Do some (all) lesbian parents of children try to coach their children into being gay, even if your children have made up their minds on being straight? What is your reaction to straight children in your family?
2006-10-13 12:20:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
This whole question of mine was out of shear curiosity, because I had a brother in law that was gay, and he was close to his nephew. But soon as the nephew grew up a bit and started to date, my brother inlaw took offense to this. I understand there is a diverse population, each individual will react differently from person to person.
2006-10-13 12:41:08 · update #1
Di, I believe there is no such thing as a stupid question when people have serious questions about an issue. Since I'm not part of the gay community there's a lot I don't know, and so in turn I will ask when I feed feel the need to ask.
2006-10-13 12:47:16 · update #2
NO - trying to control a child's sexual orientation is a specialty of some straight parents.
Queer parents have themselves experienced the pain of having to try to be something else than their heart tell s them, in order to please their families/friends /churches/society (or if not to please them, at least to be hassled less by them).
So queer parents are much less likely to try to control or influence their kids' sexual orientations (straight or otherwise) than straight parents are.
2006-10-13 12:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by ladyfraser04 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody "makes up their minds" as to what sexual preference they have.
Did you wake up one morning and say to yourself, "OK.....today I choose to be straight".???
NO....you didn't.
It was born into you. Already existed. You never made a choice, and you couldn't change to being gay now, could you?
NO...you can't. Because you're straight!
As far as trying to train a child to have a different sexual orientation (attraction, if you will), I have never heard of a treatment or a plan on how this is accomplished, nor have I ever heard of a gay parent making said attempt. (though some Christian folk claim they have the solution to change someone from gay to straight....big can of worms there)....
Your thought system on gays and lesbians is based on ignorance. I'm not bashing you.....it's just the truth. I don't mean to use the word "ignorant" in a bad way. You probably don't have anyone in your life that is gay, so you don't have first-hand knowledge. Good that you pose your question here.
Have you ever known a 'child' to actually sit and think about what sexual orientation they're going to be when they grow up?
2006-10-14 09:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by Jake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Gay Father of a Gay son and did nothing to make him that way did not even get to see him till he was 14yo when he came out to his Mother and she disowned him. Both my Parents are straight and they did every thing they could to change me. All the other Gay parents I know fill like I do your kids are your kids in this day and time they do not need you trying to make them gay or straight all that is going to do is screw them up even more than Society is. So let them be as long as they are HAPPY that is all that should matter. Besides why would I wish the BIGOTRY I lived with going up on anyone mostly my own kid?
2006-10-13 20:05:56 · answer #3 · answered by Eddie W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Brother N Law has some serious issues, it's hard for me to believe you. You can't make a child Gay, it's mostly Genetics. I know a lot of Gay Parents that have str8 children and they would never try to convert them to being Gay. Actually they are kind of happy because there children won't have to go through the hatred that they had to go through.
2006-10-13 19:49:37 · answer #4 · answered by IM THE GAY GOD ALL FEAR ME 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is far more prevalent to find straight parents committing atrocities in the name of "cureing" their homosexual offspring. (everything from shock treatment to institutionalizing them) While it is probably is possible to find some gay parents who attempt indoctrination into their specific lifestyle, it is extremely unlikely, and is more likely due to mental illness than to their sexuality.
What I suspect is more likely in the senario you have presented... the nephew probably started getting flack from peers over being close to his gay uncle, and therefore started making homophobic remarks to his uncle to distance himself from being thought of a gay. He may even be dating in order to fit in with a homophobic crowd.
If you have a decent relationship to this child you might want to ask some questions about the possible reasons for the uncle changing how he acts .. the kid probably knows full well what went down between them. If you do not have a good relationship with the child, then I suspect you will get a load of crap about the uncle "coming on" to him.. or some other nonsense. (while it does happen, this too is far more prevalent in the straight community than in the gay one.) Either way, I would want to know if it was my kid.. and I would also want to know that my kid was hanging with bigots so that I could discuss the problems with spreading of hostilities towards any given segment of the population.
2006-10-13 21:25:49 · answer #5 · answered by Silvatungfox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. Gay/lesbian parents want their children to be happy, whatever that may mean. If it means they are heterosexual, fine, and if that child happens to be gay, that's fine too.
I've yet to hear of ONE SINGLE CASE where gay/Lesbian parents attempted to change a child's orientation in the manner you suggest.
The whole story/suggestion smells strangely like propaganda put out by such hate organizations as the AFA.
2006-10-13 19:25:33 · answer #6 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
uh, you can't "coach" anyone into being gay, any more than you can "coach" them into being straight. everyone is born predisposed to one sexuality or another. you can't make someone "turn" either way. I just don't understand why some straight people think gay/lesbian parents will raise their kids to "be gay." my parents were straight....and I'm not! the majority of us have straight parents. they didn't raise us to "be gay" either. it's genetic.
2006-10-13 23:18:09 · answer #7 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what we have here is that you saw one person do something so you made a generalization that every gay person is like that. Well, not true. You can't force sexuality onto anyone, they are born the way they are.
2006-10-13 22:19:23 · answer #8 · answered by JR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would we want to do that? Your born gay, you don't just become gay. If a person says they used to be gay well then their lieing, they were just curious. We want our kids to be happy gay or straight, it's their choice not ours....I think your brother in law is sick.
2006-10-13 19:41:48 · answer #9 · answered by Lipstick 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't coach someone into being gay or lesbian. They are born who they are. They are wonderful parents too!
2006-10-13 19:36:45 · answer #10 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋