Do I have a right get mad after being called a chocolate bunny pt 2?

Question

There’s this white guy that supposedly likes me. And I was hanging with his friends jus talking laughing I was the only black girl and one of his friends came to the conversation to us and he like or yeah hanging with chocolate and everybody laughed except me then the guy that supposable likes me goes yeah your my chocolate bunny I said what! I got mad and got in is face all his friends left cus there scared then his friends came back saying I over reacted and I shouldn’t take it to offence which I felt I didn’t. Then he goes to say why do all black chicks have mega explosive disorders which got me angy again.So what would use of donein this situation .His 20 Im 19 so where both mature

Answer 1

You know what grow the heck up, would you react the same way if a black guy called you that? No you wouldn't, you would smile and say thank you or "aww that's sweet".
Stop taking it up the butt so much sweety...and yes, you did have a mega explosive disorder, calm it down.
Gosh, some people just always try to find the negativity in things.

Answer 2

I think you already answered your question.

"I said what! I got mad and got in is face all his friends left cus there scared then his friends came back saying I over reacted and I shouldn’t take it to offence which I felt I didn’t. Then he goes to say why do all black chicks have mega explosive disorders which got me angy again."

You overreacted. Take a chill. It annoys me when people overreact to anything that could be taken as racist. If a black guy said that you wouldnt think twice about it. This guy likes you and you scream at him. You know he didnt mean to be mean to you. you should have just talked to him on the side.. Now you lost a freind probably....Good job

Answer 3

The remark was obviously insensitive and showed a definite lack of respect for you. Getting angry was one way to deal with it, but it seems you fell into the trap of being stereotyped for it.

Are you familiar with the term 'Pyrrhic Victory'? If not, then you've surely heard of winning the battle and losing the war. They're pretty close. Venting your anger over an insensitive remark is a good thing, but do it and walk away. If an apology is forthcoming, it will come soon. If not, they're not the kind of people you need for friends.

Slugging it out verbally only serves to make everyone defensive and angry, accomplishing nothing. Pyrrhus found that out just like you did - the hard way.

Answer 4

Ummmmmmm......if he called you the "n" word, yeah, be offended. But chocolate has always been an acceptable term. One of my friends flaunts the reference quite comfortably, and the guys love it. White girls call themselves cream or vanilla in the same sort of deal. Some of brown skinned people joke about different grades of coffee.

Gays are martinis with a twissst, straight up are heteros.

It really isn't offencive to acknowledge our differences. It's offencive not to, in my eyes, and ignore cultural heritage and traditions. And using yummy appetizing positive imagery isn't demeaning.

I can, however, see how being in a group of males, regardless of colour, being intimidating. Your boyfriend should have shown a little more sensitivity.

But if you got in his face just because of that, you may have overreacted. He wasn't trying to be rude, just trying to give you a cute nickname, like sweetheart, or honey, (and who knows? Maybe he really likes Easter?), and making it known to his friends.

If they were afraid, they weren't trying to offend you, sweetie.

And you really emancipated him in front of his friends. Bad move.

He lost me though, when he said "all black chicks have explosive disorders." Like white chicks aren't psycho. Has he never seen Jerry Springer?!

Is there no way you two could kiss and make up?

Good luck!

Answer 5

Now here you over reacted.He called you a chocolate bunny? So what you should have said:"that means that i'm too sweet for you to taste me right?" Remeber you catch more flyes with honey(or chocholate) than with vinnegar.He like's you even if he's white and you are not.If you trully like eachother those words shouldn't offend you. I call my wife somethimes a raspberry or snowball.So? She pays me back withe the same type of coins.

Answer 6

He would have never said it if he was the only white guy there and all your friends were black. On the other hand, I don't think he meant it to be racist, he's just naive. P.S. Being 20 and 19 doesn't demonstrate your/his mature- either does this story.

Answer 7

Shallowness and Judgemental people are going to be part of your daily routine as long as you are in a Bi-racial relationship...
It looks like your bf was backing you up when he acknowledged
that you are "his chocolate bunny" instead of getting mad you should have responded in the affirmitive such as " yeah and you are my Vanilla cream pie" or some BS like that... and gave him a hug and it would have let the wind out of Mr. Smart*ss's Sails.
Be proud of who you are and let it show.. save the anger for needed situations..

Answer 8

Sweetie your hanging with ones that might feel comfortable in giving you a simple friendly gesture,, am not sure anything was meant .. I would say if you can't handle the different type of friendship then maybe you need to rethink why are you it.. It appears you having the discomfort not them.

Answer 9

Maybe it's just a pet name he has for you. Maybe you should have asked him why does he call you chocolate bunny before you got all up in his face. And in case your wonder wheather I am black or white I am a educated black woman.

Answer 10

you frequently have a appropriate on your thoughts, no rely if different human beings consider them or no longer. If some thing makes you sense undesirable, then confident, it rather is okay to sense that way. If somebody makes a assertion approximately you which you sense is offensive, then it rather is okay to get mad. it rather is greater advantageous which you enable him understand the style you felt with regard to the remark whilst it got here approximately, rather than harboring resentment and exploding later. i think of a mistake black human beings frequently make in all white situations is allowing white human beings to make comments approximately them that are irrelevant and each now and then offensive. in case you initiate by ability of allowing human beings to remark on your race in doubtless probability unfastened techniques, they might get too gentle and make an increasing style of offensive comments. As you are able to think of this might culminate with somebody dropping the 'N' bomb, because of the fact they think of you're 'cool', and all of us understand that may not end properly. whilst a White person (or anybody for thhat rely) makes a racially insensitive remark like this, they gained't understand you're offended till you factor it out to them. this does not purely prepare to Black human beings, this is going for women and anybody else. you are able to set standards for your self and the style you will enable human beings to deal with you. that's the only way you will acquire the honour which you deserve. I doubt that those adult males meant to offend you with the chocolate bunny commentary, nonetheless, you extremely had a appropriate to be offended. the only undertaking i think of you are able to desire to have carried out otherwise became rather of "getting all up in his face", you are able to desire to have defined why you have been offended, and asked him to no longer examine with you by ability of that call back.