Who already has a child, they ALWAYS put the oldest child first and give them everything they want but when the new child NEEDS something, the spoiled brat's wants gotta be taken care of first? Am I the only one going through this? I have a son by this guy who has a 7 year old daughter who lives up north. She calls and tells him what she want ( material things) and he breaks his neck to send them to her when my son NEEDS things and I have to ask him 500 times before I get it. I have a 6 week old son who needs pampers, formula, sleepers, etc. Shouldn't NEEDS come before WANTS??
2006-10-13 14:32:12 · 5 answers · asked by tantalizin1 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's actin glike he gotta move when thy say jump and the baby momma left here and went with another man and he left her. Now she's miserable and trying to cause confusion.
2006-10-13 14:45:25 · update #1
that baby should come first no matter what and he may have something he not telling u about that first baby momma and thats why he gotta jump when ever that little girl calls......u need to get on his case he gotta newborn that cant wait on things like that 7 yr old can
2006-10-13 14:36:25 · answer #1 · answered by toya1jolly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It more depends I think on the type of relationship he had with the mother. If he was married to the first one, or was with her for years and the child was wanted, he feels more connected with the eldest. If the 2nd child was an "oops" and not meant to happen, or just a short fling, he probably has resentment and would rather pretend that one doesn't exist.
2006-10-13 14:36:14 · answer #2 · answered by SatinDoll1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could be wrong but I think I know how your husband feels, it's guilt.. My eldest daughter lived with my mom far away and I really had this tendency to give her wants and discount my kids' (here with me) needs. He's feeling guilty and he wants to make up for not being with her by giving her as much as he can.
Talk to him and make him see the disparity of the situation. I myself realized after some time that what I did was wrong.
2006-10-13 14:40:07 · answer #3 · answered by Ai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause it's his 1st born.. they have a relationship.. ur 6wk old and babydaddy don't have that bond yet.. it's no excuse but u know they r stupid... he's probably just doing that to spite u.. most men do.. they misplace their anger w/the mother and use it against the child....
but that's not always the case cause my son's father is a straight ********.. i have his oldest and he's a deadbeat..
2006-10-13 14:36:05 · answer #4 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just feels bad that he is not there with his daughter and if gets her all the stuff that she wants then that will make up for it. That doesn't make it right, but I bet it makes him feel better.
2006-10-13 14:36:13 · answer #5 · answered by lexi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋