i went out with this guy for 10 whole months and we had the best time together...fell in love and all that good stuff...well recently he told me he cheated on me a few months ago and that he thinks we should break up because hes afraid of hurting me again...well i thought he just stopped loving or liking me or sumthing and would never wanna talk 2 me again...but he still calls me all the time and he told me he still loves me....i still like him a lot and i dont kno how 2 move on...we also go 2 school 2gether so i see him ALL THE TIME...wat should i do????????????? wat should i say to him??????? IM SO CONFUSED!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-13 13:10:31 · 16 answers · asked by babycakes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It seems like he's winding you up love... tells you he wants to break up with you and then doe sall this? Tell him to make his mind up.
2006-10-13 13:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You wrote that you went around with a guy for ten mos. and he broke off with you, and he also told you that he had cheated on you a few mos. back. This guy still calls you up and you see each other in School, and he is telling you that he is afraid of hurting you again,but, he still tells you that he loves you. It is a hard situation you are in right now, but if I were you I would tell him that you would like to remain friends with him, and that you will see if with time you might see if you would want to be his girlfriend again some day. This guy is dangling you alone and he knows that he has you whenever he wants you back. Think hard and make the right decision,and I wish you a lot of luck.
2006-10-13 13:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel about the fact that he cheated on you? Do you feel you can put it in the past and move on? I think that if he is genuinely sorry and you feel strongly about him you could give him another chance as long as he is generally a trustworthy person apart from that terrible incident. I think it is important that you tell him you are disgusted with what he did and make this clear as a warning sign he doesn't ever do it again. If you don't strongly state your disapproval, he will think you are a pushover and that is the last thing you want.
If he has lied about other things as well I would end the relationship and move on. You need to be with someone who respects you.
2006-10-13 13:16:58 · answer #3 · answered by The boy from London 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew how old you were, it would make a big difference in how I answered this question. So here goes with both scenarios.
If you are a teenager...move on, you don't need the drama and there are many other young men out there!
If you are in your 20's---I would still move on, but, I am not you. Can you forgive him,...I mean truly forgive and forget? If you cannot do that, his cheating will forever haunt your relationship.
A lot for you to think about. Best wishes.
2006-10-13 13:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 19 and i have been in a relationship b4 for 3 years during hs. he cheated on me. watever says he is sorry.
know thsi that if you do get back together with him, it will probably be in the back of your mind all te time that he cheated and can make u insecure and if something is goin wrong in the relationship, then you might assume that he is cheating again. that is what happened to me. the trust is just broken forever. he was also paronoid because he thought tha i would cheat on him to get back at him and he became very insecure becaus ehe thought i was too good for him adn how can i go back with him.
if h erealy loved you he never would of cheated on you. yes peopel make mistakes but TRUE LOVE is all about not ever wanting to hurt the one you love. he hurt you and to me that is not true love. i dont knwo if u r in hs and that is your 1st love BUT if it is your 1st love then do not settle for him. peopelalways get scared with here first love and think that that is the one for them and that thre is no one else. but after you move on and find someone else you will see tha its all about just being scared to let go and startin gover with someone else.
dont know if tha helped, just speaking from experience.
2006-10-13 13:19:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not going to advise you about this situation, because you have 15 answers already. BUT, i hope you learn your lesson from this and NEVER, EVER GO OUT WITH ANYONE FROM SCHOOL. OR WORK. OR NEAR WHERE YOU LIVE. This is to protect yourself from having to see this person everyday when/if things go wrong.
And for your information: Men always cheat!
2006-10-13 13:35:16 · answer #6 · answered by Just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should certainly break up with that guy and should try to find someone else, but i'll suggest you to concentrate on your studies, your studies should be your priority. Any how just take it as a bad dream and try to think that "you'll live for yourself not for him. And you don't care about anyone". This will increase your confidence while facing him
2006-10-13 13:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by colt_commando2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should talk to him about it dont let him go b/c something stupid like that talk it over with him he sounds like a Great guy im also on my 10 month with my b/f and he cheated on me the first week and we talked it over everything is great now so try it See if it works!
2006-10-13 13:14:13 · answer #8 · answered by ~!*RaeRae*!~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i believe that u r in quite the predicament and so u should forgive for the incident it could ahve been a misteke, but if it was for months he was dating her, then u'll have to evaluate all he's done to u: the good and the bad. then ur decision will become clear.
2006-10-13 13:14:12 · answer #9 · answered by EmySaur :D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop liking him so he can see you can cheat on him to and go find your self another boyfriend.
2006-10-13 13:14:21 · answer #10 · answered by tito c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋