How did you first find out?
What did you first notice that made you suspect he/she was cheating on you?
If someone did cheat on you - did/would you stay with them?
Honest answers please.
2006-10-13 13:02:54 · 20 answers · asked by Denise 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He was not interested in sex anymore. We didn't fight - we didn't even talk. We went about our lives living as a couple with children, but he never wanted to be anywhere near me.
He would never touch me. If I leaned closer to whisper something to him he leaned away. He would not sit next to me at our children's sports.
I finally found out after he moved out of the house. He had been having an affair for two years. He left a 20-year marriage to be with the other woman.
I would never take back someone who cheated on me. I told him if he walked out he was out of my life, and I have not been sorry about that. I have more self-respect than to take back someone who has no respect for my feelings.
2006-10-13 13:11:28 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok...'cheating'. Been there.... done that ! It's a 'feeling' that you get, like you just 'know' that it's true. I've been cheated on, twice, and the main thing that i noticed, was the "quiet". There was a quiet, and a distance that happened in my experience. Lots of excuses also. I'm not saying that these things are, or will happen in your case.... but they did in mine. Did or would I stay with him / her ?....... Hell no ! To me, there IS no excuse for cheating. If you dont like / love the person that you're with, and you want to go "play".... then LEAVE. People that cheat need to be an adult about it, and take responsibility for the relationship that they are currently in, and break it off.
2006-10-13 20:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by JSSK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would like to know this too. My husband often makes up excuses when he's been out for long periods of time, but I know he has a gambling problem, so it could also be that. He is one of those guys that is very against any kind of unfaithfulness, but I think I remember saying those the are the types most likely to cheat!
Honestly, if I found out he was cheating, I would stay with him, but make it an open relationship. I know that would be devestating to him, but I would want him to feel the same pain as me. HTH : )
2006-10-13 20:07:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is extremely difficult to tell if your partner is cheating if you have a lot of other commitments in your life. One of my exes cheated on me, so I did what I thought would be the second worst thing you could do to your partner; I waited a month until someone better came along, then made sure he knew I was breaking up with him to date someone else!
2006-10-13 20:08:26 · answer #4 · answered by kimilou2001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband of 4 years cheated on me for like six months. I had a feeling about it and even asked him and he got mad at me that I would think that about him. It's kinda funny to think back on that now. Always trust your gut instinct. He kissed me different and even when we made love it was just differ ant. I can't explain it you just feel it. Sorry to be so vague but I really can't put into words how I knew. Good luck. Hopefully this is not happening to you. P.S. No I did not stay with him we have been divorced for about 2 years now.
2006-10-13 20:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by Sippy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When they hide their phones or they are constantly on silence. When they take more interest in their appearance and go out without you more often. Dodgy phone bills and credit card statements. All of a sudden, taking more interst in you after being distant (guilt). It could be a number of things, but if your instincts are telling you something isnt right and their behaviour is suddenly changing towards you, i would certainly question it!! As far as taking him back or forgiving him, no chance. A leopard never changes his spots and i wont put up with being second best and being shown no respect for my wellbeing (STD"S) or feelings!!!
2006-10-13 20:08:45 · answer #6 · answered by carolina 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he stopped communicating with me,he sat across the table and put his head down and didn't look at me much. he stopped inviting me places, he went outdoors to talk on his cell phone.he began to take more showers, he began to use mouthwash.it turned into a very unfriendly house, at first i received gifts, and did not understand it, now i know he felt guilty at the beginning. i had a bad feeling, sort of forboding feeling deep inside a feeling of extreme sadness one morning that he went out of town for a job.than came christmas time, and i was very happy, thinking we could spend some time together, since he was off that week, but he was never home. a day after christmas he told me he wanted a divorce, and that no he had no girlfriend, i discovered later he did, when i went on vacation to visit my adult kid's something was wrong when i returned home.he immediatly picked a fight with me, called me names, attacked my character, and i just couldn't understand. the woman i later learned had been in my home when i was away.
i cried for months, he placed all the blame on me, i was full of self hatred, but than realiazed it was all about this other woman and had very little to do with me. i realiazed that his opinion of me wasn't who i was. i ended up filing for divorce, on divorce day his last words to me was i'll see ya later, well that was the day i left the state and began a new life. i did not stay with him, glad i didn't, and i am much happier today.but there are times i still think of the way he hurt me, one never forgets.
2006-10-13 20:33:27 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shortly after we separated he claimed he still loved me and wanted us to get back together. But I suspected long before I knew for sure. He couldn't look me in the eye. Started wearing new clothes. His phone line was busy for long periods (said he was talking to his land lady). I finally told him I knew he had been with other women and he admitted it. Then I divorced him.
2006-10-13 20:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by 6-Pack? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I figured it out wen he started stayin out on the weekends wen he never did that before,and wen he kept his phone on vibrate..He just changed up on me..He would pick agurments,than leave so that he can be with her..And i tried to stay wit him but i couldnt,be cuz it was the same stuff everyweek wit him..He'd cheat i'd catch him he'd promise not to do it again..Than it started all over again...
2006-10-13 21:08:00 · answer #9 · answered by stephanie f 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um, well i just had a feeling that my husband was cheating on me, i htink i knew the feeling cause i have been cheated on in the past a thousand times plus i can tell when he lies to me but i kept blelieve him and denying myself so if you relaly have that feeling start doin what ever you can to find out, i always said i woul leave him but im still here cause i love him and want to work through this. um keep tabs on his emails., thats actually how i found out was i caught an email then her husband found out and emailed me bout it. i should have knowen all along, just trust your instinct cause it will lead you the right way trust me i wish i would have i would have found out sooner goodluck to you
2006-10-13 20:07:00 · answer #10 · answered by beautifulmommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋