that away? But a man who is APPARENTLY happily married, may not ACTUALLY be happily married, and therefore he will cheat!
Young men who always think grass is greener will be seduced by the thought of new, different sex.
Many men like the chase!
Ladies, don't refuse your husbands sex but dont be there like a doormat for them or they will get bored. Have other interests, keep him on his toes, keep him wanting you.... and hopefully he won't cheat.
Which is worse, you ask, love affair or plain sex. I suppose if i HAD to choose i would prefer my husband to just, in a moment of madness, have plain sex....even paid for.....If he had a love affair, then he couldnt be caring about me anymore and we would have to get divorced.
Faith
2006-10-13 22:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by Caroline 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a man, and I have cheated on my wife before. Now to the second part, why do men cheat? If I was apparently happy, I do not think I would have cheated. Most and I say MOST people that cheat whether it is the husband or wife, are not apparently happy.
Both are about equal. I can say that I loved my wife when I cheated. When I was separated, I still supported my wife and household and my other household as well.
If there was gorgeous, sexy, sultry lady that came up right now and said that I want you, I would probably say lets get it on.
NOW YOU ARE SAYING THAT I AM A NO GOOD ----------.
I have to say that I think that i am a nice guy, and a happy person.
I could probably talk to you about 2 hours, and I would still not convince you of this. When you finish reading this message, you can say well this is a honest person.
Now why did it have to be men only. My wife cheated on me and I am still with her after 38 years. I know the response to this statement. YOU ARE STUPID FOR STAYING WITH YOUR WIFE AFTER SHE CHEATED ON YOU.
How many people are really honest on these messages about cheating. If I was a betting man, I would say about half of these message are phony. Well, I can say that I am honest with my answer.
Have A Great Weekend Everyone, and A Safe One.
2006-10-13 14:48:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I'm not married, but I've been in relationships, and I can honestly say i have never cheated on anyone. I know all men are different, but personally I simply couldn't do it, even if it was Jennifer Lopez and she was begging for it (yes, i know, a very unlikely scenario) if I was in a relationship at the time I would have to decline.
The only time I would even consider another woman would be if I was in a loveless relationship, but if there was no love in the relationship then I would already have ended it, which means I would be single so it wouldn't be cheating.
I can't see the point in cheating. Not only are you going to hurt someone who trusts you, but you've also got to sneak around with the girl your cheating with, constantly looking over your shoulder and covering your tracks, plus you've got to remember all your lies so you don't slip up and contradict yourself, so how do get time to relax and enjoy being with someone?
As I said, I never had or ever will cheat on anyone. The thought has never even crossed my mind....... What can I say, I'm the world's most perfect man. lol ;)
2006-10-13 15:28:25 · answer #8 · answered by DJ Rizla 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Would you cheat on your wife? - No never.
Why do men apparently happily married cheat on their wives? - My personal estimation is that there unhappy with there own marriage and dont want to put in the effort to make the relationship work and see it as a cop out, they want to get caught? Then when they do they expect there wife to divorce them, because its easier to quit on something than work at it.
Let's pretend this gorgeous, sexy, sultry lady appears in front of you and seems to be wanting you. - You would be referring to my wife in that case ;-p
Would you cheat on your wife? - No I made a lifetime commitment to my wife and I would not dishonour her, myself or our families for a quick fling.
How men who say they love their wife still cheat on her? - There just outright liars. End of.
Which do you think is worse: love affair, or plain sex? Are both equally bad? Both equally bad.
2006-10-14 01:49:46 · answer #9 · answered by jason12211 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok speaking from experience cheating s wrong whether it is just sex or a full blown affair, And the next time I do fall in love believe me I will do things differently. And for madretes77 King David himself fell to lust, are you trying to imply that he was not spiritually grounded? He was a man after God's own heart. And for the young lady with the Christie Brinkley comment there is always hope.
2006-10-13 14:47:12 · answer #10 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋