should i cheat?

Question

my husband cheated on me last year and got her pregnant i have the oppurtunity to cheat on him in a little while should i do it or not i want to but not sure i want to explore my options like he did

i love him very much i am jus tired of being lied to all the time and not knowing what he is doing when he is not at home i trust him nomore he lies to much

its stupid but to hard to let go after 11 years

Answer 1

two wrongs don't make a right,you will just end up feeling guilt if you do,.don't even go there.

Answer 2

The physical act of infidelity is not necessarily the most damaging element An extra-marital affair is almost always conducted in secrecy. This secrecy particularly once it is discovered, undermines an otherwise healthy marriage The idea of trust, openness, sharing and the belief that you belong to somethin all will unquestionably be damaged. At this point, the cheater needs to own up to things and the victim needs to be able to express what they are going through openly. Then the issue that led to the affair can be addressed and both partie need to take responsibility for the problems and how they will be fixed. Yes, marriage can survive infidelity and a happy marriage can be restored with patience, sincerity and effort. Some of the hurdles that will arise are the victim’ inability to get over the deception, the adulterer’s inability to realize what the have done and how wrong it is or a general inability to address and fix th underlying problems. It seems to me that your both of you need to work on problem which led to his affair. If you will not your marriage will be failure. Maybe some counseling will be helpfull. Couples counseling is very successful if both parties are willing to attend and really work on the relationship. If you have been together that long, I would say it's worth a try.

Answer 3

See this is exactly what I have been saying about EVERY cheating question I have answered on here. No matter HOW much you love someone once they cheat That's it....over, done, finished, no more. Yes you can go get "counseling" and "work things out" But it is NEVER really worked out and how can it be. Cheating is THE worse thing that you can do to the person you "supposedly" love. I have heard it from friends of mine....Oh well she did...so I have one owed to me. Bull Chips! You supposedly forgave that person for what they did....whats with the token thing. This is not a game.
I don't blame you for the way you feel....but DO NOT as someone already said Lower yourself to cheating. Why would you want to degrade yourself that way? Don't let "him" turn into a lesser person, a cheater, just to try and show him "what it feels like" to be cheated on. I commend you for giving it a try....I could not do that when my ex cheated on me....but deep down you know that this is something that is going to eat at you forever and lowering yourself to his level will not help you at all.
Believe me no one will blame you for calling it quites....and if anyone does....then either they themselves are cheating or they have not yet had the joy of being cheated on.
Please let go....move on...be happy....and DO NOT DO THIS!

Answer 4

No... under no circumstances should ANYONE cheat. And just cheating for the point of payback is not only wrong, but it's childish.

If you're wanting to "explore your options," then just go ahead and divorce him (because that's where your relationship is heading anyway), and both go on your merry ways. It sounds like you have no intentions of ever forgiving him and trying to make your marriage work, so better to cut your losses now and let him move on... maybe be a good father to the child he helped conceive last year.

Answer 5

I agree with what has been stated already... if you decided to stay with your husband after he cheated on you...then you should have left it at that. Yes, I know it is hard for someone else to say to you "oh just let it go" and you are the one living in the situation..but...if you feel the need to cheat, even for revenge purposes, you should not be with him. Let him go! I don't think if you cheat on him...you would feel any better about the situation...Maybe you feel like you should not have forgiven (or taken) him back... and if that's the case..move on..don't waste your time or his...

Answer 6

Wow....sounds like you and your husband still have many things to work out, if you are contemplating cheating on him.

Remember, two wrongs don't make a right. If you do this---Are you prepared to live with the lies and guilt that surround cheating?

Answer 7

Why be as dumb as he was Sweetie?
Why disrespect yourself like that?
Why give some lame such a gift as your most precious gift?

Did it dawn on you that you stayed; more than a year has passed since your husbands indiscretion, move on, it's a sin to be unforgiving. Move on, get counseling, improve and build the marriage. I know what I say to be possible for I have been thru this exact thing, and I am absolutely crazy about my husband, and this is after he got some smut pregnant!!!! We just re-dedicated our lives to Christ, and we have been inseparable since. You have to want it though, you can't say you want it, but always plotting on how to hurt in cause he hurt you.

Note- men are physically strong, we as women are emotionally stronger. It would grieve God if you couldn't forgive this one indiscretion, for God has forgiven you for your wrongs and sins against him, surely you can forgive you dumb husband for making such a foolish decision. Move on Babe, and except your part in his straying. I'm not saying what he did was okay, but we as women have a way of provoking men to do wrong, due to hurt that we can't effectively communicate to them.

Move on Baby, life's too short. Even good men makes mistakes.

Answer 8

Did his cheating make you love him more and do you think he's crazy ust like you? No? Don't cheat.. they call it cheating for a reason, because it's cheating. If you want to explore your options talk to him about openning the marriage to outside sexual partners.

Answer 9

I left my cheating/beating husband after 24 years. I found a man who was wonderful and loved me unconditionally. You are in a no win situation - time to cut the ties and find yourself.

Answer 10

i kinda know what you are goin through, cause my husband just had an affair on me although she couldnt get pregnant, but ive had the same feeling if i should cheat back or not, well if you want to work things out with him i wouldnt cause obvisouly you have enough problems to work on without making things worse, plus it wont make you feel any better just worse, good luck to you and if you really wanna work things out dont do something youll regret

Answer 11

cheating on him won't solve anything. It will only make it worse. If you want to explore your options you should consider a separation leading to either a divorce or to marriage counseling.