I'm not exactly what people would call popular. But, dont take that wrong im not a loser/geek (sort of). I need to know how to be popular. Will me being smart (im in double advanced classes but i dont brag about that) affect how popular i could? how can i stop being shy and start making more friends and possible become popular?
2006-10-13 13:55:53 · 29 answers · asked by Grammar B*@%h 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have to add something.... a lot of ppl are telling me to socialize with the popular kids except i cant since they arent in enough classes with me to do so and i dont have time between classes since they are so spread apart.... also i have one popular friend excpet she is becoming meaner and we arent reall friends anymore so im wondering if that is a factor of popularity
2006-10-13 14:13:35 · update #1
most of my friends are smart as well. my school is like all the smart ppl and friends all the popular ppl are friends all the goth ppl are friends andeveryone else is friends so there arent many ppl who are friends with smart and gothy ppl
2006-10-13 14:15:41 · update #2
i have a reputation for being that smart math girl and im not that much of a geek i dont how to keep the name while being cool
2006-10-13 14:20:22 · update #3
u dont want to be popular trust me! Their just a bunch of shallow stuck up freaks
2006-10-13 14:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by California Dreamer 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ewww... this type of question is nauseating. Why do you care if you're popular or not? You've got brains, which is more than what most of those numbnuts possess. School is only the part of your life where you accumulate the knowledge to be able to be successful and make money. So in a couple years, you're going to be rich, and they'll be serving you food. I'm only saying this because you seem desperate enough to drop your advanced classes just to be "popular." Do NOT do that! However, social interaction is necessary, so you've got to get over your shyness (though you said you have friends, so I think that suffices...). Talk to some people you think are like you and would have your types of interests. Join clubs and such if you really want. Of course, you should be happy with your friends now! They're the ones that really matter. They beat pretty, shallow acquaintances any day.
2006-10-13 21:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How to reduce your shyness? Start socialising with people more. Go out more. Get out of your comfort zone and go to places you haven't been before. Make it a goal to meet new people regularly. Talk and actually get to know them. If you do these things I guarantee your shyness problem will improve massively. One very effective way of conquering your shyness is to take drama classes.
How to increase your popularity? Be a fun person to be around. Be positive, not someone who is a grouch or constantly negative. Be interesting by doing interesting things - in other words try out new things and keep yourself busy socially. Attend the popular social events at your school/college and make an effort to know people.
There is ONE great way how to send your popularity soaring. Throw a party and be the host. This will earn you massive respect from most of the people who attend.
2006-10-13 21:07:25 · answer #3 · answered by The boy from London 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should be proud of yourself for being advanced/smart. If I were in your situation I would just be myself, and make friends with those who like you for who you are not for how cool you are. All of those kids that you call "popular" will be the "losers" in the end, worrying more about their popularity status rather than their educations. In my eyes you are far more cool than those people who hang in "clicks" . Please take my advice and continue to concentrate on your studies, rather than popularity. I promise in ten years it wont matter how popular you were in school, and you will see that your success in life came from working hard, and not from how popular you were. I know popularity is important to you now, but you will learn that it has nothing to do with who and what you will be as an adult.
2006-10-13 21:15:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Popularity is not important in life. What is important is that you like who you are, and see your own value. Maybe you are shy because you feel you have nothing interesting to contribute. The truth is that many people share common interests. These people will be fun to talk to and be better friends for you.
Popularity is over-rated.....its definitely not the answer to a happy life. Have fun and take some chances and start conversations about things you feel you like to talk about. Good Luck !
2006-10-13 21:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by lavender2dream4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you have friends that are really your friends, who cares. I come from a school that everybody knows everybody and almost everyone got along. Smart kids were popluar, dumb kids were popular. As long as you have your friends now, dont worry about being popular. Plus "popular kids" usually get into a lot of trouble, and can be the wrong crowd. Trust me
2006-10-13 20:59:24 · answer #6 · answered by J R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I learned to always being myself. And dont try to be some one and to not change yourself just to fit in others. I wud not care if i was popular on not i just be myself and actually for being myself i have quite a lot of frends so all i have to say is just be your self
2006-10-13 20:59:10 · answer #7 · answered by Kimmy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think a person needs to be popular just to feel good about oneself.
Just be comfortable with yourself.
Try to get to know yourself first and all the things that you want/don't want.
Then people would start seeing/noticing you =D
2006-10-13 20:58:58 · answer #8 · answered by sharkie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT, I REPEAT DO NOT DO ANYTHING TO CHANGE WHO YOU ARE! You might not fit in right now and have a posse of 55797638287645 people but believe me, if you change who you are you will NEVER AND I MEAN never forgive yourself. It may seem important right now but you will regret it later. Be yourself people will like you for that. Anyways people normally seem to end up hating popular people.
2006-10-13 20:59:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The key to popularity is being nice to everyone. It doesn't matter who they are. People like to be around someone who is good and nice. If you're smart... Help some people w/their homework. They will appriciate that.
2006-10-13 20:59:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
being popular isn't all it's cracked up to be. I'm popular... i mean, the girls, the incessant phone calls... it really sucks. I mean, I'd NEVER be in an advanced class or anything, because then I'd be a REAL loser. Kind of like how you sound. Here's how you go about being popular:
- you have to be good looking. You may already be on the outs.
- you have to be good at something. Again, sounds like it's not your bag.
- you have to learn to be good in the sack. if you're a virgin, you're hopeless.
Because being popular is all about how you feel, what you're feeling, and who you feel up.
2006-10-13 21:00:55 · answer #11 · answered by Andrew Jesse Brown 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋