Please don't hate me.What should i do?

Question

I met this guy over two years ago. We were just friends for a while.Mostly because he had a girlfriend,which turned out to be a wife.Anyways he would complain about her all the time,and how bad things were and how he was gonna leave her etc.Anyways one day we just haning out and he kissed and i let him.Anyways i told him from the get go that i had no interest in being anyones mistress,but he insisted it wasn't like that and that he wanted to leave her and when he did we could be togther.Well it's been two years.And i've tried more than once to stop seeing him,i've said so many things to get him to just not talk to me ever again.I even told him he was bad in bed.But someway somehow we always end up back togther.Anyways it's clear he has no intention of leaving,and i can't be the other woman anymore,so what do i do?Should i just walk away and let him be or should i tell his wife what he did?

I actually didn't sleep with him for almost a year.Why do guys think everything is all about sex?

Answer 1

That is a difficult question. I think you should just leave, she may already know and just lying to herself, having to address the situation is not going to make her charitable towards you. For your own good, seperate yourself from the situation and work on rebuilding your own self esteem. Good luck, you deserve better.

Answer 2

Sweetie, very old, old story, grade B movie...always the other woman. And yet, daily, thousands of nice women fall for this old line. I would be very surprised if he didn't have more than one "other woman." Men like this collect them, tell lies, and very often, the wife knows about it.
This is your fault, not his wife's. Walk away now..haven't you wasted enough time with this...time you will NEVER get back? Walk away and leave NO energy towards it...no negative energy (you cannot change the past), and for heaven's sake, don't make a fool of yourself by telling her. After all, she still has to live with the jerk, you do not! Consider yourself lucky that you woke up before she did, otherwise, it would be you he was cheating on. Men like this are ALL the same..sob story, wife doesn't understand them, etc. The real problem is the wife DOES understand them, it is all the other women who do not. Good luck

Answer 3

I personally think the wife has a right to know what has been going on. I am unsure whether you should be the one to tell her though. I would tell him that it is over between the two of you and tell him that he needs to work on his relationship with his wife and that he needs to be honest with her and tell her what has been going on. There has surely been some clues in the last 2 years, so it may not come as that much of a shock. I would not advise you to tell her because you never know what might happen then...we don't know what she might do, or what he might do for that matter.

Good for you that you have learned a lesson. Some people keep right on making the same mistakes over and over again and never learn. I am not a deeply religious person, but I am very spiritual.... so please don't think I am preaching to you, but I would suggest you ask God for forgiveness and ask him for guidance often. He is there even when others are turning up their noses. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

No need to bring the wife in it.. You knew he lied to you a few years ago about a simple girlfriend being a wife in the end.. Do you really think he is going to leave her? He has been lying from day one.

That your life if you like being played for a piece of azz then continue living the lies with him.. he never built a true friendship with you, and he never respected your words on waiting until he had moved on.. you have to be the one to take control of your life NOW!! put your foot down and do what you have to, change your number.. or hell tell him you will call the cops on him for stalking you.

You can't move forward until you have made it up in your mind, heart, and soul your done and you will not continue this.. you have to be *tired of being tired* once you get there you can move ahead with out looking back.

Answer 5

You are playing second best. Why would you want to have a married man in your life who is a lying, cheating no good for nothing husband? You are not that special and I am not meaning that to be mean. He probably is never going to leave his wife for you. If he did he will probably do the same thing to you. You should start going out and finding single men. I would just tell him its over because you want an honest man and he will never be the honest man you want.

Answer 6

call the law enforcement officials on her. Shes LEGALLY in charge to look after ALL of you until eventually you're 18. They probable won't take each and all of the toddlers out of the homestead after one pass to, yet they're going to investigate bypass-verify her and tell her to no longer have this style of piece of sh*t (boyfriend) round her little ones. to no longer point out once you're receiving housing reward on your toddlers you may no longer have some loser residing there for loose no longer contributing. CPS needs to maintain the toddlers with the dad and mom while ever achieveable, so they're going to probable only supply her a slap on the wrist and make her take some parenting training. possibly even score a no touch order between the loser boyfriend and each and all of the toddlers, then he can no longer come over. good success!

Answer 7

You already know you are wrong and should leave him alone. If you call the wife (who probably already knows) it will only look like you are a jealous vindictive homewrecker who wants to break them up. He will probably call you a lying whore to his wife. She might not believe you anyway and might actually blame you, you know how some women can be. You should just walk away without bieng vindictive because you let this situation happen, and move on with your life.

Answer 8

u shoulda walked away a long time ago...and how do u think that u have the right to tell his wife anything when you r just as guilty as he is...what u shoulda told her u didnt....when he was coming on to you thats when u shoulda told regardless of what he was telling u men lie to get what they want...if she was so bad then he wouldnt have married her in the first place she would have just stayed a gf or somebody on the side....like u....he not gonna leave her and if he do its not gonna be for u and how do u expect him to be in a relationship with u and not cheat if he cheats on his wife then he'll cheat on you and u wouldnt have a right to really be mad at all..then he might have his wife, u and some more females on the side...hope u used a rubber!!!!!!

Answer 9

Cut ties with this man. Change your number and do not let him in if he wants to come over. Call it quits. You will experience pain and loss but it was a losing relationship anyway.

My advice about calling the wife. Only do it if you truly care about her feelings and think that she should know about it. From your history (of sleeping with her husband) you really haven't shown that you do care for her. I think if you were to talk to her it would only be a sick way for you to get revenge on him and like it or not, you are just as much to blame for his infedelity since you allowed him this relationship with you.

Most likely you are just hurt that you didn't get what you wanted and that was a man that you already know has a history of cheating. What a prize! (Not)

Just my honest opinion

Answer 10

Oh hell no, stay with him. You slept with another woman's man just because he said things were bad in the marriage. No, your punishment should be to be stuck with this two timer knowing he will never leave a sure thing at home. Especially when there is a easy trick to be had anytime he wants outside the house.