I'm 23, financially stable, and I'm considering proposing to my girlfriend who's almost 23. We've been together 3 years and i'm crazy about her. Couldnt imagine ever being with any1 else ever and she's pregnant with my baby...i know it sounds as though i've just answered my own question but the thought of being married scares the sh*t outta me!! lol... i wanna be with her forever but im confused...help!
2006-10-13 12:11:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ask yourself why marriage scares you, once you figure that out, you'll have the answer to this question.
2006-10-13 12:25:06 · answer #1 · answered by kameka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two are crazy about eachother , like you've stated , Then I think you should get married . Marriage is a big step though .....It can offer stability , because you have then the right to question the others where a bouts ...... etc ........Wether you are ready or not , you've already connected with her through the baby , for life ! I wonder thought , why does marriage scare you so much? It can be great , but can also be horriable ., if you haven't chosen the right mate for you . Take a moment and thing about the pros and cons about the marriage , I'm sure you'll make the right decision .
2006-10-13 12:20:40 · answer #2 · answered by jacks_girl618 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to have doubts about marriage...and it's a huge commitment.. I've heard a few times that getting married young isn't a great idea because people change and grow apart... You can't imagine being with anyone else because you've been with her for 3 years so you don't know any different... If there is no doubt in your mind she's the one then propose to her.. Wait till after she has the baby and propose ..tell her that was her "push" present...lol
2006-10-13 13:02:08 · answer #3 · answered by xcura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say, if you are sure that you are finished seeing other women,
I mean for ever, and you are sure she will be finished with other men, forever.
Then you have to decide, how you will react if she says no? Marriage is never a sure thing, but I feel, you should plan to be with this person for the rest of your life. If this doesn't feel the same to you or her, then that person is not ready. If both of you have had relationships or dated many other people, then you will know when the time is right. On the other hand, if you have not dated
very many others, then its hard to say, that she is the only one for you. Just
trust your own instincts, and hope for the best. Good luck.
2006-10-13 12:46:57 · answer #4 · answered by earlene w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats definatly a very scary sitaution you are in. Ive been in a similar situation myself. I would say not to get married unless you are sure, because goiing through a divorce a few years down the road will be dificult. It might be a good idea to just think about the major changes that will come with having a baby, and about the huge responsibility it is. Also think about all the ups and downs that come with marriage and think about commiting for a lifetime. Then if you feel sure, propose.
2006-10-13 12:20:46 · answer #5 · answered by faiths13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you are ready, go for it. Why does the thought of marriage scare you? Is it just settling down with one woman, the commitment, the financial responsibilities, not knowing if you will be a good husband and/or father? Go through all these step by step and don't be scared to talk to her about them. Make sure she is of good character, and that she'll be your best friend. That is what lasts in the end!
2006-10-13 23:51:33 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. Tomorrow is not promised we lose love ones daily and we wish we had more time. Take the old running shoes off and replace them with NEW priceless ones, go ahead enjoy learning ,building and writing new memories that's what life is all about looking back smiling, remembering where you started.
A life diary written in love is priceless. Written by two people that is writing the same love story.
Start your New Book. My old shoes are gone. My New shoes has started the walk in the journey of a life time.
Best wishes
2006-10-13 12:27:26 · answer #7 · answered by M M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already made it though some tough spots with the pregnancy. Did either one of you give up then? You are still together, so how could marriage break you apart? Go for it! Be happy and have a long wonderful life together.
2006-10-13 12:15:18 · answer #8 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are scared or uncertain, even a little, you should not do it. You will hate yourself for doing something that were not 100% certain about. Perhaps you will feel more sure at another time. Right now, don't even think about it.
2006-10-13 12:15:21 · answer #9 · answered by Travbot the Observer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing scary in being married... Having a child is a WAY bigger responsibility than marriage. GO FOR IT dude! :) Good luck.
2006-10-13 12:28:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋