I believe in eye-contact.I looked into his eyes and I thought I see love.I love him.He's my first man.Now he says he has family.Now.After ten months.Now that I'm pregnant.How stupid am I?I'm on my own.I'm 16,**** it.
2006-10-13 11:34:49 · 33 answers · asked by Jazz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We told you, we told you, we told you...... that the kind of person who molests and rapes a child (and yes you are still a child) is a scumbag. If he was capable of that, what makes you think he would have honor in anything else at all.
2006-10-16 01:52:29 · answer #1 · answered by DiamondDave 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel he should have been honest with you in the first place. He should hadn't had sex with you and got you p.g. But if you decided to keep the baby I would make him pay for all the expense. Now also I would tell his wife what happen and let her know what kind of a man he is to go after a 16 year old. In some states he can be arrested for having sex with you and also now that you are pregnat. So I wish you all the best . But if you don't want the baby please don't have an abortion and just give the baby up for adoption there would be someone who could h elp take care of the child. but good luck.
2006-10-13 11:41:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie, I feel for you so bad! And beleive me I DO know how you feel. This to happened to me...when I was a teen. I was 16. And my boyfriend was 19 and I didn't know he was married; but he only had one child. (But I didn't know this!). And he was a preachers son at this! When I told him I was pregnant he left me hanging..and I was lost and alone. My mother died when I was little and I have no sisters. It was a dark time in my life. I was fixing to go into my senior year..."I'm thinking of all the times, now?" I had to tell my dad, who else could I go to? He was more supportive than I thought he would be. He was mad at Ronnie, and we went for child support and he ended up paying for 18 years. I now have a beatiful 23 year old daughter named Sarah. She means the world to me. He father doesn't have much to do with her because of his "wife"..so, it may not be a bed of roses. But please do keep the baby even if it means giving him/her up for adoption. Because it is a human being and they DO FEEL PAIN at a very early stage of life, I know. I am a RN (Nurse) and the nervous systom develops at about 8 weeks or so. And a abortion they cut the baby up in peices and suck it out and it also put you at risk for bleeding and infection and can make you at risk for miscarry's later on when you do want a baby. So, please keep the baby. It's not it's fault. ok? I'm not saying all will be well, but when time passes by; and you look back, you are going to say, that's my child and I am so glad I have him or her. ANd be proud!!
And take him to court fot statorty rape and child support. You can get help with you medical bills as well. Don't worry about bills ok?
2006-10-13 11:51:24 · answer #3 · answered by sdrose17 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have just read all of your postings regarding your pregnancy. If I read correctly you are 16, living with your Mum and Step Dad. Your boyfriend is 24, an illegal immigrant, with a wife and two children in his home country. He wants to take you back to where ever his home country is as you both love each other, however your Mum will not let you go, so you are considering contacting your biological father to see if he will consent to you leaving.
Wow what a predicament.
To be honest I think that this is not the end of your world, you just need to take stock and understand what options are available to you and what suits your needs the best.
Despite your feelings to your Mum I really think that you should talk this through with her, she is your mum and 99% of mum's only want the best for their daughters.
If this is not a viable option you need to find a counsellor or someone other than your boyfriend to discuss this with.
As for this guy, he is an illegal immigrant who has committed statutory rape.
You need to think really long and hard about this one - remove the lust an emotion from the equation and ask yourself the question, do you really want to be with a man like that, and do you want him to be te father of your child??
Find some one to talk to so you are not going through this alone.
2006-10-13 11:41:49 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet pea 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well that's a healthy attitude!!! You need to stop thinking about yourself and think about the life you have growing inside you. I am sure that you thought you were " in Love" but what really matters now is that you are responsible for another life. You dont have to be on your own, find a support group and find out what kind of help is available.
2006-10-13 11:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he should not have lied about his family for so long! But then i have to wonder, how old is this guy?? If he's not that much older than u (i.e. up to mid 20's) and u really had no idea about his family then it is completely his fault!! he should have been way more careful with contraception and he should take responsibility for his actions now! make sure he's there for u and you're baby. even if that just means paying child support. u should be more careful in choosing partners in future and try to stick to guys ur own age..less baggage!! and make sure u dont take ur anger for him out on ur baby! good luck! i really hope everything works out!!
2006-10-13 11:40:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are not the first one to make this kind of mistake.although this is of little comfort right now you will have a beautiful little baby to think about and raise when you look into those beautiful little eyes it will not been for naught.love your baby with all your might..file for child support file on him now you are under age.hang him high.but all is not that bad you will be a good mommie and some nice man will find you and realise what a good woman and wonderful little one he has good luck sweetheart
2006-10-13 11:46:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know all you people who are saying she is stupid are wrong...It is so easy to say that but just wait until your young a s s es fall in love...The point is we all make mistakes.That is part of life..The trick is learning from them...For what I see you have...Now you need to make some decisions on what you are going to do...First you have to decide if you are going to have an abortion or have it...Plus it you are going to hold him accountable for his actions.If he is over 18 then you need to think really hard about if you should .If you ever want to talk you can email me ...Good luck
2006-10-13 11:46:02 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Not stupid, just young and vulnerable and he definitely took advantage of you. As much as you probably never want to see him again, you need to report him, or have him contacted. Especially if you are deciding to keep your baby. He can't get away with this!
2006-10-13 11:37:43 · answer #9 · answered by Heavensent 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
MY MY MY where are your parents?.Girl you need a family and friends to give you good direction in life.You have made some not so good choices.But there is a way out you just have to ask
2006-10-13 11:38:08 · answer #10 · answered by xlhdrider 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋