Basically my husband is great...in everything except being there for me emotionally. We seem to be roommates with fringe benefits this leaves me very lonely and depressed. What to do? I have bitched, cried, talked whatever and it's always "I know I'm not very open, I'll try to be better"
2006-10-13 13:40:32 · 5 answers · asked by Ray 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to get out I am not saying go cheat on ur husband.But find somethings to make you smile again make u feel like a woman.If you do your man will see the difference in you.He will move on your new found energy and you can then find out if this is the man you need to be with. First, you need to pick ur self up and brush yourself off. You might be the his strength even though you want him to be emotional this could be his weakness and this might be something you have to live WITH or NOT.I was married to a man for 15yrs together for 12 and he was lacking the confidence and strength I desired in a man it didn't work.I learned over the years this was it wasn't in him. I had a choice love it or leave it alone.We have been divorced for sometime now.I can't be mad with him we weren't compatible as a couple but we could be the best of friends.
2006-10-13 14:11:46 · answer #1 · answered by Nai Nai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
another "surprised" spouse ... he is who he is and has always been that way, your problem is unrealistic expectations that he would change. obviously, he does not deal well with emotional issues, most men dont and we aren't trained for it. i suggest you just be more demonstrative with your affection, a touch or kiss when you pass by each other, sitting together on the couch instead of seperate chairs, assist him with chores around the house, involve him in sharing cooking, it can be fun and romantic, repaint a room, make him gifts instead of buying them ... if you want emotional closeness, share as many things as you can and look for opportunites to touch and show intimacy by being close and sharing an activity
intimacy is not instinctive, its a learned response
2006-10-13 20:55:26 · answer #2 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep communicating to him, I have been married for 5 years and that seems to be the best way.
2006-10-13 20:45:01 · answer #3 · answered by Risedvn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered a marriage counselor?
2006-10-13 20:43:31 · answer #4 · answered by angel 22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEFINITELY time for a marriage counselor
2006-10-13 20:44:16 · answer #5 · answered by from HJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋