when i first started going out with my boy friend, i really liked him. but now like i still like him but just not as much. just barly crossing the line of just wanting to be friends. ive asked some of my other friends for advice on what to do but i still dont know if i should brake up with him or not. like i try not to make eye contact with him because he always gives me this one look and it makes me feel all giulty and i feel like reallllllllly bad when we kiss because its not fair to either of us because im just acting like i still like him like that when i really dont and i dont want to and he thinks i do and im just really confused. plaes help me. :|
2006-10-13 13:19:13 · 19 answers · asked by christina m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
oh yes honey, dump him and dump him now, you are wasting time in your life when you can be happy, and he is not part of that happiness, don't want, get. don't dream, do. Do not be who you are not, you will not like it in the long run and you WILL blame him and hold it against him for that. If you can leave now with little bitterness then do it before it turns to hate and distain.
2006-10-13 13:23:26 · answer #1 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel...don't string him along... he deserves to know...but if you keep leading him on then it is going to be so much guilt on your part. it would be so hard for you to stare him in the eyes...because of the simle fact that you have not been true to yourself or to him...when you no longer feel the same for someone...you tell that person so they could move on, as hard as it may be for him...he really don't have a choice...and usually when a person don't have a choice their only option is to go with what is left...and moving on is all thats left for him to do..so i think that you need to be upfront with him...tell him that you do not want to waste his on your time...over something that just isn't there anymore...your confused because your hearing all this different advice from ppl...plus you don't know what you want and you are afraid you are going to hurt him...just know that bein discreet about how you feel about him will only tear him up more....tell him the truth, he may be angry, mad, hurt, but at the end of the day he'll respect you for it..because you were upfront and truthful.
2006-10-13 13:44:04 · answer #2 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should break up with him now. Don't lead him on because if you wait the breakup is just going to be harder for both of you. Maybe you just need time apart, or maybe your feelings have just changed for good, if that's the case you're not going to start liking him again, so don't hold on thinking your feelings will change.
2006-10-13 13:23:17 · answer #3 · answered by nic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be honest with yourself before you can be honest with him. If you aren't happy, then you just have to tell him that the feelings for him have changed and you need some space for now. If he is a true gentleman, he will accept your wishes...if not, too bad, you move on.
2006-10-13 13:23:30 · answer #4 · answered by Diana'sman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are starting to have had enough of him. How simple can it be?
Follow what your system is telling you, that is what those feelings are for, to guide you.
You don't have to complicate it, men are like shoes, after a while you have to get new ones.
It is no big deal when you are young and learning.
2006-10-13 14:02:37 · answer #5 · answered by Jandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep.........your bored with the current relationship and where it is at. So either figure out what first made it WOW for you in the begining and rekindle it.......or move on and find someone that makes it worth the time and effort.
2006-10-13 13:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by scotdic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not ready to call it quits yet? Okay, here's the plan. Make a list of all the nice things about him, and also do some nice things for him.
Simple, huh?
2006-10-13 13:21:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have taken the 1st step of being honest with yourself now it is time to be honest with him. Let him know that you would like to be friends instead of lovers. This is not fair to him.
2006-10-13 13:46:44 · answer #8 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honostly, you should talk to him about how you feel before you do anything. Maybe he feels the same way, maybe he should be doing something different. And that way if you do end the relationship later on, it won't be out of the blue.
2006-10-13 13:22:44 · answer #9 · answered by sillysinga7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be honest with him. how do you think he is going to feel if he realizes that you have been pretending to like him? he will feel alot worse than if you were to just be honest and tell him that you no longer want to see him. also you will feel better about yourself if you just come clean.
2006-10-13 15:24:31 · answer #10 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋