For 3 years I've been honlding on ...Now that my wife is with another man she still saying that she loves me but she still having sex and seeing this other person ..for almost 3 years....I've been holding for that long..but now every time i see her i feel pain and i feel anger, upset ....I feel numb inside me.
2006-10-13 14:31:40 · 36 answers · asked by LOST IN THE MIST 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She doesn't love you, she is just holding on to you like a back up plan or for some other reason. You need to give her an ultimatum: You or him. Make it very clear to her how serious you are. If she is not willing to give up this other relationship, you need to get a divorce.
2006-10-13 14:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by BAnne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The end of a relationship is like the death of your best friend. It is hard and painful and you need time to heal. You can not love someone you deceived for three years. That must have been a lot of lied she told you to cover up the affair. She was a liar then so why would you believe her now? If you let yourself heal and move on from her then you open yourself up to a world where you could meet someone special. Someone that won't hurt or cheat. I hope you give yourself some time to heal and move on from her. She is not good for you and will only cause you further pain.
2006-10-13 14:37:21 · answer #2 · answered by cbay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess so. poor you.. Yeah your wife loves you.. she loves the money you bring home the work you do for the family the security of knowing you'll always be around even when she fools around. life is good right now for her. and sucks for you.
You are a human being and you need love and honesty just likea nyone else. she seems to have a different view.
pull up your boot straps and lay down the law here. Don't put up with that stuff. Your worth more than that.
She can't play you like a fiddle unless you let her.
good luck
2006-10-13 19:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to feel this way. YOur wife is a very selfish woman!!! She still does not want to let u go. Also wants to keep this other man in her life. She is only thinking of herself. There is no hope if this is going on now for 3 yrs. Have respect for yourself and just walk away!! Be strong and tell her that you will not allow her to do this to you any longer!!
Good Luck
2006-10-13 15:13:41 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen this so much it is frustrating.
She is a liar. You don't listen to what liars say. If she starts moving her lips, assume it is a lie. Actually practice this approach to her. You will soon find you don't have the patience to put up with her lies and will soon stop talking to her. Maybe then you will move on. She only tells you she loves you so she can keep you on the line. It gives her a cheap thrill to know she has two guys that want her. Unfortunately her need for approval is causing you deep pain. Please accept this as the truth and move on. Find someone worthy of you. Raise your expectations.
Don't compromise on some things. Fidelity is one of the major ones.
Good luck
2006-10-13 14:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's got you wound around her finger....Let her go, there is no room for true love when someone isn't being faithful.....I know you have a history with her and unless you enjoy having her make you feel this way.....(I really doubt it) move on sweetie, there are many women who will love you and respect you the way you deserve!!!
Don't let her ruin it all for other women, I have never cheated and hold my head up high....you should too!!!!
2006-10-13 14:45:28 · answer #6 · answered by ~MEEEOW~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her. It's just not worth the pain and trouble. Get some therapy if you need it. Get a hobby, work out. Focus on you bieng happy, the best revenge is bieng happy and healthy. She'll realize her mistake before long and by then you'll have found a "worthy" woman.
2006-10-13 14:35:58 · answer #7 · answered by LovePotion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to look at whats fair for you. she does not love you if she is with another man. and my gosh 3 years is no woste than one time but when are you going to wake up and find some one that truly loves you! She is keeping you for the money or home or something other than love, please do your self a favor and move on. She doesnt deserve a nice person like you.
2006-10-13 14:37:45 · answer #8 · answered by mouse3801 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you have problems if you have been waiting for some cheating B for three years. She likes having you on the back burner for some reason, maybe you should tell her new man about this and then run far away from the psycho!
2006-10-13 14:35:18 · answer #9 · answered by Bonnie K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she cant love you that much or she would never have started an affair if she was happy with her marriage. If you think you can work through this then try if you cant forgive her in time then tell her to go rather than be even more hurt later on
2006-10-13 14:40:24 · answer #10 · answered by blakeman6830 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋