A genuine question for women.?

Question

How important is physical looks when it comes to going out with someone? I met a really beautiful woman ( inside+ out) but i consider her to be way out of my league. Now, i'm not ugly, i get attention but, like i said, she is way above me in that respect. What are your opinions/ experiences.
Much appreciated.

i'm not insecure about myself. i know i'm good enough for her but realistically, there has to be some physical attraction there for it to work. i know, i know, a typical man thing to say.

Answer 1

I have to find someone physically attractive to want to go out with them, but personality definitely has an influence on how I perceive people's looks and is pretty much the deal breaker. I've met plenty of attractive men who became much, much less so as they revealed themselves to be twats, and a few who've become cuter as they turned out to be quite decent blokes really.

I'd say it's definitely worth exploring the prospects with this woman you've met, sounds like she's good enough to be worth taking a chance on!

Answer 2

Being attracted to someone is important-but physical features are not the only aspect of attraction. It may be what catches our attention in the beginning, but the way someone makes you feel, and treats you is what keeps our attention.
There isnt any one person that is any more important or in a better league than anyone else. If you are interested, ask her out-the worse that can happen is she will say no, and who knows - she may be wanting you to ask her out.

Answer 3

Appearance is important. however, you are not giving yourself a chance, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, how will you know unless you approach her. She may find you to be very attractive and just what she is looking for. Character and personality accounts for a lot also. Not just looks, nothing worse than a man who is wonderful to look at and can not hold an intelligent conversation. I personally have dated some really good looking men that turned out to be very dull and boring. So it really has a lot to do with character and personality. I say go for it, you will never know until you try. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 4

I have been flattered by being told that I'm a beauty. I disagree, but that's beside the point.

The point is that, to me, a man's looks are immaterial. I could prove it, too, by introducing you to my husband: he could charitably be said to resemble a shaved Basset hound.

I adore him.

I dated all kinds of men when I was single; some were downright homely, and a couple were much more beautiful than me!

But, I'll tell you a secret: put on nice clothes, and stand up straight, and it won't matter to a woman if you have a nose the size of a bell pepper, or if your complexion looks as if you haven't got the hang of a fork, yet.

Truly good people don't care about that sort of thing. They only care if YOU are a good person too!

Answer 5

One problem that super-beautiful women say they have is that men are uncomfortable about asking them out.

If the woman is, as you say, beautiful on the inside too; she isn't thinking about her own appearance to the degree that someone who doesn't have that level of attractiveness may think she is.
(There are the shallow, awful, super-good-looking, women, too; but that's not who you are talking about.)

Attractiveness is more than just how perfect someone's face or build is. Its a bunch of attributes all put together to make someone attractive. I don't think most normal, well adjusted, women care as much about "degree of handsomeness" as they do just finding something kind of attractive about the guy. That's not necessarily saying that a woman will go out with a guy who looks like a troll; but there's a whole lot of middle ground between being a troll and being a "ten".

The only "out of your league" that I, personally, could imagine could be "legitimate" (sort of) would be if your social standing/lack of it is way off from hers. There can be a certain type of discomfort people have crossing those. The woman who works in the cafeteria may think there's something "off" about the man who is the president of the company and asks her out. She may worry about his motives or even if he's a pervert. The woman who is regional manager of a marketing group may not want to go out with the guy who cleans the restrooms. It may not be that she thinks she's better, but she may worry about his motives or whether he's a pervert too (!!). (I think there's a lot of worrying about keeping the perverts away when it comes to women.)

Anyway, I don't think there's any other "out of your league" situatons that women would think much about.

Answer 6

If i am to answer honestly then yes i would say physical looks are quite important. For example, i can say that i think i would have been unlikely to marry a guy if he was really tiny - under 5' - as i am over 5'9. Also if he was so ugly that i just couldnt fancy him, then its unlikely i would have bothered to get to know him to see if i liked him. It the old beauty and the beast question really isnt it? I hate it if everyone was saying how ugly my husband was behind my back!

Answer 7

Good question. It all depends on if she is the type who only go for pretty things and don't care about the inside, or she is the type who want good things inside the wrapper.
Personally, if she's only after the wrapper, then she might not be worth going for, as she may not understand the value of you. But you say that she is really beautiful inside + out, then she should not be that type, so you shouldn't need to worry about her being too beautiful.
She should be able to see your good personality on your looks. As long as you are sure that you and her will be good each other, then you should try to be with her. Remember, you'll never get if you don't try.

Answer 8

Physical looks don't come into it,but with me I could never go out with someone who was higher up than me career wise,i would prefer to go out with a builder rather than a solicitor only because i feel I'm not good enough although I get much attention from men in high profile jobs.

Answer 9

for me physical look is important especially when u wanted to go out and spend some time with someone special.everytime we went out before with my suitors,we keep on getting glances and curios looks coz im pretty and has a fair complexion wherein my date will be exact opposite.some even ask if he was my driver or PA.really embarassing!then there was also one time i got a super cute boyfriend and again we got curios looks coz girls would ask me,"how were u able to get him?"its just like they think that he is way too much for me.like what u said, the people had their own level or standard when it comes to physical looks.its like a group wherein u should know where u belong,upper,middle or lower.i got a husband now,in the middle category and im also in the middle category and we still have some glances but more of an approval nod adding that"u complement each other" thing.its just the way it is..

Answer 10

My best friend is a beautiful woman-more like absolutely stunning, on the inside and the outside, but people spend so much time being intimidated by the power of her looks, that they don't approach her on a real level. They end up approaching her the way they think they should to try to impress her, when its their sincere interest in the inside that impresses her. She's knows she's pretty, but she has her insecure, "i don't feel pretty" days too...What she wants is for people to be real with her and treat her like a real person? Not only should you be honest with your words, be sincere in your actions. Don't treat her like "a beautiful girl." Treat like any other girl, who happens to be beautiful. I desribe my best friend as "the most beautiful girl I know...AND she LOOKS nice too..."